I was destined to write a best realistic dildo guide. My own sex toy journey began as a hunt for a more lifelike dong. No vibrations, no extra functions (except maybe a suction cup?). Just the most realistic dildo—to screw the shit out of. As I kept looking, I realized that not all dildos are created equal. For example, PVC typically *smells* and leaches chemicals into the body. (Chlorine sex? Uhrm, no thanks.)

Discovering silicone dildos, and then dual-density silicone dildos, was a true turning point in my life. Dual-density is a big deal because EVEN MORE REALISM. With a two-layer composition, you get a soft outside (that fools the brain into thinking “skin”) over a hard inside core (for that erect feel too). Silicone can be blended in all different firmnesses (shore durometers)—it’s the only non-porous material that can be soft OR hard!—and multi-layer toys take the fullest advantage of that fact.

After years of toy testing and collecting, I’ve accumulated a full range of 100% platinum silicone dual-density dildos. I’m a silicone dildo expert and a sensation specialist: I describe firmness balance, silicone finish, delicate lines vs. wham-bam textures. As always, I want you to know how verifiably body-safe options are similar and different; to be able to weigh your choices (and your unique preferences) before you buy. Silicone is also much, much more easy to clean! I will NOT recommend you a toxic PVC King Cock; or the Lifelike Lover Classic realistic dildo by Lovehoney (porous TPR/TPE that can grow bacteria); or a hard silicone toy and claim that a panel of experts thinks it’s best. (Who are these people?! Seriously, do they have nerve endings in their fingertips & bits???)

This guide ranks the best, most realistic dildos of 2023, all *nontoxic* & body-safe. I’ve tested hundreds of dildos over my career! It’s narrowed down from my complete dual-density list. I also include a run-down of realistic one-layer dildos at the end, whose softness makes many users think of skin. All toys mentioned are harness compatible. See the comparative chart for full rating details!

#5: Blush Neo Elite

Vs. Luminous Dual Density

Best Affordable Realistics; Good Suction Cups
Detailed Neo Elite Review Here
Shop: $23.99 to $70.99 Here (most around $33)

Blush’s Neo Elite is the cheapest lineup of dual-density dildos that I would trust is 100% platinum-cure silicone (the body-safe stuff!). Blush has managed to make these dual-layer dildos—whose production requires more time and labor than single-layer toys do—available for costs that can retail for between $29.95 and $35.99. And the feel is pretty good!

Neo Elite includes 8 toy shapes now: comparison here. The NON-glow Neo Elite all made up of the same silicones, each one is a suction cup dildo, but they definitely don’t feel the same. (Due to their different shapes, core sizes, and surface textures!) And Neo Elite Glow looks cool: but the silicone is a tad firmer outside, so they don’t feel quite as good inside the body, IMO.

#4: Uberrime Realistic Dual Density

Best Artisan Realistic Dildos
Shop: $89 to $135 (depending on size)

Uberrime Dildos has upgraded how realistic their toys look in the past 2 years: with a wider range of dual-density silicone. Seen below are 1) Maxime, which has the best G-spot pressure; 2) Optimo; and 3) Teres, great for thrusting.

These dual layer toys stand out because they have thicker firm cores, making them more stable—more consistently erect, if you will—during faster thrusting. They bend less than the Neo Elite 7.5 Inch, or the VixSkin Mustang.

Handmade in Florida, Uberrime realistic dildos have sparkly (and safe) pigments, even in the flesh-tone colors! Independent makers rarely manage to produce two-layer dildos—there’s too much potential for failure. But Uberrime’s Marco has spent years perfecting the process. Uberrime’s Splendid was the first dual-density toy I ever had from a small artisan maker—the ability to pull off two-layer toys consistently is very rare!

Do note that Uberrime models are phallic overall, but each one has some detail that’s not exactly like a human penis: the Maxime’s smoothed-out corona, the Optimo’s crevasse on the back of the head where a frenulum should be, the Divo’s excess of bunched-up skin, etc. These details may be interesting stimulation, they’re simply not exactly life-like.

#3: VixSkin Mustang

The Crowd Favorite; Slick Finish; Great for Pegging
Detailed Review/Comparison Here
Shop: $136 Here

Part of the bestselling VixSkin lineup, Mustang is Vixen Creation’s most fan-favorited toy by far. Mustang’s shaft is a delicate balance, quite realistic when lubed up. (Like a silicone-lube-covered penis sliding nicely.) And though Mustang is a crowd favorite, you may very well be drawn to the impressively large Vixen Creations Outlaw, or the slender Spur.

