Best Penis Vibrators, Cock Rings, & Best Fleshlight: Male Sex Toys Guide pt. 1

Male Sex Toys Penis Vibrators, Fleshlights shorter

Penis toys do more. Tired of using your hand for jacking off and want to explore penis vibrators or find a terrific new masturbator? Or maybe you want to find the perfect cock ring or a good lube to use during sex. Whether you’ve never bought a sex toy before, or you’re looking to expand your collection, I’m excited to offer this top male sex toys guide (pt. 1) to Phallophile Reviews. I’ll discuss and give mini-reviews of penis toys I’ve enjoyed for solo and partner play.

I’ve selected items for all experience levels and budgets, so there’s pleasure to be had by anyone. Just remember that products sold on Amazon are often counterfeit or made of unsafe materials: so I’ll link to quality, discreet toy sellers here.

From the best Fleshlights and male masturbators, cock rings of all types, to penis pumps for making it bigger—and lubes for more comfort. And last, I’ll discuss nipple play toys: they’re not just for women. —Guide by AllMaleSexToys.com

Penis Vibrators

Perhaps your penis needs a little vibration in its life. Strokers (next section) are fun, but they can be heavy, sometimes messy, and require more work on the user’s part. Vibrators, on the other hand, can be kept within easy reach and applied to your cock’s sweet spot(s) for targeted stimulation that can bring you to an intense climax.

Man Wand — This smaller handheld wand massager is perfect for penis massage; in fact, it’s designed for it. With molded penis wings on the small-sized vibrating head, you can savor direct stimulation wherever you want it: cock head, frenulum, shaft, taint, balls, or any other erogenous zones. The real fun begins when you slip your penis into the curved wings, which work wonderfully at delivering the wand’s buzzy vibrations. Since it’s smaller than a Magic Wand, it’s so easy to angle just the way you want it. Add a little lube and slide the curves up and down your shaft, holding the wand exactly where it feels good. Despite the name, the wand works well for anyone, and is fun to use with a sex partner. Once you’ve had your cock sucked while the shaft is being rumbled by the Man Wand, you’ll find it hard to keep it hidden away. This wand is cordless, rechargeable, and feels so comfortable in your hand. Whether you use it for foreplay, sex, or solo masturbation, this vibrator could end up being one of your all-time favorites. If I had to pick one favorite penis vibrator, I think this would be it!

Magic Wand vs. Man Wand size comparison
At 7.88″ long, the Man Wand (bottom) is 61% of the Magic Wand’s length (top).

Sir Richard’s Cock Teaser — A great way to find if you enjoy vibrations on the head of your cock. Penis head vibrators aren’t my favorite in general, but this silicone Cock Teaser is really a blast (in more ways than one). This little gadget looks kind of like a tulip. Lube up the inside of the bulb, pop the head of your dick inside, and work your way through several buzzy settings. Not only do your glans get a workout, but you may enjoy some delightful frenulum massage as well, depending on how deep you can push it down on your cock. (The cup has a depth of 2 inches.) My favorite part of this toy? Unloading inside the cup while it’s running. Feels great, and doesn’t make a huge mess. Totally waterproof, too, so use it to work out a load in the shower.

📖 TIP: Use this Sir Richard’s toy to tease even when your head isn’t inside the cup. Glide the edges of the toy along any erogenous zone that gets off on vibrations.

Hot Octopuss Pulse — This “guybrator” has been around since 2013 and it’s now in its third generation. If you enjoy intense vibrations—especially directed at the frenulum—you’ll love the way the raised “PulsePlate” pulsates directly against this sweet spot. The firm-but-flexible silicone wings not only wrap around your shaft, but deliver even more sensation to your cock. The Pulse fits comfortably in your hand, allowing you to pull it closer for more intensity, or adjust the angle. Since the toy is open-ended, cocks of all sizes work with this thing. You can even use it without an erection. I’m recommending the Solo III, but be aware there is a Duo (with an extra vibrator, so couples can use it together) and a Solo Lux model, with even more intensity than the original, plus a handy wrist remote, to make controlling the masturbator easier. These are fairly loud, but strong!

Hot Octopuss Jett — From the same company that brought us the Pulse comes the Jett: a silicone holster that straps to the top of your cock and holds a pair of vibrating bullets. Intense orgasms have been had for years by strapping bullets to the underside of cocks with rubber bands, hair ties, and other interesting implements. Now you can enjoy the same effects with everything you need in one kit. Pop the bullets into the ring and kick back and rev both of them through 5 speeds/patterns for some vigorous hands-free fun.

