Does “forbidden” feel hotter? Panty vibrators like We-Vibe Moxie fit inside your underwear…ready to arouse you, keep you turned on, during a night out. If you’re drawn to the thought of wearing sex toys in public, you’re not alone—many people find it tantalizing. Thrilling. Crazy sexy hot?! And if you’re *not* a bit of an exhibitionist, panty vibes are excellent for wearing inside your home too: you might have your partner control the vibes as foreplay, or during other kinds of sex (handjobs, bondage play, etc.).
I’ve rounded up a selection of the best panty vibrators out now: Most are remote controlled, with one remote *and* app-controlled exception, the We-Vibe Moxie. My previous guide to app-controlled vibrators includes vaginal and anal options you can control via your phone. But the panty vibrators discussed here are clit-centric. A good thing for anyone who’s more responsive to clitoral than vaginal stimulation—that is, most people with clits.
As a sex toy critic, I have high standards—so I’ve ignored a plethora of vibrating panties that fall into the “why-even-bother” category. True, your panty vibe is never going to be wand-vibrator-strong, but you don’t have to settle for mediocrity either. I’ll start with the best remote control clit vibrator: the BMS Leaf Spirit. I’ll compare its advantages against the very-good We-Vibe Moxie (app & remote), the solid Screaming O My Secret Panty Vibe (remote only), and the strong-but-buzzy Nu Sensuelle Remote Panty Vibe (remote only).
BMS Leaf + Spirit Panty Vibrator (8/10)
Best Remote Option: Well Under $100; Strong—But Not TOO Loud; Flexible & Contoured Body
Pricing: $69.99 Here
I’m excited about the BMS Leaf + Spirit because it’s got strong vibes, isn’t too loud, and retails for 46% less than the best *app*-controlled panty vibe (We-Vibe Moxie, next).
Leaf Spirit is, of course, remote controlled rather than Bluetooth/app-compatible, so you’re limited to the 7 built-in vibration functions. That’s 4 steady speeds, followed by 3 patterns: (1) a hard-pulsing one (on-off-on-off), (2) a steadily escalating one that lingers on high, and (3) a combination of those: quick pulsing beats interspersed with 2 seconds on “high.” And as for the steady levels, the first is low and reasonably rumbly…after that, you move into “strong for a panty vibe” plus “higher frequency” FAST. That’s not bad at all for me—I find Leaf Spirit’s second and third steady speeds easier to come on than Moxie’s lower, rumblier quality. I need a little sharpness in the vibes, and lots of power, if a toy is going to be laying on my clit rather than pressing down onto it.
Another selling point of Leaf Spirit for me is its flatter shape: the back of the “bicycle seat” is just over 1.5 inches wide, a.k.a. “average girth.” Really, the “front” is supposed to curve upward into the clit (see below). As someone who likes wider stimulation, though, I use it in reverse, so the vibes are more broadly distributed. It’s nice that Leaf Spirit gives you this choice, because broad vs. pinpoint stimulation preference is a real divide.
Another difference between Leaf Spirit and Moxie? With the BMS vibe, you’ll also need to keep track of the remote control if you want to change Leaf Spirit’s speeds hands-free. (Moxie can be remote-controlled too—but since so many of us are tied to our phones these days, I can see the app route being easier for many.) Leaf Spirit’s remote is small-ish, but bright purple, so it’s a step up from black or white in terms of being easy to spot.
But it’s also not as discreet to have out in public as a cell phone. If you’re wanting to use Leaf Spirit as a public play toy, the best thing is to keep it in your pocket. (Assuming you care about being discreet.) There the BIG control button is simple to operate blind.
Like every other panty vibe around except the We-Vibe Moxie, Leaf Spirit doesn’t directly adhere to underwear. You can stick it in the open slot found in some women’s underwear, though that method creates a barrier between the vibe and my vulva. Since I crave skin-to-skin contact, I prefer to put Leaf Spirit’s smooth silicone directly touching my clit—then, if I’m moving around, stabilize its position inside my normal underwear by wearing tight, spandex-y shorts. (Yoga pants are another idea.)
All in all, the BMS Leaf Spirit is a strong panty vibe whose shape offers two different clit-stimulating widths. I have to admit I do like the simplicity of the remote sometimes; not having to deal with an app. (I have TOO MUCH going on on my phone.) But if you want even more function options, and the most secure fit, consider…
We-Vibe Moxie (8/10)
Best App Option: The Rumbliest; Best Fit inside Underwear; Discreet App Control, with Customizable Intensity
Pricing: $129.99 Here (& Get FedEx 2-Business-Day US shipping automatically; just choose Free Shipping)
Instead of just fitting inside your underwear—and moving around, or needing to be held inside a slot—We-Vibe’s Moxie has a magnetic clip that keeps it in place. So its bump is resting right on/under/above your clit, you choose.
Grind against Moxie’s raised bump to feel the rumbliest fingering you’ve ever gotten. This toy has **speed options**. It starts very, very gentle, and the 13 different intensity levels for each of the 10 functions progress gradually, toward being not-weak. Moxie’s consistent rumble, throughout all speeds, is the main draw.
Moxie’s silicone is a bit silkier than the Leaf Spirit, above. As noted, Moxie’s vibes are also rumblier. They’re slightly weaker too: I give Moxie a 6 out of 10 for strength, vs. Leaf Spirit’s 7. Moxie is just barely louder: reaching up to just below 40 decibels, a volume that’s not loud—but I wouldn’t recommend it in a quiet restaurant if you’re using the intermittent patterns, cuz folks gonna wonder about the off-on bursts of buzzing coming from your pants.