The glans (cock head) is squashy-gummy soft. And if a toy’s head is that squishy, I also need it to be LARGE and stick out more. My G-spot wants the attention; more protruding = better Gspot stimulation. And Mustang gives that, with a big mushroom curve. The extra-pronounced nature of Mustang’s ridge and curved shaft counteract the “slightly flaccid” effect that I frequently get from Vixen VixSkin dildos.

IMO, Mustang’s head is best suited for hard and fast thrusting. If you’re sensitive, you can go as speedily as you want, still with no discomfort. And Mustang glides when lubed, so slick. If only its weak-ish suction cup was stronger, to stick well to a fucking machine!

#2: BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density

Best Skin Feel (Non-Luxury Pricing); Good Suction Cup; Great Balls
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $59.99 Here

You can’t truly discuss a skin-like feel without covering silicone finish. Platinum silicone can be glossy or draggy, the same way it can range from super-squishy to almost-plastic-hard.

The Naked Addiction Dual Density Dildo has a delightful finish, almost too good for under $60. It feels intriguing in hand; I just want to keep fondling it, especially the soft, scrotum-texture of this dildo with balls. So many little skin lines, plus a *bump* in the middle of the sack for rubbing your external bits on.

Naked Addiction is a great balance between smooth and draggy—right in the middle. It’s a Goldilocks amount of drag. Thrust it by hand, or ride it using the strong suction cup base—with good lube, this realistic silicone will glide beautifully. With its 5.5 inch realistic length, it’s not too long to sit on (if, like me, you’re not into depth play).

So it’s the best ultra realistic for under $100. But the one thing that makes BMS’s Naked Addiction Dual Density not *perfect* for me? The head is tapered, a teeny bit slimmer than the thickest shaft width (1.5″ diameter). That makes it easier to insert anally, but vaginally I like those big ridges for more feeling. A lil more width for my G-spot, please. YMMV!

#1B: Pleasure Tailor Triarx Triple-Density

3 Layers = 1 Dick That Won’t Cost You $500
Detailed Review Here
Shop: $125 Here

Are three layers better than two? I think so, in the Pleasure Tailor Triarx at least. Once I lube the Triarx up well… I can come almost immediately because the realism + stimulation are so good. For this triple-density dildo, Pleasure Tailor and I emailed back and forth for literally months, refining Triarx’s shape and its three-layer balance; then giving it a closer-to-skin finish and a suction cup. Through three (fittingly!) rounds of prototyping and testing, they’ve created for me a realistic dildo with these 3 layers:

1. Firm core, so it’s erect
2. Middle layer for squishy, fleshy feel
3. A thin “skin” layer covering the meatiness underneath

The Pleasure Tailor Triarx is curved, with a prominent ridge, because I love G-spot stimulation. The foreskin lines underneath mainly look cool; they add a tiny bit of sensation below the head as I thrust. (I revisited this multi-ridge design in a new toy for ass play & prostate too: that’s the Peg’Em, currently testing with my bf!) Meanwhile, the Triarx’s veins (especially the big center one) rub along my pelvic floor.

The suction cup is the best one I’ve ever tested on a handmade multi-layer toy!!! Truly surpasses the strength of Vixen’s VixSkin “suction” bases (like on Mustang). I’ve even come from Triarx while standing up in the shower, which is very rare because I’ve moved on from dildo acrobatics. But the Triarx’s arc and strong suction needed that work put in…

My Triarx “As Designed” comes with a Matte finish (go “Mild Drag”) that’s meant to imitate the slight drag of skin, and it is the tan color seen above. It’s pretty silky, but has a touch of printer texture that goes away when I add my favorite thick water-based lube. If you are a fan of glossier, smoother toys (like in VixSkin silicone), then you can select the Candy Gloss finish instead, which is super-slick.

#1: RealCock 2: The MOST Real?

Super-Real-Looking; Hyper-Realistic Dildo Art
Shop: $499 Here

I was finally able to make this guide *definitive* once I got a RealCock 2, the most premium faux-erection in production. No questions asked, it’s the most realistic looking.

