Body-Safe Sex Toys

Discovering body-safe sex toys has been the single best thing to happen to me in the last decade. But I didn’t always know about body-safe dildos! If you’re like me, when you bought your first sex toy, you were anxious and didn’t know what the flying fuck you were looking for. You just headed over to Amazon, read whatever reviews were there, and then based your purchase on those. Or maybe you trolled around Adam & Eve and finally worked up the nerve to buy that 2″-thick (PVC!) cock because it had such great reviews! Sadly, many people end up with toxic, unsafe sex toys because they buy without knowing anything about sex toy material safety.

I was there once; I’ve bought PVC and jelly dildos that smelled weird and leached god knows what into my system. Since then I’ve learned that quality sex toys and body-safe dildos are NOT just for users with “sensitive skin.” They’re for everyone who values their sexual well-being. And body-safe sex toys don’t have to be super-pricey either: every year they get more affordable, for every budget. 

Why Material Safety Matters

Sex toys are unregulated, so they can be either or both: (1) porous and (2) toxic. The first term means that microorganisms—bacteria, yeast, and fungi—can penetrate at a cellular level and begin to grow. Moisture, heat, and light will accelerate this process. “Toxic” toys are an even worse category: they’re porous plus they can leach potentially harmful chemicals. PVC/jelly is the worst material here.

Most big-brand sex toy manufacturers have no qualms about selling potentially harmful products—like PVC and and jelly dildos—to consumers. It’s big business! Likewise, on Amazon there’s very little oversight; products aren’t tested, and sellers can claim that a very, very cheap dildo (say, $8 for an average size) is “medical grade silicone.”1

Many porous toys are now labeled with buzzwords like “phthalate-free,” “hypoallergenic,” and even “body-safe” itself to keep up appearances. For example, Doc Johnson calls its Ultraskyn (UR3) “body-safe,” as NS Novelties does with its TPE toys, and Pipedream does with its Dillio dildos (made of PVC!), etc., etc. So what is Ultraskyn, btw? It’s Doc’s name for TPR/TPE, a porous material that may feel quite realistic but will allow bacteria to grow on itself.

Even if they don’t contain phthalates, porous sex toys can still cause problems for many. Antibacterial cleaners cannot fully clean these unsafe materials; they’ll never penetrate deep enough.

That’s why I only use, recommend, and review body-safe sex toys.

Side note: I see people finding my site by googling “homemade dildo.” Please, please, for your health & safety, do not try to create a homemade dildo. Safe sex toys are specifically made from nonporous materials, and using a DIY dildo exposes you god knows what kind of germs.

Also: PLEASE BE CAREFUL WHEN BUYING AT LOVEHONEY. This mega-retailer has made the choice to call their porous TPR/TPE toys “soft plastic” to make them seem safer. See the Lifelike Lover Classic, to name just one of their “soft plastic” dildos. I have stopped reviewing for Lovehoney because this is a deliberate choice to mislead consumers about sex toy safety. Call it what it is, not by a confusing alternate name. Lovehoney does make silicone dildos as well, but nothing you couldn’t find a comparable or better version of elsewhere.

So What Is Safe?

Body-safe sex toys are functionally nonporous. Their surfaces are hard, impenetrable, and/or hydrophobic2 plus sanitizable. That means you can kill any nastiness living on their surface whenever you want! (More on how to sanitize toys in the next section, below.)

These materials are safe for long-term contact with mucous membranes (genitals & rectum) and skin:

  • Silicone (usually platinum-cured)
  • ABS plastic (with or without a PU cote)
  • Certain metals, like stainless steel, aluminum, and titanium, when finished properly
  • Glass, wood, stone, and ceramic under certain conditions3

The abundance of porous and toxic toys on the market means that it’s super important for us, the buyers, to know about material safety and discreet sex toy vendors with curated collections.

Sex Toy Cleaning

Sex toy cleaners won’t harm your body-safe toys, but they also won’t sanitize (kill bacteria and microorganisms) any more than a good scrub with soap and water will. You really only need “toy cleaner” if you do not have access to running water (like from a normal sink!) after using your sex toy.

The safest practice is to sanitize your body-safe sex toys when you first get them, to clean off mold release agents and other junk from the manufacturing, packaging, and shipping processes. If you’re the only person using a toy, and you’re only using it in one hole,4 you can wash with soap and water for everyday use. You may want to sanitize sex toys every month or two to be especially safe.

