As a professional dildo & vibrator reviewer, I own over $64,500 worth of sex toys! So which are my *favorite* sex toys: the ones I use for fun masturbation, vs. obligatory work masturbation? All my sex toy reviews focus on the feeling I get from each product: the little details that make an experience either sensual…or disappointing.

These are the ones, the body-safe sex toys that work best with my anatomy. My enthusiasm for them knows no bounds!!! (So you can bet I’ll be using a lot of exclamation points in this post! 😊)

Every human being has slightly different preferences. *Never* believe posts titled “The Best Sex Toys Every Woman Should Own!”—that’s pure click-bait. (Nothing works for *every* person with a clit & vagina; we’re not monochrome.) Here in my favorite sex toy post, I explain exactly why I think each toy is awesome, giving a quick dildo review or vibrator review for each sex toy. In contrast, my list of the best sex toys by category is based on diverse opinions, and describes how different toy types stimulate differently.

My Favorite Sex Toys

Silicone Dildos

As a phallophile, silicone dildos are my bread & butter, my favorite sex toys overall. I focus on silicone because it’s the only body-safe material that can feel soft, more like skin. Dual-density dildos are especially realistic, so many of my faves (especially for vaginal play) are two layers of silicone! Also see my anal dildo faves here. Hooray for all this dildo testing!

Best realistic dildo: Solina Mega dual-density (shop 3 sizes here): Dildo dreams come true!!! Solina is the best realistic finish + dual-density balance I’ve ever felt after testing hundreds of realistic toys. Its dual-density platinum-cured silicone is just soft enough outside to feel fleshy but not flaccid, with a nice firm core. Awesome skin texture, and the popping ridge for G-spot stimulation as it moves inside!!! Full Solina Mega realistic dildo review here compares the 3 sizes.

Smoothest tapered feel (less G-spotting): BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density Dildo (shop here): I knew the BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density was a winner the first time I touched it. The balance of soft outside (like skin!) and firm core is quite lifelike. The Naked Addiction Dual’s head is tapered, so it’s easy to insert if you aren’t a large-head enthusiast. Like Solina, it’s marvelously less sticky (than many dual-layer dildos like VixSkin) & not draggy. At $60, its quality surpasses many dual dildos twice its price. Only downside? The G-spot pressure isn’t great. Full review here.

Best wearable dildo: SquarePegToys G squeeze (shop here): This toy is an adventure, because it’s not a “normal” dildo: it’s a wearable one. Squishy, comfortable G-spot stimulation, but also deeper stimulation (posterior fornix) and just a full feeling at the vaginal opening (where so many nerve endings are located). I would definitely recommend this toy (1) to feel full during clitoral stimulation (like while using my fave Zen Rose vibe), and (2) for humping, essentially; I like the movement most while bike-riding. G squeeze comes in 8 different sizes now! Read what I do with each size in the full review.

Most serious impact: Njoy Disco crazy texture dildo (shop Disco here): Seriously a trip, the Disco’s dual sides have heft. They press, with the weight of 316 medical grade stainless steel. This dildo’s for days when I require the most oooomph. Twist gently (left-to-right) plus thrust half-an-inch in and out: Literally nothing else on the dildo market feels like the Njoy Disco’s hard + super-slick body. Comparison of Disco dildo for vaginal vs. anal here.

My best fantasy dildo: Uberrime’s Night King in soft silicone! I come back to the Night King’s phallic ridge and intense wavy lines many a time when I want more texture, more unique pressure points, during days I’m (PMSing) craving more than the feel of humanoid skin! It’s like a wild alien toy, the lines rising and swerving. I’d go for the “soft shore” 00-50 silicone for some gentleness—and you can choose from 42 different color options of cosmetic grade & safe shimmer pigments mixed into the platinum silicone dildo: choices!

Vibrators & Pulsators

See my description of vibrators by category here: stimulation preferences matter!

Best G-spot & rumbly clit vibe!: BMS Pillow Talk Sassy (shop here): I’m basically an evangelist for the Pillow Talk Sassy, which is 100% my favorite G-spot vibrator — and all altogether, my most-used vibrator ever (have owned 3 over the course of 6 years!). The perfectly curved head, the slightly flexible shaft, the silky silicone…and oh yeah, the rumbly vibrating power. And fully adjustable strength!!! Plus it’s pretty quiet. Now in teal or lilac. Full Sassy review here. TIP: For maximum power ×2, pair with the We-Vibe Melt!

Best clit suction 2024: #1. Zen Rose vibrator (shop here): The best air pulse “suction” vibe for my body—I like it more than even the best Womanizer, because it puff-pulse-sucks plus ruuuumbles with deep vibration in tandem. Full Zen Rose toy review here. I LOVE pairing this toy with a good dildo, it’s so much easier to fit than other air pulsation clit toys except We-Vibe Melt. #2. OR, for most speed range!, the We-Vibe Melt is the most-loved clit stimulator, my former favorite, and its handle makes it easier to grip & position during sex with another person. #3. OR, for cutest “quite good power” vibrator I’ve ever owned ($39.99), the yellow Unihorn does 3 things very effectively while looking cute AF!

