The Njoy Pure Wand… it’s truly a legend in the sex toy community—praised above any other insertable toy. This steel dildo’s G-spot and prostate prowess is shouted from the rooftops; it has a reputation for making users squirt buckets. Instead of writing yet another Njoy Pure Wand review, I decided to team up with All Male Sex Toys to describe how to make this bad-ass hunk of stainless steel work best for prostate and G-spot. Our Njoy Wand how-to guide gives basic tips, in case you’re someone who doesn’t find the Pure Wand instantly orgasmic.
Nothing works the same way for everyone, but we hope these tested tips will help you enjoy your Pure Wand experience. Find the Njoy Pure Wand for G-spot section right below, or go straight for the prostate!
If you’re looking to pick up a legit Pure Wand (because there are lots of knock-offs and cheap metal can be dangerous), I list the best updated Pure Wand prices below, here.
- 1 G-Spot Massage (by Phallophile Reviews)
- 2 Prostate Massage (by All Male Sex Toys)
- 3 Where to Get a Legit Njoy Wand!
G-Spot Massage (by Phallophile Reviews)
I’d heard so many amazing claims about the Njoy Pure Wand as a G-spot dildo, but I held off on getting one for the longest time. I have to admit: the first time I saw a picture of it, the Pure Wand’s appearance scared me. All that cold, hard metal, curved in such a dramatic way. My first thought was: WHY??? Then I realized that stainless steel sex toys provide something very different than a realistic dildo: weighty, focused penetration.
When using the Pure Wand for G-spot, some folks (like me!) will experience a bit of a learning curve. You see, I tend to go fast with my penetration, boom-boom-boom—which is why I like self-thrusting dildos so much! In contrast, I’ve found that the Pure Wand is about slow, weighty movements—and finesse. Is the Njoy Pure Wand a magic wand? Not quite: but it does target the G-spot with uncanny precision.
The Njoy Pure Wand is not the toy I pull out when I want quick and easy. In my experience, the Pure Wand works best with a good bit of warmup, and with slow, gentle motions at the beginning (see #2, next).
Especially if you’re not used to large (or heavy) insertable sex toys, you may want to start with the smaller end of the Pure Wand, the 1”-diameter bulb. With either bulb, I like to put it just inside the mouth of my vagina to start.
Gentle, Tugging Motions
Once that bulb is right inside the mouth of my vag, it’s great to tug it gently, staying shallow, so I really turn on all those nerve endings focused around the entrance. I think it’s fun to keep the Pure Wand shallow at first, then work deeper in as I get more aroused.
While thrusting the Pure Wand—like with any toy—the key is to listen to your body. Shorter, mid-speed thrusts thrusts work best for me because they keep the Pure Wand’s bulb in close contact with my G-spot. Plus, if you’re a lover of softer silicone toys like I am, you’ll be less likely to feel overwhelmed by the Pure Wand’s impact. The Njoy Pure Wand is brilliant, but it’s not like the squishy VixSkin Mustang, which I can pound into my G-spot like there’s no tomorrow.
G-Spot Stimulation and Squirting
So let’s say you’re rocking your Pure Wand back and forth. How do you know you’ve hit the right spot?
The easy answer: You’ll feel both really aroused and like you have to pee. When you’re angling the Pure Wand’s bulb toward your belly button, usually two or three inches into the vagina, you’ll be pressing that vaginal wall forward—into the urethra in front of it. Because the urethra is lined with erectile tissue, stimulating it through the vagina can feel awesome. But it can also produce cross-talk: you may have to learn to pass through the “have to pee” stage to get to orgasm.
So sure, have your towels or sex blanket ready just in case—if only for your peace of mind. The key with the Pure Wand is finding the right depth, probably two or three inches into the vagina1 (and on the side facing your belly button), so you get that Oh wow, I need to let go feeling. Then, embrace the sensation, because it’s a unique kind of high once you get used to it.
As you become more and more aroused, you may feel your vaginal muscles wanting to contract. Try clenching off and on to speed the way toward orgasm. This way, you’re exercising your pelvic floor like you would while doing Kegels—but with the Pure Wand’s curve and weight helping you reach climax.
If you’re looking to squirt, then the Pure Wand is the one toy that’s most likely to get you there—if you are someone who’s capable of squirting from vaginal stimulation. G-spot orgasms are very possible without ejaculation, and vice versa. But to squirt, you may want to remove the Pure Wand right when you feel an orgasm coming on—having an empty vagina makes it easier to release fluids.
And Don’t Forget the Clit!