Magic Wand by Vibratex/Hitachi — The Magic Wand is well-known as a “women’s” toy, but it’s excellent for penises too. With its vibrating head, you can tease your cock (or someone else’s) just the way you want it. The tube sites are loaded with videos of cocks being teased to release with wand massagers, so go take a look if you need some masturbation inspiration. While the rumbling head itself can make many cocks explode, you can find optional penis stroker attachments that are a lot of fun, like the Hummingbird and Vibra Cup. Don’t forget your hole and prostate! The Fluttering Kiss dual attachment will slide six inches up your butt, while its fluttering stimulator teases your balls or taint.

📖 NOTE: This version of the Magic Wand is rechargeable and cordless, so you aren’t tied down by a power cord. Especially fun for partner play.
🌟 Felicity’s REC: For penis&vagina-owning couples, the We-Vibe Wand is 100% worth considering because (1) included *silicone* penis attachment will last for years (easier cleaning than Magic Wand attachments); (2) fully waterproof, unlike Magic Wands; and (3) super-rumbly power, with a toggle switch for fully adjustable control. My partner calls the Stroke attachment “nice and tight,” while I LOVE bringing Wand into the shower for big broad clit vibes!

Blush Revitalize — If you’ve been a toy stroker for awhile, you may have used a vibrating “pocket rocket” on your dick before. Blush has reimagined the tiny bullet vibe by adding a trio of silicone tips that work great for stimulating just the right spot, especially that super-sensitive frenulum. Affordably priced and quite compact, this little kit is perfect for those who want to try a simpler vibrating toy before investing in something pricier. Kudos to Blush for making this waterproof, as well (given how inexpensive it is!).

Sensuelle Point — Bullet vibes work wonderfully for targeted penis frenulum massage. My all-time favorite bullet—the We-Vibe Salsa—is no longer being made (replaced by the We-Vibe Tango!), but the Sensuelle Point bullet vibe offers a similar experience in a silicone-coated bullet with a pointy tip. You can easily recharge this powerful little vibrator over and over and use it to target your sensitive spots. Either hold it flat for more broad stimulation or enjoy “just the tip” to drive you wild.


Best Fleshlight & More: Masturbation Sleeves

Fleshlights are the most popular and well-known cock strokers / male masturbation sleeves. Most Fleshlights are made up of two pieces: a pliable sleeve that includes an orifice and a deep textured tunnel, and a hard case that holds the sleeve.

So, which is the best Fleshlight? After 20+ years, Fleshlight has quite a few options available and is adding more products all the time. Let’s take a look at some favorites:

Fleshlight Ice — Among the top-selling Fleshlights, the Ice Models are at the top of my list. The hard case holds a squishy textured sleeve. Both the case and sleeve are clear, which means you’ll be able to see your cock as it slides in and out. Available orifices include Butt, Lady (pussy), and Pure (just an unadorned hole). Internal textures vary, so visit each product separately to see detailed images of the insides.

Fleshlight Quickshot — These are short (≈5.25”) Fleshlights that are open on either end, so if your cock is long enough, you can enter one side and pop out the other. Perfect for those who want some texture, but don’t want to be trapped inside a snug channel. Easy to lube and way easier to clean up when you’re done, you can even connect two Quickshots with the Quick Connect and have an instant double-ended stroker that’s double the length. Do you really like your Quickshot? Be sure to take a look at Fleshlight’s newest innovation: the Quickshot Launch. This device holds your Quickshot and works it up and down at whatever speed you desire. Just hold on and let it stroke you. Bonus points for the phone holster, so you can watch videos, look at your favorite photos, or have a hot chat session while using your hands-free stroker.

Build Your Own Fleshlight — Probably the easiest way to get exactly what you want. Choose a hard case, select your orifice (Lady or Butt), and one of a half dozen textures, from rigid and bumpy to tight and sleek.

Fleshlight Girls — Prefer something ultra-realistic? With several to choose from, Fleshlights from the Girls line have orifices molded directly from real vulvas and butts. Most of the textures are of the rippled/bumpy variety. The most popular Girls right now: Ella Hughes, Mia Malkova, Stoya Destroya, and Riley Reid.

