I was destined to write a best realistic dildo guide. My own sex toy journey began as a hunt for a more lifelike dong. No vibrations, no extra functions (except maybe a suction cup?). Just the most realistic dildo—to screw the shit out of. As I kept looking, I realized that not all dildos are created equal. For example, PVC typically *smells* and leaches chemicals into the body. (Chlorine sex? Uhrm, no thanks.)

Discovering silicone dildos, and then dual-density silicone dildos, was a true turning point in my life. Dual-density is a big deal because EVEN MORE REALISM. With a two-layer composition, you get a soft outside (that fools the brain into thinking “skin”) over a hard inside core (for that erect feel too). Silicone can be blended in all different firmnesses (shore durometers)—it’s the only non-porous material that can be soft OR hard!—and multi-layer toys take the fullest advantage of that fact.

After years of toy testing and collecting, I’ve accumulated a full range of 100% platinum silicone dual-density dildos. I’m a silicone dildo expert and a sensation specialist: I describe firmness balance, silicone finish, delicate lines vs. wham-bam textures. As always, I want you to know how verifiably body-safe options are similar and different; to be able to weigh your choices (and your unique preferences) before you buy. I will NOT recommend you a toxic PVC King Cock, or a hard silicone toy and claim that a panel of experts thinks it’s best. (Who are these people?! Seriously, do they have nerve endings in their fingertips & bits???)

This guide ranks the best, most realistic dildos of 2021, narrowed down from my complete dual-density list. I also include a run-down of realistic one-layer dildos at the end, whose softness makes many users think of skin. See the comparative chart for full rating details!

#5: Blush Neo Elite

Vs. Luminous Dual Density

Best Affordable Realistics; Good Suction Cups
Detailed Neo Elite Review Here
Shop: $29.95 to $35.99 Here (depending on size)

Last year, Blush Neo Elite was the cheapest lineup of dual-density dildos that I would trust is 100% platinum-cure silicone (the body-safe stuff!). Blush has managed to make these dual-layer dildos—whose production requires more time and labor than single-layer toys do—available for costs that can retail for between $29.95 and $35.99. And the feel is pretty good!

Neo Elite includes 4 toy shapes (each in 2 colors): Full comparison here. They’re all made up of the same silicones, but definitely don’t feel the same. (Due to their different shapes, core sizes, and surface textures!)

Update, 2021: Then came a new affordable contender, Luminous glow-in-the-dark dildos, 3 sizes… They’re giving Neo Elite a run for their money, tbh.

I honestly think the feel of the Luminous toys is nicer than all but the Neo Elite 7.5 Inch: the most skin-like Neo dildo, IMO, and a favorite anal toy recommendation.

In short, choose based on what shape you prefer:

• Most natural overall: Luminous (mid-sized)
• Tapered (for anal or vaginal stretching): Neo Elite 7.5 Inch
• BIGGER: Luminous Stud
• Most focused prostate/G-spot massage: Neo Elite 7.5 w/ Balls

Personally, the Luminous Stud is my absolute favorite BIG-headed dildo besides the $500 RealCock (below). The Stud dominates my girth-loving G-spot in the best way. Like all 3 Luminous dildos, it’s got a very strong suction cup, and glows a light blue in the dark.

#4: Uberrime Supero

Vs. Uberrime Splendid Dual-Density

Best Artisan Realistics
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $89.00 Here for Supero; $79.99 Here for Splendid

Uberrime’s Splendid was the first dual-density toy I ever had from a small artisan maker—the ability to pull off two-layer toys consistently is very rare! Splendid’s definitely a G-/P-spot power, with its big ridge + curve + slightly firmer silicone.

My vag is here for Supero’s more realistic ridge, too! It doesn’t POP quite so much like Splendid’s extra-pronounced mushroom head.

Supero’s straight shaft is just flexible enough for a good lifelike feel. It’ll bend forward when you’re really thrusting hard, but is straight with slower use/clenching around.