Here’s how to sanitize (sometimes called “sterilize”) a body-safe sex toy:

  • Wash with a gentle soap and water before sanitizing.
  • If there are no mechanical parts (i.e., it doesn’t vibrate or pulsate), then boil in a cooking pot for three to five minutes and rinse with water after cooling.
  • Also if there are no mechanical parts, instead of boiling, you can put toys through the “sanitize” cycle in your dishwasher—with no detergent.
  • If there is a motor and the toy is waterproof: soak in a 10%-bleach solution (10% bleach, 90% tap water); or in rubbing alcohol, ideally 70% isopropyl. Be sure to wash before and definitely afterward to remove the cleaning agent.
  • If the toy is not waterproof submersible and has a motor (Magic Wands!!!), then wipe down the section that’s going to touch your parts with a 10% bleach solution or isopropyl alcohol, being careful to not get liquid in the motor, charging port, or battery compartment. Then wipe down with a damp cloth.
  • To remove odors, wipe your toys down with acetone (pure nail polish remover) first. If the odor hangs around, seal the toy in a plastic bag along with an enzymatic cleaner (like for pet-odor removal). There are many solutions for odor-removal, like baking soda, but the enzymatic pet cleaner method is the surest.

Why Silicone?

Silicone is my favorite body-safe dildo material because it’s the only one that doesn’t have to be really hard! Not all silicone is the same: higher shore durometers of silicone can still be pretty damn firm. (Check out my Silicone Dildo Firmness Guide for more info.) If you want a body-safe dildo that feels comfortable and as realistic as possible, then dual-density silicone it is.

While there are many different grades and qualities of silicone, toys labeled “silicone” and sold by reputable online sex shops and independent toy makers—not by some random Amazon seller—will be body-safe. I do think it’s OK to buy some sex accessories (not toys) on Amazon: like if you want a Liberator Wing toy mount STAT.

Platinum-cured (platinum, for short) silicone is body-safe because it’s the most chemically stable silicone. Specific blends are certified as being “skin-safe,” meaning that they’re guaranteed not to harm your skin (or any sensitive membranes) even if they’re worn for extended periods of time. Silicone is also safe because it’s hydrophobic: its molecules repel water, which bacteria can thrive in.5

Silicone toys don’t usually have a smell, at least in the strong way that porous PVC toys do. Anyone with a sensitive nose may notice a slight smell on a new toy (especially if it’s been sitting in its plastic packaging for a while). If there is a smell, it should fade when the toy is sanitized and left to dry.

Silicone dildos are made by blending two parts of platinum silicone (one of which includes the catalyst, platinum) to form a thick liquid. It’s degassed (put in a vacuum chamber) to remove air bubbles. Then it’s poured or injected into a mold. After this, the silicone sets (“cures” or “vulcanizes”) for a specific period of time. Afterward, voilĂ !, a body-safe sex toy is ready for the world.

Until very recently in sex toy history, silicone dildos and other body-safe toys were prohibitively expensive for a lot of folks. I’m glad to say that’s changing—fast!

But the Cost?!

There’s no doubt that some body-safe sex toys are pretty damn expensive: look at the $500 RealCock2 dildos! But every year, you can find more and more safe toys—especially silicone dildos, smaller vibes, and butt plugs—for under $50. Here are some ideas for where to find inexpensive and safe options:

Another way to save is to watch for sex toy sales, which are always going on. Certain holidays, like early February (before Valentine’s Day) and especially on Black Friday-Cyber Monday, are the best time to find the absolute lowest prices. (If you can stand waiting!)

So What Lube Can I Use with These Sex Toys?

Just like there are unsafe sex toys, there are unsafe lubes. With water-based lubes, glycerin and propylene glycol have been associated with vaginal infections (especially with people who are prone to infection already) and may cause rectal damage because they make lubes “hyperosmolar.” Parabens may also be a source of concern.

That’s why it’s safest to stick to glycerin-free, paraben-free, and propylene-glycol-free water-based lubes. Sliquid is a big name because they’ve long-made pH-balanced + iso-osmolal lubricants. However, Sliquid is experiencing serious bottle shortages in the wake of COVID still, and I now recommend the Simply lubricant line by Wicked as an awesome alternative: Simply Aqua (water-based) is my favorite all-purpose sex toy lubricant!!! Feels most like really wet vaginal fluids.

Silicone lubes, hybrid silicone-plus-water-based lubes, and oil-based lubes (including virgin coconut oil, available in many grocery stores) are options too, especially if you want something that reeeeeeally lasts or is super-slick (like for anal thrusting). I’m always recommending Hybrid Jelle for butt plug wear; it’s so thick, longer-lasting, and not greasy like silicone lube or oil-based.

