My Favorite Sex Toys!!!

My favorite sex toys

As a professional dildo & vibrator reviewer, I own almost $40,000 worth of sex toys! So which are my *favorite* sex toys: the ones I use for fun masturbation, vs. obligatory work masturbation? All my sex toy reviews focus on the feeling I get from each product: the little details that make an experience either sensual…or disappointing.

These are the ones, the body-safe sex toys that work best with my anatomy. My enthusiasm for them knows no bounds!!! (So you can bet I’ll be using a lot of exclamation points in this post! 😊)

Every human being has slightly different preferences. *Never* believe posts titled “The Best Sex Toys Every Woman Should Own!”—that’s pure click-bait. (Nothing works for *every* person with a clit & vagina; we’re not monochrome.) Here in my favorite sex toy post, I explain exactly why I think each toy is awesome, giving a quick dildo review or vibrator review for each sex toy. In contrast, my list of the best sex toys by category is based on diverse opinions, and describes how different toy types stimulate differently.

My Favorite Sex Toys

Silicone Dildos

As a phallophile, silicone dildos are my bread & butter, my favorite sex toys overall. I focus on silicone because it’s the only body-safe material that can feel soft, more like skin. Dual-density dildos are especially realistic, so many of my faves (especially for vaginal play) are two layers of silicone! Also see my anal dildo faves here. Hooray for all this dildo testing!


Best affordable skin feel: BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density Dildo (shop here): I knew the BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density was a winner the first time I touched it. The balance of soft outside (like skin!) and firm core is quite lifelike (see review for an in-motion video), and—marvelously!—the finish isn’t uber-sticky like so many other duals. The Naked Addiction Dual’s head is tapered, so it’s easy to insert if you aren’t a large-head enthusiast. At $60, its quality is as good (or better!) than many duals twice its price. Only downside? The G-spot pressure isn’t great. Full review here.

Best cheaper pick: Blush Neo Elite 7.5 Inch Dildo (shop Neo Elite here): The Neo Elite 7.5 Inch is IMO the most realistic of this affordable two-layer Neo Elite lineup—and it tapers from a small head to an average-girth shaft. (Which is why I like it for easier anal, see below!) Comparison of all 4 Neo Elite shapes here. I also really like it for deeper vaginal penetration along with a clit vibe!

Best wearable dildo: SquarePegToys G squeeze (shop here): This toy is an adventure, because it’s not a “normal” dildo: it’s a wearable one. Squishy, comfortable G-spot stimulation, but also deeper stimulation (posterior fornix) and just a full feeling at the vaginal opening (where so many nerve endings are located). I would definitely recommend this toy (1) to feel full during clitoral stimulation (like while using my We-Vibe Melt), and (2) for humping, essentially; I like the movement most while bike-riding. G squeeze comes in 4 different sizes! Read what I do with each size in the full review.

👉🏽 See also: Like the most G-spot pressure? Check out the Njoy Pure Wand, a toy whose impact gets rave reviews. It’s been known to (1) help folks find their G-spot and (2) cause squirting orgasms.

Best 100% SOFT realistic dildo: SquarePegToys Leo or Dirk (shop here): SquarePegToys’ Leo version 2 is the best long dildo I’ve ever owned, by far. Fabulous for “deep spot” stimulation (posterior fornix or deep anal), and the Harness version in small–1X sizes includes a FlushCup suction cup. Back up into that door or shower wall, Leo’s so “meaty” that it’s hard to tell apart from a real dick (during rear entry). OR, if you love shorter, thick toys, then you may share my huge enthusiam for Dirk 1X. It’s so fat & filling in the best way. And I generally recommend Nathan Actual, Firmer as a great first vaginal dildo (paired with a good clit toy like PT Racy). SquarePegToys was the first maker of 100% soft body-safe dildos. Huge respect for this company. Full Nathan review here compares all SquarePeg’s SuperSoft silicone realistics.

My best G-spot dildo: Pleasure Tailor Triarx has the best G-spot curve & ridge, a balanced realistic firmness in triple-density platinum silicone. And the vein texture is designed to be really stimulating to rub against (clitorally). It’s more G-spot pressure, really targeting the spot. The built-in suction cup is strong as well, and overall the Triarx is so lightweight and easy to jerk compared to the $500 RealCock2 dildos. (Triarx also fits better in a standard harness.) The Triarx’s appearance isn’t as realistic as a RealCock2, for sure; and the skin texture is more stylized. But I’m still coming very hard on the Triarx dildo, while my wrists are thanking me!