Fleshlight Boys — Prefer a sleeve molded from a male pornstar? Browse the orifices (mostly butts) of gay porn stars (Fleshlight Boys) and straight stars (Fleshlight Guys). Not only can you have a realistic ass to fuck, but their erect cocks have been molded and cast into silicone dildos. Fleshlight is one of the few companies (along with Hankey’s Toys) that makes body-safe silicone porn star cocks.

📖 TIP: The end cap of each of the hard cases screw open, so you can release the vacuum and make the insides a bit more relaxed. Tighten the seal with your cock inside to create a pleasant suction effect.

Other noteworthy Fleshlight products to consider:

  • Stamina Training Unit — Specially designed Fleshlights (in Lady and Butt) to replicate the sensations of sex, these best-selling strokers help you train to last longer during partner sex.
  • Fleshskins — This is a handheld sleeve-only toy for those seeking a textured handjob. Grip and squeeze with your fingers for a sensual stroke session. Pop the head of your cock through the other end for some intense glans stimulation, and even stretch the Fleshskins over your nuts to tease your balls at the same time.
  • Fleshlight Sleeve Warmer — Nothing beats sliding into a warm tunnel. You can warm your Fleshlight sleeves under the tap with hot water, but if it’s heat you desire, why not try the Sleeve Warmer? Just ease the heated prong into the Fleshlight’s insides and you’ll be sliding into delicious warmth in no time. Doubles as a drying stand.
  • Shower Mount — Want to use your favorite Fleshlights in the shower? Attach this device to the shower wall and enjoy hands-free fun under the spray. Be sure to get the Quickshot Shower Mount Adapter if you prefer to use the smaller Fleshlight strokers in the shower.

So how to use a Fleshlight? It’s simple:

  • Lubricate the orifice and the fuckable interior first. A water-based lubricant is needed for these types of products. You can always pick up Fleshlight’s own FleshLube, which is available in the original formula; or skip to the full water-based lube list below.
  • Slide right in. Give it a few strokes.
  • Find the right pressure. For full-sized Fleshlights, twist the screw cap on bottom for a looser fit: or tighten for more suction. Remove the cap completely for easier cleaning when you’re done. (See how-to clean a Fleshlight tips next—that’s a little more complicated.)

How to Clean a Fleshlight

Fleshlights are made of a proprietary TPE/TPR blend, which is nontoxic but porous. That means Fleshlights will require more care than silicone products: they need to be cleaned right after use and dried to avoid mildew. Quick tips:

Time needed: 5 minutes.

How To Clean a Fleshlight

  1. Wash immediately after use.

    Washing right away keeps microorganisms from growing: bacteria thrive in moisture.

  2. Never use soap.

    Soap can degrade the Fleshlight material. Instead:

  3. Remove sleeve from hard case.

    Twist the end cap to loosen, then remove the soft sleeve.

  4. Run hot water through the sleeve.

    Remove the sleeve from its outer case, then let warm to hot (not scalding) tap water run through.

  5. Let the sleeve drain.

    Water should run out the hole at the bottom. Shake out as much as possible.

  6. Use a microfiber cloth to remove water.

    You could also turn the sleeve inside out—but blotting the inside with a microfiber / lint-free cloth (like these, which also work on cars) reduces risk of damage.

  7. Dry before storing.

    Never store a Fleshlight (in a closed space) while wet. Also avoid drying in bright sunlight. This prolongs its lifespan.

  8. Dust with corn starch.

    Corn starch is equivalent to Fleshlight’s renew powder, and absorbs the oil that exudes and makes the sleeve sticky. Wash the sleeve again before next use.

Tenga Masturbators

Fleshlight seems to have phased out their mouth orifice strokers, and maybe that’s because Tenga has cornered the market on textured masturbators that semi-decently replicate oral sex. You’re going to want to check these out!

Tenga Flip Hole Zero — Available in two textures (white is softer, black is firmer), the Flip Hole Zero is the next generation in oral simulators, greatly redesigned from their already-popular Flip Holes. Crack the hinged case open and marvel at the variety of textured channels and pockets as you apply your favorite water-based lube. Lock the sleeve, grease up your cock, and slide into heaven. The Zeros have a highly squeezable exterior, so you can add more pressure right where you want it, while stroking up and down. Massage the head or clench the root of your shaft. Enjoy unloading inside? The Flip Hole Zeros are so easy to clean out, even if you give them an internal cumshot. When finished, split the toy open, wash with warm soap and water, and allow to dry while the toy is balanced on the hard case, which converts into its own drying rack.

