Who Am I, and Why Am I Here? (= About Me and Mission Statement)1
Call me Felicity. I’m an editor, an introvert, a lover of French food and desserts, an avid walker, and a student of the humanities and people in general. If you saw me out with my kids at Walmart, you’d never guess that silicone sex toys were my passion. But here I am writing a sex blog, because I’m a phallophile—a cock-lover—of epic proportions.2 I’m also calling myself a “G-spot diva” because my vagina, as much as it loves penetration, is all kinds of picky. Because of my choosiness, I’ve read a million reviews and done a ton of research (it’s all for science, right?) over the past year to find out which body-safe toys worked for me. There are so many options out there, and I’d love to help others figure out what works for them without too much hassle! Feel free to e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you’re looking for specific dildo suggestions that I might be able to help with.3
With this goal in mind, I’m listing some details of my anatomy and preferences here to help anyone who’s reading my reviews understand whether their own preferences might match mine at all—though there’s no guarantee, as I’ve read reviews about how a certain dildo worked on somebody’s prostate and found that it functioned similarly well in my vagina. Know that I’m not saying my preferences are in any way “right” or that they’re better than any other person’s preferences. This is just how I happen to be:
- I’m in the ≈20–25% of women4 who can consistently orgasm from penetration alone. Because of this, I’m much, much more interested in dildos (and very occasionally vibrating dildos) than in any type of external vibrator, though I do sometimes enjoy a good bullet vibe, like my We-Vibe Tango.
- Because my G-spot is so demanding, I only use my toys so that the coronal ridge is hitting the frontal (anterior) wall of my vagina. During PIV, I don’t get as much out of doggy, or any other position where I’m not facing my partner.
- Most of the time I get off through fast thrusting.
- I don’t love anal sex, but I’m working on anal stretching with the goal of finding it not painful, at least. Thus my new Butt Stuff reviews category!
- Medium–large (1.5–2.25” diameter) glans, and a protruding coronal ridge is good (though not always necessary!). Like many people, the larger the toy, the softer I like the silicone.5
- Some squish is good, but not too much. I don’t like the soft (usually 00-30 silicone) firmness options that many fantasy toy makers offer, because they have too much give/flexibility for me. Fantasy toy firm, which is a lot like Tantus Super Soft dildos, is my fav firmness.
- I dislike toys with “hooked” heads that taper drastically where they meet the shaft, like the Lelo Ella, We-Vibe Glow, and Godemiche Ambit (I’d also put the VixSkin Mustang and Vixen Woody in this category). They’re just too pinpoint—I guess my frontal wall likes broader stimulation than most.
- Moderate (realistic) forward curve = better G-spotting.
- I like top-heavy toys (yay Uncut #1) rather than tapered toys. I have no interest in the knots that many fantasy toys offer.
- I love realistic toys, but I also like more fantastical ones if they meet all my other criteria.
- I’ve become a “texture junkie” over the past year or so. More texture equals a new and different experience with each toy, and helps get me off more easily during my less-sensitive days of the month.
- Balls on toys generally equal slower manual thrusting, so I’m not a huge fan of them. This is related to my next point:
- I haven’t yet had a partner who wanted me to peg him, so I have no firsthand experience with harness play. (Except which brands are good, because again, lots of review reading.)
So this is my blog! I try to give you as much info as possible so that you can make an informed decision about which silicone toys will or won’t work for you. And, by writing about my own sexplorations, I aim to promote sex positivity too. It’s taken me a long time to get over some negative beliefs about sex and my body in general (like I talk about in my series Making Up for Lost Orgasms), and I hope to help others find accurate, nonjudgmental information during their own journey toward learning to love their sexual preferences.
- Above image ©Wellcome Blog. See Wikimedia for details.
- This is not a solicitation for dick pics. I’ll find those on my own if I’m so inclined.