Most realistic oral sex toy: For true inward sucking + licking👅, you need a pussy-pump-like cup! The Enhance Vulva Pump is just killer, feels more like cunnilingus vs. the sharp buzzy vibration of other pump+vibrating tongue clitoral stimulators. Full Enhance Vulva Pump review here. Best course of action 🟢 is the Oral Clitoral Bundle: start with the Enhance Pump, but then have the hardest multiple orgasms after via the Zen Rose.

Best dual-stimulation (clit + vag vibes): #1. The St Tropez by BMS because OMG it’s like the Pillow Talk Sassy but with a clit arm that fits me!!!! St-Tropez’s G-spot probe quakes, and I can finely increase the vibration strength (full incremental speed control!). ⚡⚡Fantastic power, reasonable price, too. St Tropez fits me perfectly, as someone who doesn’t have a long clitoris-to-vagina distance. #2. But, a modern classic is We-Vibe’s Nova 2 — which I recommend the most to everybody because its clitoral arm currrrrls. WeVibe Nova is more likely to fit the most different human bodies, since clit-to-vagina distance varies by person—and both the Nova’s shaft is “posable” (bending forward or back) and its clit stimulator flexes as you thrust Nova 2’s shaft via the handle. Full Nova 2 review here.

Best vibrator to rub off on, softly: Aaaah the squish!!! From a big, wide head! As a fan of magic-wand-wide vibration and softness, the Maia Shroomie is my best vibrator ever for holding as I have my sex machine pound me. Shroomie’s just so gentle to the touch, with moderately strong vibration power. So it feels fantastic at any speed, and fun to rub off fast against my clit too. This is for folks who are over-sensitized by pinpoint stimulation: it is a broad vibrator, with soft cap (2.2″ diameter).

Overall best wand vibrator: I appreciate the Viben Sultry because it’s got more rumbly lower speeds than the Magic Wand, but is much easier to hold vs. other long full-sized wand massagers. The slim handle makes all the difference, if you’re going to be using a wand vibrator for more than 10 minutes. And I can take Sultry in the shower — an act which would kill a Magic Wand! Full Sultry wand review here.

Favorite BIG power, small-size vibe: PalmPower Recharge: My favorite in-sex power-vibe because it’s so much easier to hold than the Magic Wand, and has more intensity levels!!! (100% adjustable control for the Sultry, vs. 4 steady functions for Magic Wand Rechargeable.) When I got my 1st Magic Wand, I immediately became a wand vibrator convert. Then, I segued into cordless Magic Wand Rechargeable play. (My most toy-savvy ex proclaimed the corded wands “restricting,” and I agree with him about cords during partner play.) Palmpower wand is not as strong as a Magic Wand, but WOW it is strong enough for me: super-fast orgasms on its top strength, and I love the lower vibration range, which Magic Wands don’t have. A Full PalmPower review here.

Best mini-vibrator: The Swan Maximum Bullet is now my favorite small vibe [2024], because fully adjustable vibration control and the stretchy finger-sleeve melds it to my first 2 fingers—it’s a no-brainer to hold it, left-handed, easily against my clit so my dominant hand can focus on the important work of thrusting the Pillow Talk Sassy or a dildo into myself. Full review here.

Butt Toys

I’m alotta vagina, but sometimes I like it in my ass too… My favorite sex toys for anal are quite beginner-friendly, but many come in bigger sizes too. Also included: my partner’s input on prostate massagers!!!

Njoy Pure Plugs (shop here): Stainless steel butt plug perfection. The Pure Plug’s curved shape fits so well, and I was shocked at how comfortable the loop base is. I had no idea I’d enjoy having the Pure Plug’s weight in my butt, but then I started wearing mine out and about…and it both felt good in my ass and satisfied the exhibitionist in me. It’s just soooo hot to wear outside the house. If you want a good steel plug, the Pure Plugs (available in 3 sizes, plus the larger Pure Plug 2.0) are the one true way. Full review here.

SquarePegToys Egg Plug (shop here): Egg Plugs are über-squishy silicone: delightful to clench around. These soft, comfy toys are available in 9 sizes, for safe stretching at comfortable intervals. If you are a beginner: Egg Plugs are a little difficult to insert because of the softness—be warmed up first!—but once they’re in, they fit like a dream: just use a beginner plug bundle first over the course of 2–3 weeks, and you’ll be ready for the Egg Plug. Full review here.

Aneros Psy massager (shop here): This adjustable Aneros Psy and its precise pointed probe is my boyfriend’s new prostate favorite! Learning to Aneros takes some practice, but once you get it, it’s mind-melting (like G-spot O’s are for me!) His findings explained, here, on Aneros Helix vs. Psy.

b-Vibe Snug Plugs (shop here): The torpedo-shaped Snug Plugs hold weight inside! The weights kinda jiggle a little, and I like how phallic the oblong body is. Wearing these while exercising (would recommend mowing the lawn with them in!) is fun. The body is hard, but I think the thin neck is very comfortable for wearing for a few hours because lets my sphincters close up around the plug—I don’t feel so stretched. They’re gentle that way. Full review here.