And last, if you’re wanting a less-realistic toy / don’t like big veins, but you still want prostate or G-spot play, then the Peg’Em dildo was made for prostate massage, with its ripples on repeat! It’s also 3 layers of silicone: a “skin” kinda layer, over a squishy center, and then a firmer core for curve support.

Vibrators & Pulsators

See my description of vibrators by category here: stimulation preferences matter!

✅ OMG: The Melt ‘n’ Sassy bundle is my top 2 powered sex toys if I had to go all desert-island and choose! I use Melt + Pillow Talk Sassy all the time together (and apart) and it’s so, so much good stimulation. Being able to separate the toys and use each alone (or during sex with a partner), or to combine each with other toys you own, makes the pair more versatile than a combined dual-stim toy—the downside being that you may need to use two hands sometimes when you’re employing both Sassy and Melt together.

Best clit suction: We-Vibe Melt (shop here): The best air pulsation toy for my body—I like it more than even the best Womanizer, and a helluva lot more than any Satisfyer (especially pre-Curvy 3+). That’s because Melt’s flexible silicone mouth fits best around my clit and even feels a bit suck-y on the middle settings. Full Melt review here. I LOVE pairing this toy with a good dildo, it’s so much easier to fit than other air pulsation clit toys. Now in navy blue or coral pink.

Best G-spot & rumbly clit vibe!: BMS Pillow Talk Sassy (shop here): I’m basically an evangelist for the Pillow Talk Sassy, which is 100% my favorite G-spot vibrator. (See my full ranking of kick-ass G-spot vibes here.) The perfectly curved head, the slightly flexible shaft, the silky silicone…and oh yeah, the rumbly vibrating power. And fully adjustable strength!!! Plus it’s pretty quiet. Now in teal or lilac. Full Sassy review here.

Best dual-stimulation (clit + vag vibes): We-Vibe’s Nova 2 is absolutely the best “rabbit” vibrator I recommend to everyone. Rabbits can be such a problem to get a good fit with, since clit-to-vagina distance varies by person. But Nova is a whole different ballgame. Its clit stimulator bends and flexes as I thrust Nova 2’s shaft, always rubbing my clit perfectly with rumbly vibration. Better than any self thrusting rabbit vibe, as I’m in control of the speed. Even better: new Nova is softer silicone than any We-Vibe product, ever. This is a beautiful vibrator; toys like Tracys Dog can’t even compete with the quality. Full Nova 2 review here.

Best big power vibe: Viben Sultry (shop here): My favorite power-vibe because it’s so much easier to hold than the Magic Wand, and has more intensity levels!!! (8 vibration strengths for the Sultry, vs. 4 for Magic Wand Rechargeable.) I’m a big, broad vibe-lover: When I got the Magic Wand Plus and immediately became a wand vibrator convert. Then, I segued into regular Magic Wand Rechargeable use, because no cord dangling during use! (My most toy-savvy ex proclaimed the corded wands “restricting,” and I agree with him about cords during partner play.) Enter the Viben Sultry, my new hero this year. Because it’s so much lighter: so, wand masturbation feels like more fun, and less work than maintaining the MW’s heavier, thicker cylindrical body upright. The Sultry is not as strong as a Magic Wand, but WOW it is strong enough for me: I’ll need to use it through shorts on the top speed, and I love the lower vibration functions, which the Magic Wands don’t have. A Full Sultry Review here, vs. Magic Wand here.

Best cheaper / beginner option: BMS Essential Bullet (shop here): Want an easy-to-use (or beginner’s) bullet that doesn’t suck? IMO, BMS Factory’s Essential Bullet is the one. It’s pretty rumbly, especially on the first couple speeds; it’s waterproof and rechargeable; it’s silky smooth; and it’s $21. I can even stick it in a huge soft silicone dildo and feel the vibes strongly! Full review here.

Best mini-vibrator: The Swan Maximum Bullet is now my favorite small vibe [2023], because fully adjustable vibration control and the stretchy finger-sleeve melds it to my first 2 fingers—it’s a no-brainer to hold it, left-handed, easily against my clit so my dominant hand can focus on the important work of thrusting the Pillow Talk Sassy or a dildo into myself. (Pictured above is the psychedelic Limited Addiction by Blush, still the strongest small vibrator I’ve ever felt; but the Max. Bullet is close in power, it’s rumblier, the buttons are easier to work, again the finger-sleeve, hoooray!!!) Full review here.

