Best Sex Toys of 2018?: My Top 5 Favorites and Year-in-Review

2018 was a mind-fuck of a year for me—the highs and lows were on a new level. I went through big personal changes that could’ve ended this blog: a breaking point, a divorce, a move, and a lot of confusion about where I was going in life.

Besides that, there was the American political climate (let’s not even go there) and the chaos of adult-content censorship across social media (Twitter shadowbans, Instagram account suspension and hashtag banning,1 and of course the Tumblr no-porn debacle this December2).

But amidst all the turmoil, I had a hell of a lot of fun: I got to know weird new people and formed deep bonds; I attended a sexual freedom summit and met toy reviewers I’d admired for years; I briefly tried my hand at being non-monogamous;3 and of course I wrote about sex toys—A LOT.

So, in the end, I say, “Screw it” to all the nonsense that’s gone on this year. Instead, I’m going to celebrate: the awesomeness of the sex-positive people I work with on a daily basis, and the orgasmic goodness of the new toys I’ve discovered this year. Phallophile Reviews Best of 2018 Sex Toy Giveaway

Keep reading for my thoughts on why these toys rock, jump ahead to my best review quotes & pics of the year, or see my biggest sex toy fails here!


Fun Factory Stronic G & Stronic Real

I love the thrust! I may have declared the Stronic Real the “best piece of engineering I’ve ever put in my vagina,” because the quality kicks ass and ooooh, the motion. The Fun Factory Stronic pulsators use a magnetic weight system to jiggle back and forth, so fast, really massaging as they go. Even better, for me the Stronic G is totally hands-free, and the Real is most of the time.

This year I tested out all three members of Fun Factory’s Pulsator II series of lighter-weight jiggling machines: the Stronic G, Stronic Real, and Stronic Surf. Each shape has its advantages (comparison here), and I’m all about the phallic things, so I’m a particular fan of the Stronic Real. But the Stronic G is off the hook too!

Fun Factory Stronic G Stronic Real Stronic Surf Pulsator comparison shot

Honorable mention goes to the Velvet Thruster thrusting dildos. Their longer stroke length makes them feel more like penetrative sex than the Stronics, and their motors are the best of any true thrusting dildo out there.4 But the Velvet Thrusters also have a couple downsides—like the noise level. All in all, I have to say the Stronics are a bit more user-friendly.

Uberrime Splendid Dual-Density Dildo

The Uberrime Splendid is simply the best new G-spotting dildo on the market—if you want your toy to feel more lifelike (rather than rock solid). It’s a G-spot dildo on a mission. The shape is perfection, the two-layered firmness is spot-on: soft but not oh-so-squishy. And I hear it’s great for prostate stimulation too!Uberrime Splendid Gentleman Dual Density dildo pink edit

Honorable mention goes to the Uberrime Helios. I actually use my Helios more than my Splendid because I love the big fucking head (and its huge ridge), plus the 9-spiral texture that rubs against my vulva as I thrust. Because of its size, its flexibility, and all that texture, though, Helios is more of a niche toy compared to the Splendid. But, by the dildo gods, the silicone marbling is gorgeous!

Blush Novelties Avant Soft Silicone Collection

These colorful toys are orgasmic eye candy. I’ve owned my fair share of lively artisan and fantasy dildos, but there’s something about the stripes on the Blush Avant toys that always makes me smile.

Blush Novelties Avant dildos and plug group

5 of the 12 Avant toys. From left to right: P3, P1, P5 plug, D5, and D3.

And that’s not all—the silicone is pleasantly soft too, making them so much more usable for me! Before I got my Avant D5, I assumed it would bore me to tears. But I guess you just never know, because in a strange twist of fate, it (and its cuter twin, the Avant D6) turned out to be one of my favorites of all time.

And if you’re into more focused, intense G-spot pressure, then the Avant D3 or D4 is the toy for that! (Probably no surprise that it’s the most popular Avant shape.)

Blush Ruse Jammy

But wait, there’s more Blush! I love Blush Novelties so much for making truly budget-friendly, body-safe silicone toys that also feel great. I had to throw this dildo into the round-up because, you know, it wouldn’t be Phallophile Reviews without a super-realistic silicone dick in the mix. Blush Ruse Jammy Silicone Suction Cup Dildo featured full length

Jammy is incredibly inexpensive for its size, the cheapest 2-inch-thick silicone dildo on the market5 that I’d actually trust to be quality silicone. (Read why it’s so cheap in my review here.)

And it’s not just the price, but the sensation: Blush’s platinum silicone has a lovely satiny feel, a fascinating contrast with Jammy’s abundance of skin texture and veins. I’m really enjoying Jammy suction-cupped to the wall, especially when I want extra G-spot stim, because its solid upward curve is delightful.