Tenga Eggs — If you’re just looking for an inexpensive textured stroker, start with Tenga’s Egg collection. Available in both soft-and hard-boiled editions (the hard is made with a firmer material), the Eggs each sport a hollow core lined with its own unique internal texture. Highly stretchable, simply slide your lubed dick into the opening at the bottom of the pocket and stretch it around your erection. These work nicely for semi-erect and flaccid penises, too, and can be enjoyed by cocks of all sizes. Pick them up in individual Eggs to experience the texture you desire, or grab the 6-packs if you want to experience all of the textures. Easy to massage just the spot you want, and the design works well to collect your semen if you enjoy ejaculating inside the cups. Washing them out thoroughly and letting them dry completely after each use will extend the lifespan of these little strokers. Pick up some extras, because they’re small enough to toss in a bag or suitcase for travel masturbation.

🚩 NOTE: Ultimately, Fleshlight & Tenga’s sleeve material is a porous TPR/TPE that cannot be sanitized like silicone—but is more tear-resistant (and cheaper) than super-duper soft silicone. Always discard your soft stroker if you see it changing colors or developing black spots. All other toys in this guide are functionally nonporous materials: see how to clean body-safe materials here.
💡 SEE ALSO: Looking for a nonporous silicone sleeve, so cleaning is easier? There aren’t a ton of options right now, but see the Doc Optimale firmer silicone strokers ($20); Bad Dragon’s extensive masturbator selection (starting at $95; some abstracted realistic, some very fantasy); and the ultra-realistic RealDoll Vaginal Simulator ($299).

Best Cock Rings & Vibrating Cock Rings

As you may have guessed, a cock ring is a ring that fits around your penis (and maybe balls too). Some cock rings are vibrating, some aren’t; but all have multiple functions. So what does a cock ring do?

  1. Some use them to get hard, or stay hard.
  2. Other users like the way a penis ring makes the cock grow thicker.
  3. For me, all of these are true, plus my dick has an increased sensitivity when I wear a cock ring, so I typically put one on for both masturbation and sex.
  4. If your partner has a clitoris, then a powerful vibrating cock ring can help her/them orgasm as well.
  5. Cock rings worn underneath the ball sack stimulate the pressure point there, at the root of the penis, which is a uniquely pleasurable feeling.

I consider there to be three basic types of basic cock rings: stretchy, adjustable, and solid. Plus vibrating ones! Let’s take a look at some of each, including a few “multi-function” cock rings you might enjoy.

Stretchy Cock Rings

Stretchy cock rings are one solid piece and made of some type of material that allows the wearer to stretch the ring for easier on and off action. This is typically the type I use because I can get them on fairly easily, they tend to have a snug fit once they’re on, and I can remove them in a hurry if things start to feel too tight or uncomfortable. The main thing to remember about cock rings is you should never keep one on too long. If your ring starts to feel uncomfortable, remove it immediately and give your dick and balls a break.

Tantus Super Soft C-Ring — Let’s start off with my all-time favorite cock ring. It’s made of silicone and stretches easily to slide your cock and balls through the opening. It’s not a huge ring, but it’s larger than a lot of the inexpensive rings made of cheap materials which can easily break or tear. Being silicone, it’s skin-friendly and odor-free. It feels tight, but pretty comfortable, and I can (and do) pull it off when it starts to irritate me. I’ve had my Tantus ring for nearly 10 years and it looks just as new as it did the day I first wore it. Considering that it costs less than 10 bucks, this is the cock ring I always recommend to first-timers.

Tantus Vibrating Super Soft C-Ring and normal C-Ring
The Tantus Super Soft C-Ring (right) is classic. Simple. To the left (red) is the Vibrating version of the C-Ring.

Perfect Fit Xact Fit Cock Rings — Perhaps a “one size” ring isn’t what you’re looking for, especially if your cock and balls are larger or smaller than the average size ( ≈ 4.55″ circumference/1.45″ diameter) dick that most C-rings are designed for. Perfect Fit sells over a dozen different sizes, so you can see which ones work the best for your size—without spending a lot of money. These work well for those who want to wear multiple rings at once and need different sizes.👇 Xact-Fit rings are silicone and have a slight amount of stretch to get them on/off, but help maintain a firm grip once you’ve got the ring on.