But back to my main point: sex toy and lube compatibility. Most body-safe toys play well with most safe lubes—with one possible exception. In some cases, silicone lube may degrade silicone toys — especially thin-silicone-coated toys like vibrators, where the silicone is a fraction of an inch thickness over a firm motor core. Multiple American-made platinum silicone makers, like SquarePegToys and Hankey’s Toys, argue that silicone lubricant is perfectly fine with their high-quality material: does not degrade the silicone toy with normal use. If you let a silicone toy remain drenched in a bath of silicone lubricant overnight, the toy will indeed swell; but that’s an excessive amount of lubricant that you just wouldn’t encounter in real-life use. If you love silicone lube and you want to be sure your quality platinum silicone toys stay safe, just do a patch test! Put a spot of silicone lube on the base of the toy, then wipe it off after about an hour. If the surface looks normal, you’re good to use the two together.

Finally, please note that oil-based lubes will degrade latex condoms.6 (Silicone, hybrid, and water-based lubes — everything except oil — are all good with any condom, luckily. I’ve used Uberlube before for condomed sex, and now carry a bottle of Simply Hybrid with me when I go out to get laid because the twist cap is so convenient: it’s like a lube travel lock, so the top doesn’t accidentally flip open and leak on your bag.) If you are NOT using condoms for either STD prevention or contraception, then oil-based lubricants are now generally seen as safe for both vaginal and anal use; I would only recommend caution here if (1) you get very frequent yeast/bacterial infections; or (2) you’re using the oil lube on a toy with deeply recessed buttons like, say, Impressions N1, because the lube could gunk them up.

I recommend bookmarking this lube compatibility chart by Smitten Kitten, for easy reference!

And Finally, Sex Toy Storage

Body-safe sex toys can be stored together. Body-safe sex toys can be stored together. Body-safe sex toys can be stored together.

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Here’s one of my dildo bins!

It bears repeating, because many people still believe that silicone toys shouldn’t be allowed to touch other silicone toys—that one will cause the others to degrade. This myth likely got started because people weren’t buying actual, skin-safe platinum silicone toys, but instead some sort of mystery-meat toys labeled as silicone. (Jelly toys can harm platinum silicone, for example.) But I can guarantee—through my own dildos-all-clumped-together storage bins—that none of the toys listed in my Silicone Firmness Guide will harm the others.7

In some cases, very soft silicones (like Real Nude dildos) may make their neighbors a little tacky. Vixen Creations recommends storing VixSkin separately for this reason, plus upright (to avoid warping, because Johnny’s balls will start to bend upward). The stickiness should wash off when you scrub your toys with soap and water. Overall, it may be easier to keep very soft silicones in separate storage bags; even gallon freezer bags will work.8

Apart from this, the only reason to separate your truly body-safe sex toys is for convenience, especially if you have a big collection like I do! Separate compartments, and drawstring bags for toys with remotes, help me locate any given toy more easily. I also have a dish-drying rack that I put my freshly washed dildos on. Silicone may be hydrophobic (water-repelling) and functionally nonporous, but it’s good to not close it in a tight space when it’s wet.

I hope this helps answer any questions you may have. Let’s put these sex toy myths to bed!

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  1. Dildos are never approved by the FDA. Anyone who says so is misleading you. The silicone used in a dildo may be certified as “skin-safe,” “food-grade,” or even “Class VI,” which means it’s a good quality for a toy. Please don’t buy that $20 dual-density “liquid silicone” dildo on Amazon, no matter how good the reviews are—there’s really no telling what it’s made out of.
  2. Skin-safe platinum silicone repels water on a microscopic level—since bacteria breed in water, this is crucial.
  3. See the section “Which Sex Toy Materials Are Safe?” in Dangerous Lilly’s Toxic Toys guide. This is the most expansive out there about sex toy material safety.
  4. That is, you’re not switching from anal to vaginal use.
  5. See Tantus’ page on its “100% premium” silicone. Silicone’s “low surface energy” or viscosity is another factor that makes it safe.
  6. As well as polyisoprene non-latex condoms. Oil-based lubes can apparently be used with polyurethane and natural membrane (Trojan NaturaLamb) condoms; note that the latter are effective for sperm-blocking but not for stopping the transmission of many STIs. I recommend LuckyBloke.com for an exceptional condom selection; like check out Durex non-latex and Japanese micro-thin latex like Kimono for sure if you use condoms regularly.
  7. Also check out Lilly’s silicone-on-silicone experiment here.
  8. Always wash your toy well before use!

13 thoughts on “Body-Safe Sex Toys”

  1. Something compelled me to give this article a read even though I’ve already been using toys for a little while and felt like I knew enough to do things “right”. I was wrong. The part on lubricants really helped me because I realised mine actually has propylene glycol in it. I’m going to replace that now with a healthier alternative.

    Thank you!