Lovehoney Desire Luxury Weighted Curved Dildo

Lovehoney’s Desire Luxury Weighted Curved Silicone Dildo takes a tried-and-true G-spotting shape and adds something new: weight inside, instead of just plain silicone. The toy’s name might be boring AF, but the flat head, plus the added heft, make this dildo feel sensational when I’m massaging my G-spot with it. Lovehoney Desire Luxury Weighted Curved Dildo featured

And—this may sound shocking, but—I generally find it more usable than the Njoy Pure Wand, more thrustable, which actually means I get off more easily. The Pure Wand is a G-spot and prostate champion, but sometimes…you have to learn to deal with its weight. If you don’t need so much pressure, I highly recommend the Desire Luxury Weighted Curved Dildo as a Pure Wand alternative.

Want to enter to win any of these 5 toys (or a SheVibe gift card!) right now? Jump to the giveaway widget here.


Dorr Silker G-Spot Vibrator

This is a G-spot vibe that I, someone who once that internal vibes just didn’t work for me, enjoy the hell out of. The power is rumbly, with just a tinge of buzz, and it’s strong. But not so strong that I’m overwhelmed by the first level! (Which has totally happened to me before.)Dorr Silker G-spot vibrator full length

And most of all, I love the broadness of the Dorr Silker’s head. It curves forward and has just the right amount of point at the end. The handle is super-easy to hold, and of course, like any good G-spot vibe, the Silker can double as a clit vibe too (especially if you don’t like super-pinpoint stimulation).

Njoy Pure Plug

The Njoy Pure Plug is the only butt plug that really matters to me now. I wondered what the big deal was before I got one, why everyone and their friend recommended it, and then I felt the weight in my ass. That large bulb (even in the size small that I own!) is so much pressure, which my butt loves.Njoy Pure Plug closeup

Best of all, the Pure Plug’s neck is thin so my sphincters don’t feel too stretched when I’m wearing it for a few hours (some people like that stretching sensation—but I don’t really), and I get a kick out of how the loop base rubs against my ass cheeks when I walk.

NS Novelties Luxe Collection Bullet Vibrators

I own my fair share of bullets vibes now—especially after completing a comparative ranking of affordable ones earlier this year—and the NS Luxe Electra is hands-down my personal favorite. It’s not the strongest motor on the market—I’d say that that honor goes to the Exposed Nocturnal Bullet, followed by the Nu Sensuelle Point Plus and the BMS Essential Bullet, for sheer power; and to the We-Vibe Tango for sheer rumbliness.

NS Novelties Luxe Princess and Luxe Electra bullet vibrator comparison

Luxe Princess, top; Luxe Electra, bottom.

But lucky for my sometimes-too-sensitive clit, the NS Luxe Electra is rumbly without being a kick in the pants. That’s why I very often recommend the NS Luxe Collection Vibes to anyone who’s asking what bullet to get, especially if they’re new to vibrators or they know they’re looking for something that’s good but not The Most Powerful Vibe Ever.


I’ve seen too many truly forgettable toys this year to even bother considering their mediocrity. The toys I’m gonna talk about here are in a totally different category: they’ve failed me on an EPIC LEVEL.

Pipedream Fantasy for Her Love Thrust-Her 

When I saw that there was a body-safe silicone-coated thrusting dildo going for under $100—$89.99 at SheVibe currently—I was jazzed. I hoped that it would be the answer to the problem that many folks have: wanting a quality thrusting toy but not wanting to blow $200 on something they might not love.

But nah, in this case you really do get what you pay for. The Pipedream Fantasy for Her Love Thrust-Her (also, that nameack!) has a severely limited number of thrusting speeds and has bad torque (I’ve stopped the thrusting by clenching too hard right before I’m about to come), and the smell out of the box was slightly alarming.

I can still see why someone would want to buy this toy (thrusting and vibration, plus remote control and suction cup!), but…eh. I expect more.

And speaking of epic fails, this other Pipedream toy looks even better!:

Major Dick

This toy is literally named “Major Dick,” so I don’t know what I was expecting… Actually, I do: mediocrity, rather than sheer awfulness. Instead, the camo dong is not only cheesy (I like cheesy, btw), but just feels godawfully cheap in the worst sense of the word.SI Novelties Major Dick Commando Camo Dildo outdoors

I can explain my biggest issue with this toy in one word: the seam.

I suggest going elsewhere for your camo sex toy needs, unless you just wanna use this thing as a desk ornament. *shrug*

Fun Factory Volta

First, a disclaimer: I think this is a well-made toy. Good motor, interesting concept, high-quality materials. But. BUT. I hate the flippy-tipped motion with all the disgust I have for manufacturers’ claims that a sex toy is “better than the real thing!!!”6

I want to get off on the Volta…but it never happens. In a futile effort to finally orgasm, I turn up the speed, only to find that the Volta’s sharp, fluttering motion makes my clit even more enraged on the higher levels. It just doesn’t give me the steady, under-the-clit pressure I need. Other folks love the Volta (and the Zumio too, just looking at that thing frightens me)—that’s totally valid. But mine remains sadly unused in a bag in the unloved-toy suitcase.