My favorite anal dildos, quick list (smallest to largest):

• Blush Neo Elite 6 small dildo or Avant D15 pastel dildo because the silicone is silky but not so soft, so ‘the tapered tip is easy to insert when I’m getting warmed up for more realistic (and bigger) things. Also has a great suction cup.
• Blush Neo Elite 7.5 Inch: Dual-density with a longer length for its girth, so it’s easier to ride. This toy has a very slick feel, which is nice. The suction cup is pretty good.
• Wyatt SuperSoft by SquarePegToys! Super soft is super comfortable for anal, fabulous.

Anal thrusting machine: You need a good sex machine if you love anal dildos. A real f*ck machine, with a sturdy body (to hold the toy’s weight and not recoil during penetration) and decent stroke length. Hismith Premium machines are not cheap, but they are cheaper than competitor sex machines. They’re an investment, if you’re dedicated to the thrust!

My Favorite Sex Aids

No favorite sex toys list would be complete without an ode to lube. Plus a dildo mount! I do review a lot of sex toys for women, so if you’re looking for a penis ring / vibrating cock ring, or prostate massager, then see those detailed favorites lists by my colleague All Male Sex Toys.

Lubes & More

LUBE—It’s so important. Necessary for anal play, it also makes vaginal sex, jerking off, and clitoral play (especially with toys) so much more comfortable. These are the safest lubricant options, because almost all water-based lubes contain preservatives and thickeners so they aren’t iso-tonic (balanced for vaginal and anal use). Detailed guide with pH & osmolality ratings here.

• Find Sliquid H2O (safest water-based lube in most toy shops) here: for vag & clit toys!
• Find Sliquid Silk hybrid here: Cuts down on drag with high-texture silicone toys, still easy to clean off! Great as a “cum lube” too. Hybrid lubes are nondamaging to silicone toys.
• Find Uberlube (silicone lube) here: Great with real dick and/or condoms. Only 3 ingredients, no preservatives, a small amount goes a long way. (Would use this lube for everything if silicone lube wasn’t problematic with silicone sex toys; Uberlube is soooo slick.)
• Oil-based lubes make for easier anal & slicker jerking-off: Go with Coconu oil-based for something solid; or buy virgin coconut oil if you don’t mind using a clean spoon to scoop its drippy liquid (at room temp.) onto your toys—coco. oil does require more cleanup, wash thoroughly afterward!

For safety, water-based lubes should not have any of the following in their first one to three ingredients: glycerin, propylene glycol, and/or propanediol. Those ingredients in higher concentrations create hyperosmolality, causing your tissues to push out more water than is natural, breaking down protective cell wall barriers (which should fight against pathogenic bacteria, viruses, and fungus)—both vaginally and anally. Also avoid any ingredient with “paraben” in its name, and steer clear of nonoxynol-9 for sure. Water-based lubricants must include preservatives and thickeners, so choosing safer options is important: Plus, water-based lubricants also can’t harm silicone toys like silicone lube may do in some cases.)

For clit & vaginal play: pH balance is so important for vaginal health, as it wards off bacterial infections (BV) and more. Avoid any lubricant that doesn’t give a specific pH measurement: healthy range (when not menstruating) is between 3.8 and 4.5 pH.

I also recommend for sex with a penis-having partner, or any kinda sex without silicone toys: The silicone lube Uberlube (only 3 silicone-based ingredients + vitamin E smooths; no preservatives needed, 5-year shelf life). Silicone lubes are neutral, and don’t have the osmolality-related safety issues that water-based and hybrids do if they contain those problem ingredients like glycerin, parabens, etc. Though I wouldn’t recommend silicone lube universally with silicone toys; some manufacturers of 100% platinum silicone dildos — i.e., SquarePegToys and Mr. Hankey’s Toys — do endorse silicone lubricant with their toys. In my experience, the silicone lube takes more work to scrub off SquarePeg’s soft silicone (which is annoying), but doesn’t damage the surface.

Second order of importance: A waterproof blanket. Simplifies cleanup 10/10. Right now I’m alternating between “waterproof pet blanket”s off Amazon as an essential, as they keep my sheets clean generally plus are incredibly necessary for period sex.

Last, a dildo mount: Liberator Wing Sex Toy Mount (shop here): With so many dildos, I sometimes get bored of jerking it by hand, so the Liberator Wing is a happy change of pace. This sex toy mount (compared here) is the most comfortable way to simulate cowgirl-style riding because of its soft cover and dense foam. I’ve had mine for a year and a half, and it hasn’t compressed one bit! I recommend the Wing with the Solina Dildo, any size, together for realistic.

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