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  2. Thank you so much for writing this. For the longest time, I was using a realistic dildo that I thought was safe to use. Turns out, it has probably been the cause of irritation for years. I immediately through it out and got a way better silicone dildo that is body safe.

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  3. Do you ever use dildo’s for deepthroating? I have been searching my ass of for really soft (but not ‘tie a knot in it’ soft) deepthroating dildo’s (double dildo’s for example), they are really rare in silicone. I only found Squarepegtoys’ The Slim Firmer+Depth Probe and Tantus Snake. According to Shevibe, Blush’s PVC double dildo’s are phtalate free AND non porous, but it might still smell? And the 14inch has pronounced ridges, I don’t think my throat would dig that.

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    • I haven’t tried the SquarePeg Slim, but I believe it’s the best quality toy in your short list and that the silicone will be most comfy — based on my experience with other SquarePeg vs. Tantus.

      Yeah, I would avoid the Blush PVC no matter how “non-porous” it supposedly is. They’re softening that PVC with something to make it “not-water-pipe” hard, and we have no idea what it is. Whereas soft silicone is softer due to a higher dimethicone (polydimethysiloxane / PDMS) content, and that’s an ingredient that’s found in silicone lubricants and isn’t harmful internally (I mean, unless you drank a full bottle of it!!).

      I hope this helps, let me know if you have other questions!

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      • Interesting, thanks! I emailed Squarepeg that I would like to see more sizes and a more oval shape like my throat (and real dicks). I like that it’s really smooth though.

        Blush told me their PVC doesn’t smell by the way.

        You think The Slim firmer would be more comfy than the Tantus Snake? As in softer? In that case are you comparing it to the the regular snake or in supersoft? ‘Tie a knot in it’ soft makes me really gaggy though, I don’t want it too soft, but soft enough that I can use it laying down, so without having to tilt my head. This really depends on the girth as well of course, how easy it bends.

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  4. Thank you for all you do and all the information on your website. A recently got a Blush Avant D17 Lucky platinum cured silicone dildo and after washing it with dawn dish soap it leaves a slick residue on my hands so I tried cleaning it with rubbing alcohol and also finger nail polish remover but it still leaves a slick residue on my hands. Is this normal and safe to use?

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    • Hmm! I’m interested in this and how serious it is. I’m trying to diagnose.

      How slick do you mean? Was that the first wash, and have you washed it again since, really scrubbing down with soap? I’d be interested to see a photo. (Imgur is a good way to post photos anonymously.)

      I doused my Avant D17 in dish soap today.
      Then a scented handsoap too.
      It was slightly slick and then I just scrubbed the soap slickness off with a minute of rubbing.
      The Avant D17 retains a little more soap scent, I think, than most other dildos I tested alongside, but that also went away when I scrubbed hard and let it fully dry.

      Usually nonscented soaps are best, IMO. I once had a Bad Dragon soft silicone dildo smell scented for a day or so, eventually disappated. Obviously that’s different than a slick residue.

      I’m wondering if you have any super-soft silicone toys to compare normal dimethicone stickiness to what the Avant D17 feels like.

      I do think the Avant D17 has one potential safety issue that I’m about to publish a review on here later tonight.

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      • Thank you for your response and your help. I washed the Blush Novelties Avant D17 thoroughly several times using my hands and Dawn Ultra Platinum dish soap. After drying it and handling it with dry hands and gripping it like a handle bar and using a wringing out motion it leaves a slick residue on my hands. The residue on my hands is kind of a slick, like now I need to wash my hands. I have a Blush Novelties Avant D6, D15 and Real Nude Rollo and they don’t do this. I also tried cleaning the Avant D17 with 70% rubbing alcohol but that didn’t help so I tried finger nail polish remover and that didn’t help either. I purchased the D17 from Peep Show Toys. The D17 I received from them had a rough bump on it so Blush Novelties replaced it under warranty but the replacement leaves a residue on my hands too. Attached is a picture of both of them. After reading your review about the Avant D17 and possible glitter issues and with it leaving a residue on my hands I am not too excited about using it. Do you have any recommendations on something that would be similar to the Avant D17? (I’m not pleased with the Avant D6, D15 and Real Nude Rollo mentioned above for one reason or another). I’m looking for something with a similar shape that is about the same size or slightly larger that is soft, smooth, straight, flexible and doesn’t have a pronounced head. Thank you for your website and reviews. The information you provide is not only helpful but very entertaining.

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  5. Do you have any idea whether boiling or bleaching is least harmful to squishy silicone? I have a dual-density toy (from NY Toy Collective) and while I boil other things, somehow it feels like boiling or bleaching something soft like that will cause damage over time.

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