📖 TIP:

  • On wearing multiple rings at once: Find a good size to wrap around the root of your cock and behind your balls, a smaller ring for the root of your shaft, and maybe a third to circle your ball sack.
  • Be sure to measure your cock and balls with a fabric tape measure or soft string/ruler to help guide you in size selection.

Oxballs Cock-T Cock Ring — Sometimes it’s fun to put on a chunkier cock ring. These thick silicone rings from Oxballs have a beautiful fit and really stand out when you’re wearing one. The thicker band gives a snug grip and can even help to thrust your balls forward for a bigger bulge. Want even more ball fun? Pair the Cock-T with the Balls-T Ball Stretcher. Available in the same colors, you can add a thick 1.1” nut stretcher and wear both. Sexy and functional at the same time.

Adjustable Cock Rings

Adjustable rings are great for first-time cock ring wearers because they are fairly easy to put on, very easy to remove, and can be adjusted tighter or looser depending on how snug you want your ring.

Blush Stay Hard Loop Cock Rings — Just looking for something basic, inexpensive, and totally adjustable? Wrap this silicone string around the top of your cock and tighten (or loosen) it with two fasteners that slide up and down for easy adjustment and strap removal. This “lasso style” penis ring is a decent choice for someone who wants an adjustable cock ring but doesn’t want to mess with metal snaps.

Blush Performance Cock and Ball Straps — I used to wear straps like these made out of leather, but they tended not to have a long life due to stains from lube and cum. So when Blush Novelties put out a line of straps made of silicone, I was very happy. Not only are these stretchier than their leather counterparts, but they are so damn easy to clean. Silicone rocks! Start with the basic Cock Strap (VS5) if you’re just looking for a cock ring. Wrap it around your cock (and behind your balls) like a belt and snap it tight where it feels appropriate. You can always move the snap so it’s tighter or not quite so snug. Want to involve your balls and/or the base of your cock, too? Strap yourself into the VS6 (8.75-inch strap) or VS7 (9-inch strap) models, which add a tight round silicone cock (or ball) ring to the basic strap. Use the solid ring around your shaft or balls, and wrap the snap strap around something else. There’s even a 2-strap/1-ring version (VS8) for those who want something around all three places.

Solid Cock Rings

I don’t wear these myself and I am always hesitant to recommend a solid ring, but I know a lot of people like them. They certainly look nice and you can’t deny they’re a good—well—solid fit. The drawback to these rings are the ring size is fixed, so if you measure incorrectly or order the wrong size, you won’t be able to get it on and off easily, or your cock may swell up enough once it’s on to make it very difficult—if not impossible—to remove.

🚩 NOTE: If you have your heart set on a solid ring, I recommend trying silicone rings in various sizes (see the Perfect Fit Xact Fit ones above) so you can more easily determine the right diameter for your cock. And I would not recommend any solid ring to a first-time cock ring user. Stick with the stretchy or adjustable ones! Once you know how your own dick reacts while wearing one, you can always upgrade to a ring made of solid material.

Tantus Advanced C-Ring — This one’s made of silicone, so you might not consider it a solid ring, but I do. The Tantus Advanced C-Ring is nearly impossible to stretch, so it has to be put on the same way you would a metal ring: pull your flaccid cock through first and pop your balls through one at a time. The benefit to this solid ring is that you can remove it on your own (carefully!) if you are unable to work your way back out of it. Like the softer Tantus C-Ring I mentioned above, this thing will last forever.

Chrome Cock Bands — Brass with smooth polished chrome outside so they look silver. Available in 5 sizes: measure yourself, then choose carefully.

M2M Black and Silver Band — I love the design on this one; two bands of sleek black metal circled by a silver steel stripe down the center. Again, these rings are totally solid and available in three diameters, so make sure you measure yourself before ordering.

Vibrating Cock Rings

A vibrating cock ring is a cool way to add a little more sensation during masturbation and sex, for both the person wearing it and their partner. Here are a couple penis ring vibrators to try:

Hot Octopuss Atom Ring — The vibe on this cock ring is a real powerhouse! Depending on how you wear it, it can stimulate your partner’s clitoris or buzz the back of your own balls. It’s fully rechargeable, so this isn’t one of those cheap vibrating rings where you have to fumble with watch batteries to make it sputter to life. Want even more vibe fun? Strap on the Atom Plus, which sports a second intense vibrator—to tease your partner and your balls/perineum at the same time! Both of the Atom cock rings are waterproof as well, so put one on and hit the bath or shower.