So G-spot orgasms are great, G-spot orgasms are wonderful, G-spot orgasms are my god. (You think I’m joking, don’t you? ?) But the reality is that the vast majority of people with vaginas are going to want clitoral stimulation too while they’re getting their G-spot massaged. The easiest way is with a nice bullet vibe: the We-Vibe Tango is an excellent companion to the Pure Wand, or see my bullet comparison guide for more affordable options.
I often make my life more difficult than it could be, though—the easy way??? what’s that?!—so I typically use the Pure Wand alone to stimulate everything. With the big bulb in place about three inches inside my vag, the Pure Wand’s stunning curve wraps around to put pressure on the oh-so-sensitive mouth of my vag and my urethra (also yes).
Dealing with the Weight
Everyone will agree that the Pure Wand is a heavy motherfucker when you’re really thrusting it. When I first picked one up, I was thinking, Eh, it’s not that much at all, I don’t know what people are complaining about. The Pure Wand’s 1.7-pound weight may not feel too hefty in hand (unlike the Njoy Eleven, yikes!). But once you stick this thing inside your body and move it around for 15 minutes or so, the heaviness will start to kick in.
So what do you do if you’re using the Pure Wand solo, with no enthusiastic partner to do the work for you?
Switch hands. Yes, I’ll admit that I have a fuck-all-difficult time orgasming on a dildo when I’m masturbating left-handed. But if you’re close but not quite there, switch to your other hand right before the home stretch. Just don’t make the change at a point that’ll throw off your orgasm!
Go two-handed. This position assumes that you’re not using a vibe simultaneously. (Or you’ve set the vibe aside for a sec to give your wrist a break.) I put my right hand around the outside bulb, and my left immediately underneath so that it’s carrying most of the toy’s heft. This way, I still get the feeling of going at it right-handed while my right wrist gets a nice break.
Take a break! When all else fails, pause for a minute. Just stopping to feel the Pure Wand’s weight inside you, especially while you’re stimulating your clit, can heighten arousal plus give your arm a break.
So What Lube Is Best?
Water-based lubes are compatible with all sex toys, as there’s no worry about silicone lube interacting with cured platinum silicone. The problem with water-baseds, of course, is that they dry up more quickly.
Personally, I think that a hybrid lube—Sliquid Silk is excellent—feels best with the Pure Wand. It lasts longer than a water-based, but I don’t feel like the Pure Wand’s slick surface is trying to slide out of my hand like I do when I use a silicone lube or an oil-based lube. (Though All Male’s opinion differs on silicone lube!)
Silicone and oil-based lubes do have the most lasting power, so I can see why others would prefer those instead. If I was more into using the Pure Wand anally, I’d whip out my jar of The Butters like I do with my Njoy Pure Plug, because I want my ass to be as well greased as possible before it gets thrust into. (Or plugged!)
So what about the Njoy Pure Wand for prostate???
Prostate Massage (by All Male Sex Toys)
So you’re looking for a great sex toy for some awesome prostate play? I reviewed the Pure Wand back in 2013 for All Male Sex Toys, and it quickly became one of my favorites for prostate play. Five years—and many other prostate massagers—later, I still haven’t come across anything that works quite like the Njoy Pure Wand for prostate play. While the weight of this thing makes it a great choice for garden variety anal play, and it’s fun to pop your hole with either one of the balled ends, I’m going to focus on using the Pure Wand as a prostate massager.
Find Your Prostate
If you’re an old pro at prostate play, you can skip this step. But I’d hate to contribute something on prostate massage and make the assumption that everyone knows where to find their P-spot. The prostate is a gland that is located near the base of the urethra and can be stimulated by applying pressure on the anterior wall of the anus. It’s not too far up inside your hole (about 3 inches), but the location can vary slightly from person to person. There are plenty of online tutorials for prostate play, but for this guide I’m going to link to a video I found a while ago. It’s only two minutes long and not only shows you how to easily locate the prostate with fingers, but also throws out some tips on things like lube, gloves, and enemas. You know, for added comfort and cleanliness. Oh, and how to use a Gatorade bottle to find just what you’re looking for. VIDEO: How to Find and Massage Your Prostate.
Prepare the Pure Wand…and Your Hole
As with any kind of anal play, the most important thing I can share with you is to relax before you begin your session. Preplan your prostate play so you can gradually relax as the hour approaches. Soak in a hot bath if it helps. As suggested in the above video, consider douching your ass before you play. It tends to make things cleaner and can help you feel more relaxed, especially if you’re using warm water in the enema bottle. It’s a good idea to warm the toy, too, especially if the metal is cold to the touch. Though you can quickly heat the wand under warm or hot running water, I’ve found it works just as well to rub the stainless steel with your hands. This not only brings the metal up to a comfortable temperature, but it helps you get acquainted with the size, shape, and feel of the toy.