Handmade in Florida, both Supero and Splendid have sparkly (and safe) pigments, even in the flesh-tone colors! Independent makers rarely manage to produce two-layer dildos—there’s too much potential for failure. But Uberrime’s Marco has spent several years perfecting the process.

#3: VixSkin Mustang

The Crowd Favorite; Slick Finish; Great for Pegging
Detailed Review/Comparison Here
Shop: $114 to $118 Here

Part of the bestselling VixSkin lineup, Mustang is Vixen Creation’s most fan-favorited toy by far. Mustang’s shaft is a delicate balance, quite realistic when lubed up. (Like a silicone-lube-covered penis sliding nicely.) And though Mustang is a crowd favorite, you may very well be drawn to the impressively large Outlaw, or the slender Spur.

The glans (cock head) is squashy-gummy soft. And if a toy’s head is that squishy, I also need it to be LARGE and stick out more. My G-spot wants the attention. And Mustang gives it, with a big mushroom curve. The extra-pronounced nature of Mustang’s ridge and curve counteract the “slightly flaccid” effect that I frequently get from VixSkin dildos.

IMO, Mustang’s head is best suited for hard and fast thrusting. If you’re sensitive, you can go as speedily as you want, still with no discomfort. And Mustang glides when lubed, so slick. I need to pick up myself a fucking machine for Mustang plus the RealCock, discussed later…

Speaking of which: Shout-out to my VixThrust pairing for being self-thrusting power without you having to buy, store, and position a full-sized fuck machine. It’s the softness of VixSkin in a big size, over a self-propelled thruster with 2 inches thrust length—in and out, in and out, automatically.¹ The Velvet Thruster’s straightness (it doesn’t wiggle like Mustang) gives the soft VixSkin sheath a more stable feel.

#2: BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density

Best Skin Feel (Non-Luxury Pricing); Good Suction Cup; Great Balls
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $59.99 Here

You can’t truly discuss a skin-like feel without covering silicone finish. Platinum silicone can be glossy or draggy, the same way it can range from super-squishy to almost-plastic-hard.

The Naked Addiction Dual Density Dildo has a delightful finish, almost too good for under $60. It feels intriguing in hand; I just want to keep fondling it, especially the soft, scrotum-textured balls. So many little skin lines, plus a *bump* in the middle of the sack for rubbing your external bits on.

Naked Addiction is a great balance between smooth and draggy—right in the middle. It’s a Goldilocks amount of drag. Thrust it by hand, or ride it using the strong suction cup—with some Sliquid Sassy, it’ll glide beautifully.

The one thing that makes BMS’s Naked Addiction Dual Density not *perfect* for me? The head is tapered, a teeny bit slimmer than the thickest shaft width (1.5″ diameter). That makes it easier to insert anally, but vaginally I like those big ridges for more feeling. A lil more width for my G-spot, please. YMMV!

#1: RealCock 2: The MOST Real

The Most Real; Hyper-Realistic Dildo Art
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $499 Here

I was finally able to make this guide *definitive* once I got a RealCock 2, the most premium faux-erection in production.

It’s phenomenal to feel. I’m still getting over the glow of new love with Dirk, the original RealCock 2 model. (As of 2021, there are 5 RealCock shapes, including the average-girth Jones.) I can’t resist touching and caressing the skin-like silicone. Not to mention the floating testicles, which move inside the scrotum: video here. All RealCock 2s are also hand-painted with silicone then sealed with silicone, so you get the head coloring and blue veins only found elsewhere in porous dildos.

Listen, I’ve reached a point in my life where I feel my vagina deserves the best. It’s a very *feeling* orifice. And this is the best. You have to fuck it to believe it.

The only RealCock2 downside (besides the price)?² The base is super-large, kinda awkward to thrust fast by hand. However, all RealCock2s now come equipped with a Vac-U-Lock hole, so you can put them on a fucking machine or a harness with Vac attachment. And maneuver that big base a lot easier.

