Where to Shop: From Vanilla to Fantasy Sex Toys

So where do you find body-safe sex toys once you learn Amazon is filled with questionable and risky materials? Here’s my breakdown of reputable & discreet online sex toy sellers, including well-known indie & fantasy dildo makers! I focus on shops that sell all-safe materials—like platinum silicone dildos—with notes about how to find good deals.

Sex Shops

Other online retailers that I haven’t personally interacted with, but that have a good reputation, are Smitten Kitten, Come As You Are, SheBop, and Babeland.

Trustworthy Toy Makers & Etsy Shops

I can vouch for these toy makers, most of which are US-based and many US-produced too.



There are many small fantasy makers and Etsy stores out there, but these are the ones that I feel most confident recommending.5

Shops are US-based unless otherwise noted.

Sexual & Wellness Testing

Safe toys are one thing, but sexual wellness of course extends into sex with other human beings too! When you take new partners—even while using condoms or other barrier protection—it can be a real relief to know whether you’ve picked up any STIs. And discretion is a big concern here: For example, once I was concerned about a lingering throat infection after I gave some head at a sex club, so I went to a local clinic for testing—where I was asked questions about who with and what kind(s) of sex I’d had. Even as someone who writes about sex professionally, I found the questions borderline intrusive!

Online-ordered STI/STD testing is different: you pick whatever tests you want, and not have anyone ask you why, plus the testing is not included in your permanent medical records. Check out:

  • STDCheck.com (15% off link here) is a well-established, US-based service that uses FDA-approved tests. You order the test(s) you want online, then visit a walk-in lab during business hours, whenever you want to give your sample. Quest Diagnostics (they’re like the Walgreens of lab testing, tons of locations) and other major lab-test services are included. Finally, you get your results back in 1 to 2 days via STDCheck’s online portal, which is soooo fast and you don’t have to call and bug anyone for results if you’re anxious (like me!). The service’s doctors can prescribe and/or refer if you are positive for an STI requiring treatment.7 Or get more variety with their sister site, HealthLabs.com (15% off link here), which offers STI testing, sex-hormone testing, plus general wellness tests in the same order—you choose your wants.

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  1. Even porous TPR/TPE penis toys, which are in the “lesser evil” category: they’re nontoxic, but require more care because they can begin to let bacteria & mold grow if they’re not cleaned thoroughly right after use or they’re left in direct sunlight, too much heat & humidity, etc.
  2. “Soft plastic” equals TPR/TPE, for the record; Lovehoney has made this toy material confusing lately.
  3. Desktop vs. mobile, respectively. On mobile, use the “Add or Remove Filters” drop-down menu right under the top cartoon and category name.
  4. Pick “Phthalate-free – Non-porous” to opt for only body-safe toy in any category (especially ones like “Realistic vibrators”) where some more-porous materials (TPR/TPE and PVC) are included.
  5. See this constantly updated list of fantasy toy makers for all your options, including some nonsilicone ones.
  6. Or less: it’s free if your purchase is over $100.
  7. For example, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis can be cured by simple antibiotics.

One thought on “Where to Shop: From Vanilla to Fantasy Sex Toys

  1. shannon fowler

    February 2, 2018 at 10:27pm

    This is really helpful! I really had no idea about where to go for trusted quality products. I really love how you separated out the different categories too.

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      February 3, 2018 at 3:24am

      Thank you! I’m so glad you think it’s helpful. 🙂

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  2. Echo

    May 5, 2019 at 10:05pm

    Thank you for posting such a comprehensive list! I know so many people who don’t know where to shop for the products they want (besides Amazon), and now I can just send them this link 🙂

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      May 6, 2019 at 3:53pm

      I’m glad to help! And thanks so much for sharing! I love supporting smaller retailers—especially ones who sell for fair prices and who take pride in selecting quality toys.

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  3. TheCommoner

    August 23, 2019 at 7:14pm

    Hodgepodge Entourage would have never been googled had it not been for this article!! I purchased 5 teenie squishes to get an idea of softness/firmness that would be more to my tastes. I really wanted miniatures of both of the sleeves as they would be amazing for Vulva attention. She normally doesn’t do that so, yea! She’s got a super fan now 🤩

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      August 27, 2019 at 3:04am

      Ooh, that’s really great, glad to hear it! They have some super creative designs.

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  4. Joel

    March 22, 2020 at 3:30pm

    Any advice on anal play

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