You can flip through 10 variable-intensity functions via the remote control’s left and right arrows. (Each function has a huge number of speeds, 13.) Or for more customization: Moxie pairs with the We-Connect app. There you can play with the vibe intensity by dragging your finger up/down to increase/decrease speed in the We-Vibe-created patterns. Or try creating your own styles, by setting different vibe intensities for different lengths of time.
If you have connectivity issues with Moxie (which does happen with the We-Vibe app more than Lovense or OhMiBod ones, in my experience), you have two solutions if you’re playing close-distance. Either (1) have your partner control the vibe through your phone rather than theirs, as your phone is the primary point of Bluetooth connection and therefore more stable; or (2) simply use the remote control.
Overall, the We-Vibe Moxie stands out because of that magnet clip, plus the rumbly vibes and gazillion speed choices.
Screaming O Vooom Remote / My Secret Panty Vibe (6.5/10)
The Charged Vooom is a bullet that I can stand behind: by itself it’s under $30, and the power level is good. (Not *exceptionally* strong, but very solid.) The kind of toy I wish had been my first vibrator because it’s beginner-priced, but is still worth noting if you own a collection of more-expensive toys.
In a cylindrical bullet shape, the Vooom Remote doesn’t lie flat against the vulva. Instead it sits between/underneath the labia. (Between if you wear it direct against your skin; underneath if you slot it into the underwear pocket.) Like all panty vibes except the We-Vibe Moxie, you’ll get the most pressure—vibes right ON your clit—by wearing tight and supportive underwear, tight yoga-style pants, or tight spandex. (By themselves or under other clothing, if that makes you more comfortable.)
It’s my opinion that the extra $11.95 is not worth it for the set; you can get similar-quality, NOT one-size-fits-all underwear for less at Walmart. (That means the underwear quality blows, just so we’re clear. And not the good kind of blowing.)
The Vooom Remote’s remote control is made into a ring shape…but if you’re going for discreet public play, it may look odd on the hand. As with other remotes, you can keep it in a pocket/purse instead.
Nu Sensuelle Remote Control Pleasure Panty (6/10)
Best If: You Want the Strongest
Pricing: $69 for the set
The Nu Sensuelle Remote Control Pleasure Panty set includes a remote version of the Joie bullet. This vibe is very strong—and also very buzzy. And *loud*. At up to 53 decibels maximum volume, it’s like having “light traffic” coming out of your pants. If you want to wear this toy in public, it’s best that you’re at a club or other noisy venue.
Sensuelle vibes tend this way: they start strong, and get stronger. This can be a good thing if you like power: the Sensuelle Point is a lower-cost competitor of the We-Vibe Tango. And the Sensuelle Point Plus is my go-to bullet for sticking inside big dildos with bullet holes, because the vibrations carry through lots of silicone. They get around!
Similarly, the vibes in the Remote Control Pleasure Panty really work their way through the pelvic floor. It’s a lot of stimulation, fitting right between my labia. A lot of loud, buzzing stimulation. I would recommend this toy most for power inside the bedroom. The slim, satiny body does fit well between my inner labia, when I ignore the existence of the pull-retrieval string.
One complaint I’ve seen about remote control toys (not app-control ones) is that the controller can’t tell what’s happening to their partner. It’s almost impossible to keep track of what function you’re on when there are more than a few of them. The Nu Sensuelle Pleasure Panty attempts to resolve this by having the remote control itself—not just the panty vibe—vibrate. The remote and the actual panty vibe buzz together, in sync. I’ve even tried the remote control on my clit. It’s not as strong as the actual vibe, but it’s nothing to sneeze at—more than enough to give the controller an idea of what they’re doing to the controllee.
Rated for power, rumbliness, comfortable fit, and decibel levels. Click to enlarge:
These are toys that I would offer up as worth considering, but that I don’t have personal experience with:
- Lovehoney Desire Luxury Panty Vibrator: This app-controlled option includes chat, voice call, and video call options for long-distance play. Like the We-Vibe app, you swipe up/down to increase/decrease vibe intensity (respectively) in each preset pattern, and you can save favorite functions. Critiques include that the vibe could be stronger, isn’t good for very quiet settings, has a fair amount of buzz, and moves around in underwear/doesn’t create enough pressure against the clit. The shape is nicely contoured, but the lack of secure clip is the reason why I haven’t been killing myself to get this vibe in my possession when the We-Vibe Moxie exists. Still, I do like the contoured “saddle” shape (reminds me of the BMS Leaf Spirit), so this toy is in my wish list.
- Vibease: This is the longest-running app-controllable panty vibe. I haven’t gotten around to obtaining one myself yet because the hooked point screams *but why?* to this lover of broader stimulation. Indeed, Princess Previews says that “the tip of the hook … can feel quite uncomfortable,” even though she describes being able to orgasm hands-free on Vibease when using the audio-book function. And that is Vibease’s biggest selling point: the ability to sync the vibrator to audio erotica. Miss Ruby Reviews ranks the vibe’s power at 6.5 out of 10 (meaning I’d probably put it at something like a 5!), while Backwoods Bedroom recounts her experience of Vibease feeling “weaker and watered down with the vibrator jostling around loosely” inside underwear.
- Lovehoney Happy Rabbit Remote Control Panty: It’s supposed to be pretty strong (for a bullet), and has variable-intensity control (you adjust up/down between 3 speeds in each of the 10 vibe functions). The bunny tail underwear may either be cute or gimmicky, you decide.
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