Best long-distance options: It’s a competitive field—guide here! My favorites:

  1. Satisfyer Curvy vibrators (Curvy 3+ pictured): Curvy 3+ is my new absolute favorite Satisfyer — like a budget We-Vibe Melt for me. My friend with benefits and I found the Satisfyer Connect app is better than We-Vibe’s—as long as you’re comfortable with video calls long-distance. More on the Satisfyer Connect app here.
  2. Lovense Lush 2 / 3 (shop Lovense): This pink-tail vibe is very strong for a wearable vibrator. I think it’s super-fun to wear around inside tight-fitting shorts, in a semi-public area. Lovense has the best app & strongest Bluetooth connectivity of any vibe-maker currently. Lush isn’t a solo-fun toy for me; I’d rather have a thrustable G-spot vibrator to direct the pressure better. But if you’re looking for a slightly kinky night out, check Lush out! Full review & app details here, including Lush 2 vs. 3 comparison. Lovense has the best long-distance app overall, for sure.

Hard-Core Thrusting!

OK, so I’ve needed a fuck machine for years. Lazy, easy, just lying back and getting screwed. I’ve had handheld thrusting dildos before: those are awesome because they’re easy to position. The Velvet Mini + Holster Bundle is, for example, hands-down the most realistic handheld thrusting dildo around. But the truth is, they all stall when you put a ton of force against them. If you angle them too hard into, say, your pelvic bone (right below the G-spot) or into the back of the rectum, a weaker fuck machine will stall and you’ll need to restart. It’s a balance, they have limits.

Just out of the box, and I was having too much fun w/ the Power Banger machine even before it banged me.

For looooong-lasting sex, the kind a human partner needs to be a beast to keep up, you gotta get a fuck machine. It’s mind-blowing—like, life-changing—if you do love getting screwed. I investigated a few popular options, and got a Doc Johnson Power Banger (pic above). Doc’s machine is sweet because:

  • Sturdy body is low to the ground (with has attachable feet) for more stability while you’re getting pounded. (Easy to use on a bed.)
  • Twist-dial speed control, lots of range.
  • Adjustable angle: so missionary, doggy, froggy, and lying-on-ur-side positions are all possible.
  • Vac-U-Lock attachment included so your dildo stays in place.
  • It’s surprisingly light & hides in my closet easily.
  • Almost 200 strokes per minute, with a realistic thrust length.

The machine does not include a dildo. I highly recommend it with two SquarePeg fleshy-realistic dildos (sold separately), because their “SquarePegHole” takes this machine’s Vac-style plug perfectly.1 Nathan SuperSoft is my boy, 2-inches thick with lots o’ texture & a lovely head ridge; and Leo SuperSoft is extra-flexible, super skin-lined, and great for all y’all who like it deeeeep. Of course the machine in general, and both toys, are good for anal play or as a vaginal toy, or even for getting dick-slapped externally. (Pretty fun on high speed!) I really enjoy how lightweight and no assembly required this fuck machine is, but for the harder anal play + dildo fucking, you’ll want to look into the weighty Premium sex machine by Hismith. More details in my sex machine guide! Oh lord, what a relief this machine is in stressful times. Sex machines + 100% silicone attachments are not cheap, but totally worth it for the realism factor. After all, 2020 has taught me: You gotta live now, because you truly never know what’ll happen next.

Butt Toys

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I’m alotta vagina, but sometimes I like it in my ass too… My favorite sex toys for anal are quite beginner-friendly, but many come in bigger sizes too: especially the Hankey’s Dildos!

SquarePegToys Egg Plug (shop here): Egg Plugs are über-squishy silicone: delightful to clench around. These soft, comfy toys are available in 6 sizes, so naturally I got the XS—but I might work my way up to the small soon! Egg Plugs are a little difficult to insert because of the softness—be warmed up first!—but once they’re in, they fit like a dream. Full review here.

Njoy Pure Plugs (shop here):Stainless steel butt plug perfection. The Pure Plug’s curved shape fits so well, and I was shocked at how comfortable the loop base is. I had no idea I’d enjoy having the Pure Plug’s weight in my butt, but then I started wearing mine out and about…and it both felt good in my ass and satisfied the exhibitionist in me. If you want a good steel plug, the Pure Plugs (available in 3 sizes, plus the larger Pure Plug 2.0) are the one true way. Full review here.