Screaming O Apex Tux and Primo Tux — This duo—while not as luxurious as the Atom vibrating rings—can still bring you and your partner some buzzy thrills. The vibe on the Apex Tux is more vertical, so it can either hang down and tickle the back of your balls, or twist it around and have your partner use the textured surface as a clit teaser. The Primo Tux is similar, however the little bullet is tucked sideways into a horizontal sleeve, giving it the look of an actual ring. The same thing applies, though; twist it to your desired position, depending on which body part you wish to stimulate.


Best Penis Pumps

Whether you are trying to obtain regular gains or just want to see what it feels (and looks) like to enlarge your penis, a penis pump can be a fun thing to add to your sex toy collection.

Blush Pumps — I’d definitely recommend one of the Blush Novelties penis pumps to someone who wants to try pumping but doesn’t want to shell out a ton of money on a higher-end package. That said, these pumps are a much higher quality than those cheap plastic things you’d be apt to find in a run of the mill adult sex toy shop; you know, the kind that never hold a decent seal, or crack the pump if they do? These Blush pumps are made with heavy-duty clear acrylic and come with a solid pumping handle and pressure gauge. Your choice of pump styles: (VX7) Trigger, or (VX8) Pistol Grip. Want to add different sized cylinders? The acrylic Cylinders are available in 5 sizes to better meet your own needs.

📖 TIP: Coat your penis in lubricant (I use The Butters oil-based lube) to help make your pump session more comfortable and less likely to cause irritation during or after you pump.

LA Pump Kits — Have a little experience and ready to take your pumping to the next level? This LA Pump Kit has everything you need to enlarge your cock. Measure yourself carefully before ordering, because there are different size pump cylinders. Each kit includes a high-quality acrylic cylinder, a brass pump with pressure gauge, and the necessary tubing to connect the two. Also available in a Wide Body kit for girthier growth, as well as a Electric Powered Pump version for those who want the pump to do all the work.

Bathmate Hydromax — As the name suggests, this is a penis pump you can take into the bath or shower. In fact, you fill the pump chamber with water before you start, which helps cushion your cock and make for a longer, more comfortable pumping session (assuming your hot water doesn’t run out first). The Hydromax pumps work by pressing the seal flat against your body and using the bellows to expel excess water from inside, creating a vacuum which gradually increases your dick size. I’ve had better luck using my Hydromax for engorging my flaccid cock, so I sometimes like to use the Bathmate in the shower right before sex, so everything looks a little thicker before it gets hard. These are available in three sizes—Hydromax5, Hydromax7, Hydromax9—so cocks of all sizes can get a more reliable fit. Like the Bathmate pumps but prefer a traditional squeeze pump? Check out the Hydroextreme for the models that include a hand pump as well as the bellows.


Lubes for Penis Play

For sex, for masturbation, and—especially—sex toys, a ready supply of lubricant should be a staple in your collection. There are several different types of lube, but not all of them work equally well for everything, so I’ll explain the differences, tell you what they’re good for, and give some product suggestions. For penetrative sex and sex toys that are going inside me, I try to stick with lubes that have natural ingredients and no possibly unsafe or questionable ingredients.

Njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo lube comparison
An array of lubes w/ Njoy Pure Wand: From left to right, Sliquid Sassy water-based, Butters oil-based, Uberlube silicone, and Sliquid Silk hybrid.

Oil-Based Lubes

Oil-based lubricants are made of oils, and work great for long-lasting masturbation sessions, bareback sex, or toy play. Silicone toys are usually compatible with oil-based lube formulas, but you may want to avoid using it on vibrating toys with recessed buttons or cracks it’s hard to clean oil out of. Oil-based lubes are not latex condom compatible and can also damage certain masturbators. Here are my faves:

Boy Butter — This has to be my all-time favorite jack-off lube. It’s packaged like butter in a little (or big) plastic tub that makes it easy to scoop out just the amount you need (also in squeeze bottles now!). It goes on pretty thick, but gets super slick and oily pretty quickly. This stuff lasts for awhile and works wonderfully for teasing/edging sessions. I never use this stuff on sex toys, so I can’t comment on how well it works.

Stroke 29 — Another wild oil-based lube that works great for jacking off. It goes on pretty thick, so you don’t need a ton of it. The squeeze tube makes it easy to dispense a small amount. Start stroking and when you reach the 29th stroke (give or take), you should realize this lube has turned to a very sensual liquid. A jack-off buddy introduced me to this stuff years ago and it’s still one of my favorites. You definitely want to give it a try if you like a nice lube when masturbating. This is another oil-based lube that I only use for masturbation.

