I was destined to write a best realistic dildo guide. My own sex toy journey began as a hunt for a more lifelike dong. No vibrations, no extra functions (except maybe a suction cup?). Just the most realistic dildo—to screw the shit out of. As I kept looking, I realized that not all dildos are created equal. For example, PVC typically *smells* and leaches chemicals into the body. (Chlorine sex? Uhrm, no thanks.)

Discovering silicone dildos, and then dual-density silicone dildos, was a true turning point in my life. Dual-density is a big deal because EVEN MORE REALISM. With a two-layer composition, you get a soft outside (that fools the brain into thinking “skin”) over a hard inside core (for that erect feel too). Silicone can be blended in all different firmnesses (shore durometers)—it’s the only non-porous material that can be soft OR hard!—and multi-layer toys take the fullest advantage of that fact.

After years of toy testing and collecting, I’ve accumulated a full range of 100% platinum silicone dual-density dildos. I’m a silicone dildo expert and a sensation specialist: I describe firmness balance, silicone finish, delicate lines vs. wham-bam textures. As always, I want you to know how verifiably body-safe options are similar and different; to be able to weigh your choices (and your unique preferences) before you buy. Silicone is also much, much more easy to clean! I will NOT recommend you a toxic PVC King Cock; or the Lifelike Lover Classic realistic dildo by Lovehoney (porous TPR/TPE that can grow bacteria); or a hard silicone toy and claim that a panel of experts thinks it’s best. (Who are these people?! Seriously, do they have nerve endings in their fingertips & bits???)

This guide ranks the best, most realistic dildos of 2021, narrowed down from my complete dual-density list. I also include a run-down of realistic one-layer dildos at the end, whose softness makes many users think of skin. All toys mentioned are harness compatible. See the comparative chart for full rating details!

#5: Blush Neo Elite

Vs. Luminous Dual Density

Best Affordable Realistics; Good Suction Cups
Detailed Neo Elite Review Here
Shop: $29.95 to $35.99 Here (depending on size)

Last year, Blush Neo Elite was the cheapest lineup of dual-density dildos that I would trust is 100% platinum-cure silicone (the body-safe stuff!). Blush has managed to make these dual-layer dildos—whose production requires more time and labor than single-layer toys do—available for costs that can retail for between $29.95 and $35.99. And the feel is pretty good!

Neo Elite includes 7 toy shapes now: Full comparison here. They’re all made up of the same silicones, each one is a suction cup dildo, but they definitely don’t feel the same. (Due to their different shapes, core sizes, and surface textures!)

Update, 2021: Then came a new affordable contender, Luminous glow-in-the-dark dildos, 3 sizes… They’re giving Neo Elite a run for their money, tbh.

I honestly think the feel of the Luminous toys is nicer than all but the Neo Elite 7.5 Inch: the most skin-like Neo dildo, IMO, and a favorite anal toy recommendation. The Luminous is such a good realistic feel for cheap, the best feeling dildo for under $50 for sure.

In short, choose based on what shape you prefer:

• Most natural overall: Luminous (mid-sized)
• Tapered (for anal play or vaginal stretching): Neo Elite 7.5 Inch
• BIGGER: Luminous Stud (biggest head) or Neo Elite 9 Inch (wide overall)
• Most focused prostate/G-spot massage: Neo Elite 7.5 Cock with Balls

Personally, the Luminous Stud is my absolute favorite BIG-headed dildo besides the $500 RealCock (below). The Stud dominates my girth-loving G-spot in the best way. Like all 3 Luminous dildos, it’s got a very strong suction cup, and glows a light blue in the dark.

#4: Uberrime Supero

Vs. Uberrime Splendid Dual-Density

Best Artisan Realistics
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $89.00 Here for Supero; $79.99 Here for Splendid

Uberrime’s Splendid was the first dual-density toy I ever had from a small artisan maker—the ability to pull off two-layer toys consistently is very rare! Splendid’s definitely a G-/P-spot power, with its big ridge + curve + slightly firmer silicone.

My vag is here for Supero’s more realistic ridge, too! It doesn’t POP quite so much like Splendid’s extra-pronounced mushroom head. But this 7.5 inch dildo is quite lifelike, after you add waterbased lube.

Supero’s straight shaft is just flexible enough for a good lifelike feel. It’ll bend forward when you’re really thrusting hard, but is straight with slower use/clenching around.

Handmade in Florida, both Supero and Splendid have sparkly (and safe) pigments, even in the flesh-tone colors! Independent makers rarely manage to produce two-layer dildos—there’s too much potential for failure. But Uberrime’s Marco has spent several years perfecting the process.

#3: VixSkin Mustang

The Crowd Favorite; Slick Finish; Great for Pegging
Detailed Review/Comparison Here
Shop: $114 to $118 Here

Part of the bestselling VixSkin lineup, Mustang is Vixen Creation’s most fan-favorited toy by far. Mustang’s shaft is a delicate balance, quite realistic when lubed up. (Like a silicone-lube-covered penis sliding nicely.) And though Mustang is a crowd favorite, you may very well be drawn to the impressively large Vixen Creations Outlaw, or the slender Spur.