Rating Chart

All ratings on scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being “damn that’s fake” and 10 being “real peen.” Click to enlarge:

Addendum: Soft Single-Density

Especially for larger dildos and/or for anal play, soft-soft silicone toys are super popular. SquarePegToys and Hankey’s Toys are the best makers of realistic lifecasts—and both are known for SUPER-sizing it, though average-size options are available too! I’ll talk about those biggies and other not-so-firm, mass-produced toys here.

• SquarePegToys realistic lifecasts include Leo (the most popular, a long ‘un), Nathan, Mel, and Dirk. SquarePeg was the first maker to create truly soft silicone dildos (in 2006), and they deserve mad respect for that!!! See my full SquarePegToys SuperSoft realistic comparison here. The Nathan actual size is the very best for skin feel and my top rec for anyone who wants a great soft realistic—that’s not large. Vs. Leo, where I can feel the skin lines like crazy despite the soft silicone. (I suggest oil-based lube!) And as for Dirk, I’m digging the retracted foreskin look. All these toys are true-life molds of human males.
• Mr. Hankey’s Toys makes many porn-star lifecasts these days (I’ve reviewed a couple!), plus realistic “not based on an actual person” dildos. Many users interpret the squish of Hankey’s 75% Soft silicone as “skin-like.” I think the finish is awesome: like the BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density, it’s halfway between slick and draggy. The soft silicone gliiiiides with lube. It’s smooth enough, but not so smooth that I can’t feel the skin detailing. (And u should know I love the skin detailing.) Since I often interpret “very soft” (about 00-50 shore durometer and below³) as “semi-flaccid,” I like Hankey’s Toys best with a vibe stuck in their Vac holes. Topher Michels’s short thickness is awesome with a strong vibe inside—my favorite vibrating dildo.
• Fleshjack Boys/Fleshlight Guys dildos are lifecast porn star cocks as well. These are about an 8 to 9A shore durometer, so technically about the firmness of an erection—just without the same soft skin feel, since if you go more erection-like for the whole, it can’t be super-soft outside. The bases on these things are chunky due to the balls, but all include a Tantus-esque suction cup that sticks into a hole in the base. (This setup is slightly wobbly and works better stuck to horizontal surfaces than vertical ones, so gravity isn’t pulling the toy off the insert.)
• At 6A shore, NS Novelties ColourSoft dildos are a little squishier than Fleshjack/Fleshlight dildos—especially in the ColourSoft 5 Inch size, which is very flexible. ColourSoft 8 Inch was my favorite riding-against-the-wall toy for a long time,⁴ due to how I can make the thick shaft curve up and hit my G-spot. The silicone is slightly sticky, and the veiny textures are pronounced.
• BMS Factory’s Addiction realistic dildos are a little bit soft, about 9A shore. They’re quite smooth too, so if you want a cheaper, not-hard toy that doesn’t drag, check ’em out. The glow-in-the-dark ones light up nicely.
• Tantus has a Super Soft line too, of course—though their average-size dildos’ Super Soft Silicone is like SquarePegToys and Hankey’s Toys’ firmer blend, at about an 8A shore. (The non-realistic Tantus XL series is squishier.) Most toys that Tantus has chosen to pour in Super Soft are semi-realistic. Vamp, for example, has a practically globe-shaped glans and no true skin texturing.

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Notes

1. The Velvet Thruster Mini Teddy will also work with the longer VixSkin Colossus sheath: giving you an extra inch insertable length, if you like it somewhat deeper.
2. Don’t @ me about the price—we all have priorities in life, and for some people, top priority is the best realistic sex toy.
3. Any density that won’t read well on an A durometer, basically: 00-50 and 5A are not the same.
4. Till I discovered self-thrusting dildos, then I got too lazy to stick toys on the wall and do the work myself. 😄