Now it’s time to lubricate. For anal play, I typically recommend a good water-based lube, like Sliquid Sassy. It works well with any toy and goes on pretty thick. But since Njoy toys are made out of stainless steel, you can use any type of lubricant you want. Since the Pure Wand is heavy and hard, I usually prefer a good silicone lube—like Pjur Original silicone—when I use this toy. Silicone lubricant goes on silky smooth and it lasts a lot longer than most of the water-based lubes I’ve tried.
Be sure to apply lots of lube to your hole, as well as a generous coating to the wand. If you’re using a Pure Wand for the first time, I’d suggest starting with the smaller end. With a diameter of 1” (as opposed to the larger end, which measures 1.5”) and a more slender shaft than the thicker end, it’s a manageable size for most beginners. I’d recommend lubing the shaft at least three inches under the knob, but not much beyond that to start. You don’t want the handle covered with too much lube, since you’re going to grip this part of the toy to help ease it inside you. You can always apply more lubrication as needed. Once your hole and toy are greased up, it’s time to work it in.
See the words “Start SLOW” up there in the first part of this Pure Wand guide? Let me second that. While there are softer toys and bendy toys that are more forgiving to eager anal explorers, the Njoy Pure Wand is heavy and it’s solid. If something’s got to give, this ain’t gonna be the toy. While you can work your way up to some faster thrusting and deeper penetration, it’s always smart to ease into things, especially if you’re using the Pure Wand for the first time.
Gently press the lubed ball into your lubed anal opening and carefully exert some pressure until you feel your hole open and the ball pop in. With most anal toys, I like to employ a gentle poking motion, easing a bit more of the tip into me each time I poke. There’s no rule that says you have to ram the whole thing in to the hilt on the first try, and by working it in slowly, you give your butt a chance to grow accustomed to the Pure Wand a little bit at a time. Besides, it feels pretty good to playfully pop your hole with the rounded end of this dildo, if I do say so myself!
Once you’ve got the tip in, the rest is fairly easy. Resist the urge to go quickly. The handle of the wand has a curve to it, so use a light touch and feel your way deeper. If you’ve located your prostate before this, you know in which direction to send the tip of the wand. I think what makes Njoy’s Pure Wand such an effective prostate massager is the fact that it’s really a versatile sex toy. The long, curved handle allows you to send it as deep as you need it (for prostate stimulation, anyway). If you’ve ever tried hitting your P-spot with a fixed-length prostate toy and found that the tip rests just short of the precise area you wanted to target, or the tip of the massager overshoots the bullseye, the Pure Wand might be just what you need to try. It’s so easy to move the end right where you want it, with plenty of length to satisfy everyone. And while you’ll definitely enjoy the sensations on your loaded-with-nerve-endings pucker and revel in the sensation of being filled with this heavy toy, something wonderful happens when the rounded knob makes contact with your prostate.
I’ve described the sensation of the Pure Wand stimulating the prostate as like a well-placed knuckle pressing (and twisting) against the back of your neck. If you’re not used to intense prostate stimulation, it can feel almost like a shock at first. It’s definitely a strange sensation, but it can be a very pleasurable one. There’s no need to grind the metal knob deep into your prostate as soon as you make contact. Use a light touch at first, until you can ascertain how much pressure feels good to you.
At first I will typically align the ball with my P-spot and just stay totally relaxed, not even manipulating the Pure Wand while it’s inside me. You’ll actually be able to obtain stimulation just by allowing the weight of the wand to press on this sensitive area, or by using your body’s weight to bear down on the toy. If things start to feel too intense, just ease up, shift your body’s position, or gently pull the knob away from your prostate. Experiment with clenching or flexing your anal muscles, and you’ll feel the business end of the wand coming in contact with your prostate. How light or how hard is entirely up to you. You’ll quickly learn what feels good.
Before long, the steel will warm nicely from your body heat and as you grow more comfortable, you can try other maneuvers with your Pure Wand. Positioning the balled end in just the right spot and moving the handle from one side to the other—kind of like a rudder—can produce some very interesting sensations in your P-spot. Alternately, you can hold the handle in one desired position and push down on the ball that isn’t currently in your ass, using the exposed end of the wand as a sort of joystick. With the precision of manipulating a mouse pointer on a computer screen, you can control just where to send that knob inside you, and how hard (or soft) it stimulates this spot.