It’s phenomenal to feel outside, too; very fleshy. I was totally head over heels for Dirk, the original RealCock 2 model, an extra girthy realistic, when I got it in 2020. (As of 2023, there are 6 RealCock shapes.) I couldn’t resist touching and caressing the skin-like silicone. Not to mention the floating testicles, which move inside the scrotum: video here. But… a couple years in, something turned weird, and my RealCock developed blisters on its balls. Like, something was oozing out of the squishy floating balls. Urrrhmmmm. Nope, none of my not-$500 dildos has ever done that: even the dildos stored right next to the RealCock Dirk.

So, the RealCock 2 is most realistic, especially in terms of how realistic it looks and the detailed skin textures. However. It has major downsides, especially for the high price.

The biggest Real Cock 2 downside (besides the price, and the leaky balls)? The base is super-large, awkward to thrust fast by hand. All RealCock2s now come equipped with a Vac-U-Lock hole, so you can put them on a fucking machine and not have to cope with thrusting the big base yourself. Still, my RealCock swings around that way, and the base + balls size is generally awkward. This is not a dildo you can wear in a harness easily, either; it drooooops unless you have a very supportive leather harness. I used this dildo very thoroughly for a little over a year, which I think warrants a $500 price tag. However, I personally have since moved on because it’s honestly too much of a chore to thrust the RealCock 2 by hand, regularly.

TL;DR: If you’re gonna put out $500 for a realistic dildo experience, buy a Premium sex machine and a dual-density silicone attachment that pairs with it. Together, they will do the work for you—much easier than the RealCock 2.

Addendum: Soft Single-Density

Especially for larger dildos and/or for anal play, soft-soft silicone toys are super popular. SquarePegToys and Hankey’s Toys are the best makers of realistic lifecasts (bodysafe materials, of course: 100% handmade platinum silicone). Again, be sure to avoid King Cock realistic dildos, which are a trash material.) Both SquarePeg and Hankey’s are known for SUPER-sizing it: making many huge dildos, girthy realistic ones, and extra-long dildos too; though average-size options are available as well! I’ll talk about those biggies and other kinda-soft-silicone, mass-produced toys here. These are highly preferred if you’re looking for a comfortable anal dildo; their soft silicone will bend with your rectum. (On a side note: Pssst, if you need a squishy werable butt plug, please check out the Egg Plug.)

• SquarePegToys realistic lifecasts include Leo (the most popular, a long ‘un), Nathan, Mel, and Dirk. SquarePeg was the first maker to create truly soft silicone dildos (in 2006), and they deserve mad respect for that!!! See my full SquarePegToys SuperSoft realistic comparison here. The Leo, Dirk, and the Steve are now my favorites because I just can’t choose: with Leo being extra-long, and Steve being the G-spot (or P-spot) focused choice; while for Dirk, I’m digging the foreskin looks and the thickness of the 1X size. All these toys are true-life molds of human penises.
• Mr. Hankey’s Toys makes many porn-star lifecasts these days (I’ve reviewed a couple!), plus realistic “not based on an actual person” dildos. Many users interpret the squish of Hankey’s 75% Soft silicone as “skin-like.” I think the finish is awesome: like the BMS Naked Addiction Dual Density, it’s halfway between slick and draggy. The soft silicone gliiiiides with lube. It’s smooth enough, but not so smooth that I can’t feel the skin detailing. (And u should know I love the skin detailing.) Since I often interpret “very soft” (about 00-50 shore durometer and below¹) as “semi-flaccid,” I like Hankey’s Toys best with a vibe stuck in their Vac holes. Topher Michels’s short thickness is awesome with a strong vibe inside—my favorite vibrating dildo.
• Fleshjack Boys/Fleshlight Guys dildos are lifecast porn star cocks as well. These are about an 8 to 9A shore durometer, so technically about the firmness of an erection—just without the same soft skin feel, since if you go more erection-like for the whole, it can’t be super-soft outside. The bases on these things are chunky due to the balls, but all include a Tantus-esque suction cup that sticks into a hole in the base. (This setup is slightly wobbly and works better stuck to horizontal surfaces than vertical ones, so gravity isn’t pulling the toy off the insert.)
• At 6A shore, NS Novelties ColourSoft dildos are a little squishier than Fleshjack/Fleshlight dildos—especially in the ColourSoft 5 Inch size, which is very flexible. ColourSoft 8 Inch was my favorite riding-against-the-wall toy for a long time,

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Notes

1. Any density that won’t read well on an A durometer, basically: 00-50 and 5A are not the same.