The Butters — The Butters is another great choice for an all-purpose oil-based lube that’s all natural. It goes on super thick and gets nice and slippery the more you stroke with it. I like to use this stuff on my larger silicone anal toys because it’s really easy to put on a good thick coat to make for an easier insertion. The stuff lasts a long time, too.

📖 TIP: Because there aren’t any weird ingredients in this one (i.e., chemical preservatives), I’ve found The Butters has a longer shelf life if I keep it in the refrigerator between uses.

Water-Based Lubricants

Water-based lubes are a must have for any sex toy collection. A good water-based lube will work with any sex toy, they usually don’t stain clothing or linen, and you can use them safely with latex condoms. The main drawback to a water-based lube is it typically dries up much more quickly than other types of lube, so you’ll have to reapply it more often, especially for longer sessions. Here are a few good water-based lubes you should consider:

Sliquid H2O — Sliquid is a great lube company, and their water-based collection has some of the best lubes I’ve tried. Their formulas use simple and natural ingredients, no matter which type of lube you buy from them, so you don’t have to worry about a bunch of weird chemicals that might have an adverse effect on your skin or body. Sliquid’s H2O formula is their basic water-based lube, and it works well with any sex toy that needs lube and can also be used safely on latex (like condoms).

📖 TIP: Sliquid is one of the *few* makers of water-based lube that doesn’t contain glycerin (especially problematic for vaginas) or propylene glycol (which is hyper-osmolal, meaning it makes your tissues suck in extra water and dries them out). Both those ingredients are linked to increased tissue damage in the rectum, not just the vulva & vagina, so it’s good to buy safe if you’re having either vaginal or anal sex with the lube in question.

Sliquid Sassy — Sassy is my favorite water-based lube, and one of my all-time favorite lubes, period. It’s similar to Sliquid’s H2O formula, only it has a thicker consistency. This is the lube I like to recommend if you’re using anal toys. It goes on nice and thick and doesn’t run all over; it stays on the toy until you can work it inside your hole, and seems to last a lot longer than many other water-based lubes I’ve tried.

Sliquid Essentials Sampler — Not sure which type of lube you might like best? This 12-pack of samples includes four different water-based formulas, plus trial sizes of Sliquid’s silicone (called Silver) and hybrid (water/silicone blend, called Silk) versions. These 5 ml packets not only offer just enough lube to try it out, but they work great for travel purposes.

Silicone Lubes

Silicone-based lubes are made of—surprise!—silicone, and are great for many things. Since a silicone formula is long-lasting, it’s wonderful for long, sensual masturbation sessions, and this type of lube works great for sex (whether you’re using condoms or not), especially anal sex. The consistency almost makes it feel like you’re using baby oil. I never recommend this type of lube for use with silicone toys, only because many manufacturers say to avoid silicone lubes.

Silicone can also stain more easily than water-based lubes, but I found that a powdered oxygen bleach type of cleaner usually takes care of any staining, when laundering is done in a timely manner. I personally love using silicone lube on my stainless steel anal toys, because it’s so long-lasting and super-slick. Be careful, though; it can make your sleek toys extra slippery and hard to hold on to.

Sliquid Silver — I don’t find a whole lot of difference between one silicone lube and the next, but Sliquid’s lubes have always worked well for me, and I know they don’t put any junk in them. I’ve had a bottle of Silver for awhile and it just seems to last and last.

Uberlube — Another body-friendly silicone-based lubricant that leaves your skin feeling moisturized, never sticky. The handy pump/spray dispenser allows you to easily get just the right amount.

🌟 REC: Uberlube is more expensive than water-based lube, but *wow* does it last longer. My partner & I took 6 months of screwing to get through a bottle!

Sliquid Silk — Silk is Sliquid’s version of a silicone/water-based hybrid lube. A hybrid lubricant is perfect for those who like water-based lube but want an extra additive to make it last longer and feel more satiny. It’s perfect, really. If you like your lubes to look and feel like cum, this milky white formula might be right up your alley. Since the amount of silicone in a hybrid lube is fairly minimal, you can use this type of lube with a silicone toy. Sliquid says Silk has been used with some silicone sex toys with no negative effects. 