Want to try thrusting? I like to use very slow thrusts, easing the round tip all the way back to just inside my hole and then sliding it back up inside me, using my P-spot as a target of sorts. If you enjoy prostate stimulation from anal fucking, dildos, pegging, and the like, you already know how good this can feel. Increase speed as you go, if you feel you need things to be a little harder and/or faster.
The added length of the Pure Wand permits you to push the knob beyond your prostate. The curve in the shaft allows the ball to press into the top of mine and stimulates it from a different angle in a way no other toy can. Try some really focused massaging on this spot by moving the wand back and forth. Experiment with varying levels of muscle relaxation and clenching, just to see how the sensations differ. While I like to hold the handle so the knob is pushed directly into my P-spot, you can certainly adjust it so it veers to the left or right; even a slight adjustment might make a huge difference in how the toy makes your body respond and the level of pleasure it gives you.
You may notice preejaculatory fluid (precum) leaking from your penis as you massage your prostate with the Pure Wand. The gland produces around 30% of the liquid that makes up the ejaculated semen, so it’s not unusual to see this discharge. You can either wipe it away or use the silky fluid as lubricant while teasing your penis. Whether or not you add penile stimulation to your prostate massage session is totally up to you. Some like the heightened pleasure the prostate rubbing brings to masturbation. Others will want to focus solely on the P-spot. It’s true that some can climax solely from prostate massage. If you opt for jacking off, you’ll probably realize that by stimulating your prostate simultaneously, the resulting orgasm and ejaculation will be more intense than usual.
If you have other favorite erogenous zones, try stimulating those while using the Pure Wand. Teasing my nipples feels even better while the wand is in my ass, and playing with my balls and massaging my taint (which can target the prostate—externally—from the other side) feels great as well. The Pure Wand can be fun to use with a partner, too! Lie back and let them massage your prostate, either as a warm up to sex, or as a way to get you off. I once had a guy massage my spot with the Pure Wand during sex, and it resulted in several minutes of uncontrollable prostate orgasm. While an entirely different thing from your typical orgasm, a P-spot climax can last and last…and drive you absolutely wild. I would urge extra caution at giving control of the wand to a partner, only because this toy is heavy and hard. It won’t take much effort to punch your guts if someone else is getting a little too enthusiastic with one-and-a-half pounds of steel in your ass. Communication is key. Just like when you’re using it solo, start slow and work your way up to something more intense.
Small Ball, Big Ball?
The biggest decision might be which end to use. I think the smaller 1-inch ball is a good one to start with, especially if you’re new to the Pure Wand and/or anal play in general. The larger end adds an extra half-inch of diameter, which doesn’t sound like much more, but it might be a little too much for some, given the shaft is a little thicker on this end, too.
Having used both ends, I actually prefer the smaller knob. It seems to give me better prostate stimulation and, while it doesn’t make my hole feel quite as “full,” it’s just generally the all-around better choice…for me. One nice thing about the Pure Wand is it’s easily cleaned, so you can quickly wash up one end and lube up the other, and switch back without a lot of effort. Just be careful when swinging this thing around, especially if it’s well-lubed or covered in soap. The last thing you need is to drop a big steel heavy thing on your foot or in your sink (or tub, or anything else that could be easily damaged).
Well, that’s it for my part. I’d like to thank Phallophile Reviews for inviting me to contribute to this guide. By now, you’re probably eager to introduce your prostate to your Pure Wand. I hope you have as much fun with it as I have. Happy prostate massaging!
Where to Get a Legit Njoy Wand!
There are all kinds of Njoy Pure Wand knock-offs floating around online. If you want to ensure that you’re getting a true Njoy toy that’s totally nonporous and body-safe, then it’s best to shop at an authorized retailer, like any of the discreet online shops I support. Best current prices:
- $90 at Good Vibes; 25% discount applies automatically at checkout.
- $99.00 at Peepshow Toys after you enter code FELICITY at checkout. Plus free FedEx 2-Business-Day shipping ($30 value) when you select Standard Shipping at checkout.
- Peepshow Toys (All Male Sex Toys link): $99.00 with code ALLMALESEXTOYS. Also with FedEx 2-Business-Day shipping when you select Standard Shipping at checkout.
- $99.99 at SheVibe.
Note: Pure Wand prices will most likely be increasing more in late 2019, as the manufacturer has raised product pricing. Lovehoney has already raised its price to $150, for example.
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- Exact depth varies from person to person: some people even get the most sensation an inch or so in, while others like broader areas of their front (anterior) vaginal wall stimulated too, up to three or four inches in. In everyone, though, the G-spot is going to be on the front wall, toward the urethra and clitoris, rather than the back wall (toward the ass).