The glans (cock head) is squashy-gummy soft. And if a toy’s head is that squishy, I also need it to be LARGE and stick out more. My G-spot wants the attention; more protruding = better Gspot stimulation. And Mustang gives that, with a big mushroom curve. The extra-pronounced nature of Mustang’s ridge and curved shaft counteract the “slightly flaccid” effect that I frequently get from Vixen VixSkin dildos.

IMO, Mustang’s head is best suited for hard and fast thrusting. If you’re sensitive, you can go as speedily as you want, still with no discomfort. And Mustang glides when lubed, so slick. I need to pick up myself a fucking machine for Mustang plus the RealCock, discussed later…

Speaking of which: Shout-out to my VixThrust pairing for being self-thrusting power without you having to buy, store, and position a full-sized fuck machine. It’s the softness of VixSkin in a big size, over a self-propelled thruster with 2 inches thrust length—in and out, in and out, automatically.¹ The Velvet Thruster’s straightness (it doesn’t wiggle like Mustang) gives the soft VixSkin sheath a more stable feel.

#2: BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density

Best Skin Feel (Non-Luxury Pricing); Good Suction Cup; Great Balls
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $59.99 Here

You can’t truly discuss a skin-like feel without covering silicone finish. Platinum silicone can be glossy or draggy, the same way it can range from super-squishy to almost-plastic-hard.

The Naked Addiction Dual Density Dildo has a delightful finish, almost too good for under $60. It feels intriguing in hand; I just want to keep fondling it, especially the soft, scrotum-texture of this dildo with balls. So many little skin lines, plus a *bump* in the middle of the sack for rubbing your external bits on.

Naked Addiction is a great balance between smooth and draggy—right in the middle. It’s a Goldilocks amount of drag. Thrust it by hand, or ride it using the strong suction cup base—with some Sliquid Sassy, this realistic silicone will glide beautifully. With its 5.5 inch realistic length, it’s not too long to sit on (if, like me, you’re not into depth play).

So it’s the best ultra realistic for under $100. But the one thing that makes BMS’s Naked Addiction Dual Density not *perfect* for me? The head is tapered, a teeny bit slimmer than the thickest shaft width (1.5″ diameter). That makes it easier to insert anally, but vaginally I like those big ridges for more feeling. A lil more width for my G-spot, please. YMMV!

#1B: Pleasure Tailor Triarx Triple-Density

3 Layers = 1 Dick That Won’t Cost You $500
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $125 Here

Are three layers better than two? I think so, in the Pleasure Tailor Triarx at least. Once I lube the Triarx up well… I can come almost immediately because the realism + stimulation are so good. For this triple-density dildo, Pleasure Tailor and I emailed back and forth for literally months, refining Triarx’s shape and its three-layer balance; then giving it a closer-to-skin finish and a suction cup. Through three (fittingly!) rounds of prototyping and testing, they’ve created for me a super-realistic dildo with these 3 layers:

1. Firm core, so it’s erect
2. Middle layer for squishy, fleshy feel
3. A thin “skin” layer covering the meatiness underneath

The Pleasure Tailor Triarx is curved, with a prominent ridge, because I love G-spot stimulation. The foreskin lines underneath mainly look cool; they add a tiny bit of sensation below the head as I thrust. And the veins (especially the big center one) rub along my pelvic floor.

The suction cup is the best one I’ve ever tested on a handmade multi-layer toy!!! Truly surpasses the strength of Vixen’s VixSkin “suction” bases (like on Mustang). I’ve even come from Triarx while standing up in the shower, which is very rare because I’ve moved on from dildo acrobatics. But the Triarx’s arc and strong suction needed that work put in…

My Triarx “As Designed” comes with a Matte finish that’s meant to imitate the slight drag of skin, and it is the tan color seen above (not silver). It’s pretty silky, but has a touch of printer texture that goes away when I add my favorite thick water-based lube. If you are a fan of glossier, smoother toys (like in VixSkin silicone), then you can select a Gloss finish instead. Or, the Triarx “With Alteration Service” option lets you select a different color for the Triarx, if desired. Pleasure Tailor prides itself on delivering exactly what you want in your toy, as well as using the very safest materials (certified skin-safe silicones and cosmetic-grade pigments). I’m so excited that this maker now exists, because I love the Triarx’s three-layer feel without the very high price and clunky base of the RealCock2, next.

#1: RealCock 2: The MOST Real

Super-Real-Looking; Hyper-Realistic Dildo Art
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $499 Here

I was finally able to make this guide *definitive* once I got a RealCock 2, the most premium faux-erection in production. No questions asked, it’s the most realistic looking.

It’s phenomenal to feel too. I was totally head over heels for Dirk, the original RealCock 2 model, an extra girthy realistic, when I got it in 2020. (As of 2021, there are 5 RealCock shapes, including the average-girth Jones, each in 3 skin tones.) I couldn’t resist touching and caressing the skin-like silicone. Not to mention the floating testicles, which move inside the scrotum: video here. All RealCock 2s are also hand-painted with silicone then sealed with silicone, so you get the head coloring and blue veins only found elsewhere in porous dildos. The RealCock Dirk above is the medium skin tone.