Oxballs Ergo squishy-soft plug (shop here): I’m having a really difficult time choosing between this one and the Egg Plugs, as they’re similar in many ways. I would go with this option if I had a prostate, because of the slightly curvy tip. The base is also a bit larger, to touch more nerve endings outside my hole.

b-Vibe Snug Plugs (shop here): The torpedo-shaped Snug Plugs hold weight inside! The weights kinda jiggle a little, and I like how phallic the oblong body is. Wearing these while exercising (would recommend mowing the lawn with them in!) is fun. The body is hard, but I think the thin neck is very comfortable for wearing for a few hours because lets my sphincters close up around the plug—I don’t feel so stretched. They’re gentle that way. Full review here.

My favorite anal dildos, quick list (smallest to largest):

  • Blush Avant P3 or Avant D15 because the silicone is silky but not so soft, so the tapered tip is easy to insert when I’m getting warmed up for more realistic (and bigger) things. Also has a great suction cup.
  • Blush Neo Elite 7.5 Inch: Dual-density with a longer length for its girth, so it’s easier to ride. This toy has a very slick feel, which is nice. The suction cup is pretty good.
  • Mr. Hankey’s Toys Anaconda (Xtra-Small version): My most comfortable fast-thrusting anal dildo yet! The ridge provides just a little texture, and the shaft is super-flexible so it bends with my rectum. All Hankey’s 75% Soft toys are worth checking out for anal thrusting.

Maia Max (and Monroe): Sometimes you just want a sleek anal thruster, without the prep required for getting ready for larger “butt balls.”That’s what the Maia Max (black) and Monroe (purple) are, plus of course they’re good as textureless vaginal toys too. With a remote control, an adjustable suction cup, vibrating functions, and a not-too-shabby motor, Maia Max is the best anal-friendly self-propelled toy I’m aware of, and the price is pretty damn low too. The only issue? It’s loud, unfortunately. Full review here.

My Favorite Sex Aids

No favorite sex toys list would be complete without an ode to lube. Plus a dildo mount! I do review a lot of sex toys for women, so if you’re looking for a penis ring / vibrating cock ring, or prostate massager, then see those detailed favorites lists by my colleague All Male Sex Toys.

Lubes & More

LUBE—It’s so important. Necessary for anal play, it also makes vaginal sex, jerking off, and clitoral play (especially with toys) so much more comfortable. These are the safest lubricant options, because almost all water-based lubes contain preservatives and thickeners so they aren’t iso-tonic (balanced for vaginal and anal use). Detailed guide with pH & osmolality ratings here.

For safety, water-based lubes should not have any of the following in their first one to three ingredients: glycerin, propylene glycol, and/or propanediol. Those ingredients in higher concentrations create hyperosmolality, causing your tissues to push out more water than is natural, breaking down protective cell wall barriers (which should fight against pathogenic bacteria, viruses, and fungus)—both vaginally and anally. Also avoid any ingredient with “paraben” in its name, and steer clear of nonoxynol-9 for sure. Water-based lubricants must include preservatives and thickeners, so choosing safer options is important: Plus, water-based lubricants also can’t harm silicone toys like silicone lube may do in some cases.)

For clit & vaginal play: pH balance is so important for vaginal health, as it wards off bacterial infections (BV) and more. Avoid any lubricant that doesn’t give a specific pH measurement: healthy range is between 3.8 and 4.5 pH, no higher.

I also recommend: The silicone lube Wicked Ultra (only 2 ingredients, pure silicone) for penis-in-vagina / penis-in-anus sex and with condoms (thumbs up). Silicone lubes are neutral, and don’t have the osmolality-related safety issues that water-based and hybrids do if they contain those problem ingredients like glycerin, parabens, etc. Though I wouldn’t recommend silicone lube universally with silicone toys; some manufacturers of 100% platinum silicone dildos — i.e., SquarePegToys and Mr. Hankey’s Toys — do endorse silicone lubricant with their toys. In my experience, the silicone lube simply takes more work to scrub off soft silicone, but doesn’t damage the surface.

Liberator Wing Sex Toy Mount (shop here): With so many dildos, I sometimes get bored of jerking it by hand, so the Liberator Wing is a happy change of pace. This sex toy mount (compared here) is the most comfortable way to simulate cowgirl-style riding because of its soft cover and dense foam. I’ve had mine for a year and a half, and it hasn’t compressed one bit! I recommend the Wing with the BMS Naked Addiction Dual together for realistic.

(On a side note, I also feel like I need the newer Liberator Pulse, because the rocking motion sounds fun as hell!)

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  1. Just lube the hole up before inserting the Vac attachment.