🌟 REC: Have used Sliquid Silk with all sorts of silicone dildos, from cheap ones to high-end ones, and have never experienced a change in the material. Hybrid lubes are also definitely easier to clean off toys than pure silicone lubes, and a little easier than oil-based (next).

Special Lubes

System JO Strawberry Flavored Organic — This is a great addition to your lube collection if you’re looking for a flavored lube that doesn’t have a bunch of nasty ingredients. Who wants to put that in their mouth? Sometimes you just want to lick and suck (or get licked and sucked) while the dick is lubed, right? This is the perfect solution, plus it’ll work well with all your sex toys.

Sliquid Sizzle — This is another good water-based lube from Sliquid, for those who want some extra sensation while stroking, having sex, or using a favorite sex toy. There’s a little added food-grade menthol in this formula, for anyone who wants some added stimulation.

📖 TIP: Need a little less sensation? Mix Sizzle with Sliquid H2O or Sassy to lessen the potency.

Nipple Play: For Everyone

Step “outside the box” and see what nipple toys feel like? It’s a sensitive area for almost everyone.

Blush Temptasia Clit and Nipple System — If you’re into penis pumping, why not use the same techniques to pump and enlarge your nipples? This set of three different sized cylinders work well for using the Blush trigger pump (included) on your nips (they also can be used on a clit as well). The only drawback to this kit is that you can only do one nipple at a time, but having three sizes to play around with will offer you more versatility in the long run.

Black Maxxx Twist Nipple Suckers — If you want to pump both your nipples at once, consider this all-in-one device that allows you to easily twist the air out of the cylinders, creating a vacuum that draws the nipple inside, giving you a sucking sensation. The harder you twist, the more it will suck. Take care not to leave these on too long or pump your nipples for too intensely; you could end up with discomfort or even some bruising.

📖 TIP: Coat your nipples and the rim/insides of the cups with lotion or lip balm to help obtain a decent seal.

Hunkyjunk Elong Nipsuckers — These nipple suckers look a little strange, but they offer an easy way to suck and pump your nipples. The cups are fairly large, so they give a broader suction, but still offer a decent amount of pull once you obtain a vacuum. Like with other nipple devices, I like to coat my nipples and the rims/interior with lotion to help get a good seal. These aren’t quite as intense as the pump-style nipple devices, but they tend to work better (for me) if I want a longer session. The ribs on the exterior not only give you something to grip and pull on, but they keep the cups from collapsing in on themselves, giving the user a more uniform suck. The Elong Nipsuckers work with most pierced nipples, too.

Nipple Clamps — Perhaps you’re not that interested in pumping your nips as you are in simply stimulating them. I’ve chosen these clover-style clamps because they’re both adjustable, which means you can tighten them to your desired intensity. Like it more gentle? It’s so easy to clamp down lightly. If you prefer something a little (or a lot) more intense, just tighten the screws for a bigger bite. See the Broad Tip Nipple Clamps for a wider grip than many other clamps. They sport rubber tips for easier grasp and added comfort.


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One thought on “Best Penis Vibrators, Cock Rings, & Best Fleshlight: Male Sex Toys Guide pt. 1

  1. Lisa Stone

    April 14, 2020 at 1:34pm

    Great info! Did I understand you correct? Will be there the Part 2 of the comparison? Thank you

    • Felicity

      April 14, 2020 at 5:33pm

      Thanks for reading! Definitely, I’m working on a few images for pt. 2 now, and it’ll be up within the next 24 hours. It’s on all kinds of anal & prostate toys! Very excited about seeing it published.

  2. Robert

    April 15, 2020 at 11:09am

    Ball stretchers compliment cock rings, will they be reviewed, after all with cock rings projecting ball sac for easier handling/play, stretchers further enhance the look😊

  3. MercatorSM

    April 23, 2020 at 6:09am

    Great collection of toys and great article!

    For the Vibrators, I’d add the Fun Factory Cobra Libre II, it’s a fantastic toy even if it’s already relatively old. For the masturbators, I’d add the Tenga Flex as a nice middle option between the eggs and the Flip Zero, though that might be because I’m a Tenga fanboy.

    Also, I really have to check out if there is any way to get the boy butter in Europe, it sounds fantastic.

    • Felicity

      April 24, 2020 at 7:33pm

      Thanks for the input! Cobra Libre is really interesting (have felt, but not used on a partner). I agree about the Flex being a nice middle price point, because the Flip Zeros are fairly expensive.

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