Listen, I’ve reached a point in my life where I feel my vagina deserves the best. It’s a very *feeling* orifice. The RealCock 2 is absolutely very realistic, especially in terms of how realistic it looks and the detailed skin textures. However. However. After the trials of 2020 quarantine, I began to experience:

The big Real Cock 2 downside (besides the price)?² The base is super-large, awkward to thrust fast by hand. However, all RealCock2s now come equipped with a Vac-U-Lock hole, so you can put them on a fucking machine and not have to cope with thrusting the big base yourself. Still, my RealCock swings around that way, and the base + balls size is generally awkward. This is not a dildo you can wear in a harness easily, either; it drooooops unless you have a very supportive leather harness. I used this dildo very thoroughly for a little over a year, which I think warrants a $500 price tag. However, I personally have since moved on because it’s honestly too much of a chore to thrust the RealCock 2 by hand, regularly.

Rating Chart

All ratings on scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being “damn that’s fake” and 10 being “real peen.” Click to enlarge:

Addendum: Soft Single-Density

Especially for larger dildos and/or for anal play, soft-soft silicone toys are super popular. SquarePegToys and Hankey’s Toys are the best makers of realistic lifecasts (bodysafe materials, of course: 100% handmade platinum silicone). Again, be sure to avoid King Cock realistic dildos, which are a trash material.) Both SquarePeg and Hankey’s are known for SUPER-sizing it: making many huge dildos, girthy realistic ones, and extra-long dildos too; though average-size options are available as well! I’ll talk about those biggies and other kinda-soft-silicone, mass-produced toys here. These are highly preferred if you’re looking for a comfortable anal dildo; their soft silicone will bend with your rectum. (On a side note: Pssst, if you need a squishy werable butt plug, please check out the Egg Plug.)

• SquarePegToys realistic lifecasts include Leo (the most popular, a long ‘un), Nathan, Mel, and Dirk. SquarePeg was the first maker to create truly soft silicone dildos (in 2006), and they deserve mad respect for that!!! See my full SquarePegToys SuperSoft realistic comparison here. The Nathan actual size is the very best for skin feel and my top rec for anyone who wants a great soft realistic—that’s not large. Vs. Leo, where I can feel the skin lines like crazy despite the soft silicone. (I suggest oil-based lube!) And as for Dirk, I’m digging the retracted foreskin look. All these toys are true-life molds of human males.
• Mr. Hankey’s Toys makes many porn-star lifecasts these days (I’ve reviewed a couple!), plus realistic “not based on an actual person” dildos. Many users interpret the squish of Hankey’s 75% Soft silicone as “skin-like.” I think the finish is awesome: like the BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density, it’s halfway between slick and draggy. The soft silicone gliiiiides with lube. It’s smooth enough, but not so smooth that I can’t feel the skin detailing. (And u should know I love the skin detailing.) Since I often interpret “very soft” (about 00-50 shore durometer and below³) as “semi-flaccid,” I like Hankey’s Toys best with a vibe stuck in their Vac holes. Topher Michels’s short thickness is awesome with a strong vibe inside—my favorite vibrating dildo.
• Fleshjack Boys/Fleshlight Guys dildos are lifecast porn star cocks as well. These are about an 8 to 9A shore durometer, so technically about the firmness of an erection—just without the same soft skin feel, since if you go more erection-like for the whole, it can’t be super-soft outside. The bases on these things are chunky due to the balls, but all include a Tantus-esque suction cup that sticks into a hole in the base. (This setup is slightly wobbly and works better stuck to horizontal surfaces than vertical ones, so gravity isn’t pulling the toy off the insert.)
• At 6A shore, NS Novelties ColourSoft dildos are a little squishier than Fleshjack/Fleshlight dildos—especially in the ColourSoft 5 Inch size, which is very flexible. ColourSoft 8 Inch was my favorite riding-against-the-wall toy for a long time,⁴ due to how I can make the thick shaft curve up and hit my G-spot. The silicone is slightly sticky, and the veiny textures are pronounced.
• BMS Factory’s Addiction realistic dildos are a little bit soft, about 9A shore. They’re quite smooth too, so if you want a cheaper, not-hard toy that doesn’t drag, check ’em out. The glow-in-the-dark ones light up nicely.
• Tantus has a Super Soft line too, of course—though their average-size dildos’ Super Soft Silicone is like SquarePegToys and Hankey’s Toys’ firmer blend, at about an 8A shore. (The non-realistic Tantus XL series is squishier.) Most toys that Tantus has chosen to pour in Super Soft are semi-realistic. Vamp, for example, has a practically globe-shaped glans and no true skin texturing.

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Notes

1. The Velvet Thruster Mini Teddy will also work with the longer VixSkin Colossus sheath: giving you an extra inch insertable length, if you like it somewhat deeper.
2. Don’t @ me about the price—we all have priorities in life, and for some people, top priority is the best realistic sex toy.
3. Any density that won’t read well on an A durometer, basically: 00-50 and 5A are not the same.
4. Till I discovered self-thrusting dildos, then I got too lazy to stick toys on the wall and do the work myself. 😄