Where to Shop: From Vanilla to Fantasy Sex Toys

So where do you find body-safe sex toys once you learn Amazon is filled with questionable and risky materials? Here’s my breakdown of reputable & discreet online sex toy sellers, including well-known indie & fantasy dildo makers! I focus on shops that sell all-safe materials—like platinum silicone dildos—with notes about how to find good deals.

Sex Shops

Other online retailers that I haven’t personally interacted with, but that have a good reputation, are Smitten Kitten, Come As You Are, SheBop, and Babeland.

Trustworthy Toy Makers & Etsy Shops

I can vouch for these toy makers, most of which are US-based and many US-produced too.



There are many small fantasy makers and Etsy stores out there, but these are the ones that I feel most confident recommending.5 Shops are US-based unless otherwise noted.

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  1. Even porous TPR/TPE penis toys, which are in the “lesser evil” category: they’re nontoxic, but require more care because they can begin to let bacteria & mold grow if they’re not cleaned thoroughly right after use or they’re left in direct sunlight, too much heat & humidity, etc.
  2. “Soft plastic” equals TPR/TPE, for the record; Lovehoney has made this toy material confusing lately.
  3. Desktop vs. mobile, respectively. On mobile, use the “Add or Remove Filters” drop-down menu right under the top cartoon and category name.
  4. Pick “Phthalate-free – Non-porous” to opt for only body-safe toy in any category (especially ones like “Realistic vibrators”) where some more-porous materials (TPR/TPE and PVC) are included.
  5. See this constantly updated list of fantasy toy makers for all your options, including some nonsilicone ones.
  6. Or less: it’s free if your purchase is over $100.

One thought on “Where to Shop: From Vanilla to Fantasy Sex Toys

  1. shannon fowler

    February 2, 2018 at 10:27pm

    This is really helpful! I really had no idea about where to go for trusted quality products. I really love how you separated out the different categories too.

    • Author


      February 3, 2018 at 3:24am

      Thank you! I’m so glad you think it’s helpful. 🙂

  2. Echo

    May 5, 2019 at 10:05pm

    Thank you for posting such a comprehensive list! I know so many people who don’t know where to shop for the products they want (besides Amazon), and now I can just send them this link 🙂

    • Author


      May 6, 2019 at 3:53pm

      I’m glad to help! And thanks so much for sharing! I love supporting smaller retailers—especially ones who sell for fair prices and who take pride in selecting quality toys.

  3. TheCommoner

    August 23, 2019 at 7:14pm

    Hodgepodge Entourage would have never been googled had it not been for this article!! I purchased 5 teenie squishes to get an idea of softness/firmness that would be more to my tastes. I really wanted miniatures of both of the sleeves as they would be amazing for Vulva attention. She normally doesn’t do that so, yea! She’s got a super fan now 🤩

    • Author


      August 27, 2019 at 3:04am

      Ooh, that’s really great, glad to hear it! They have some super creative designs.

  4. Joel

    March 22, 2020 at 3:30pm

    Any advice on anal play

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