This year I published 45 reviews (covering 57 different toys) and photographed a buttload of sex toys in interesting positions for social media purposes. Here are some highlights!

Best Quotes

But the Infinite Thrusting Sex Machine’s first speed is already moving at about a stroke per second. “Warm-up??? What’s that?” I find myself imagining a sentient version of this thruster saying.

Evolved Novelties Infinite Thrusting Sex Machine review

As you progress through the vibration strengths…the sound moves from “dentist’s drill” all the way to “my neighbor has just started a leafblower twenty feet from my bedroom window.”

Hot Octopuss Pocket Pulse penis vibe review

But as for Blush’s second use suggestion, “working at your desk,” sure, I gave that a go. And I would definitely recommend it if you’re looking to spice up some boring footnotes. (Academic writing has rarely been so compelling.)

Blush Novelties Exposed Nocturnal Bullet review

I shuffle into the kitchen with the Stronic G still pulsating away; I stand at the counter, my thighs closed around the pulsator as I munch on chocolate chip cookies and drink coffee. (I’m living my best life here!)

Stronic Real review, on hands-free toying

This is my life as a writer, condensed: I aim for “fun” and “sexy,” and instead I end up reading serious speculation about whether there’s a fifth dimension.

That thing I wrote on mental orgasms (and other weirdness)

Really, I imagine using any of the Velvet Thrusters as being like having sex with an android—who gives you steady, constant, unwavering thrusts.

Velvet Walter anal bead thruster review

So G-spot orgasms are great, G-spot orgasms are wonderful, G-spot orgasms are my god. (You think I’m joking, don’t you? ????)

Njoy Pure Wand technique guide

I swear to the dildo deities that there are twelve distinct versions of what I call the “jackhammer” (a fast alternation between on-off-on-off that grates on my nerves). Let’s just say that I don’t like the patterns, because yeah, I hate them.

FemmeFunn Diamond Wand review

I thought maybe I’d discovered a new mythical creature, a vibrator with multiple patterns I could enjoy.

Dorr Silker G-spot vibe review

But, I mean, I could always wear it as some sort of threatening-looking (but Barbie-pink) ring on my index finger if I was so inclined.

Nu Sensuelle Point Plus review, on the studded silicone attachment

Clearly, I couldn’t let this suction-cupped goodness go to waste…I ran through my list of possible suction cup dildo positions, trying to decide how to make this work. I ended up thinking that maybe I should revisit my dislike for both the “dildo-on-chair” and “ass-against-the-wall” options.

Avant D3 dildo review, referring to my most popular post

Best Social Media

It turns out that you can do a lot of fun non-sex things too when you have a growing dildo, vibrator, and butt plug army!






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Sex blogger home staging, continued: You wouldn’t believe how well these dildos complement the bedspread and new pillows!

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Note: The top-5 toys giveaway is now over! Thanks to everyone who participated!

After all the shit that went down this past year, I think we all deserve a break—and what could be more relaxing than a free sex toy?

So I bring you what I almost decided to call the “Fuck 2018 Giveaway”: all my top 5 favorites described above, plus a $100 SheVibe gift card in case your tastes don’t align with mine! Here’s the roundup of prizes, most open internationally (minus the Blush dils, which are US & Canada only) to entrants 18 years and older:

  • 1 Fun Factory Stronic pulsator from the Pulsator II series, $199 value: You choose either the Stronic G, Stronic Real, or Stronic Surf (comparison here). Name your color, and Peepshow Toys will do their utmost to get that color in your preferred model. Open internationally.
  • $100 SheVibe gift card. Hell, yeah! SheVibe has a massive selection and the site is a treat to browse through, so if you can’t find something you like here, I don’t know what to tell you. SheVibe will ship to the US and 24 countries internationally (listed here), including Canada, the UK, Australia, New Zealand, and much of Europe.
  • 1 Uberrime Splendid dual-density dildo, $72 value: Available in a pink to pearlescent white fade, seen here! Uberrime will ship internationally.
  • 1 Lovehoney Desire Luxury Weighted Curved G-Spot Dildo, $60 value: It only comes in purple! Open to entrants located anywhere Lovehoney ships internationally (see full country list in the “show shipping for” drop-down menu on this page if you’re unsure).
  • 1 Blush Avant striped silicone dildo, $30–53 value: Sure, I have a favorite Avant dildo, the D5/D6, but I wanted my winner to be able to choose the shape that worked for them. Your choices are the Avant D1, Avant D3, Avant D6, Avant P1 (rainbow!), and Avant P3, shown below.7 US and Canada residents only for this one.Blush Novelties Avant Phallophile Reviews giveaway crop
  • 1 Blush Novelties Ruse Jammy suction cup dildo, $33 value: In purple! I love this large, realistic dong. Also open to US and Canada residents only.

Phallophile Reviews Best Sex Toys of 2018 Giveaway

Other Terms & Conditions

All giveaway entrants and winners must be 18 years of age. Giveaway begins December 27, 2018, and ends at 11:59 Pacific time January 13, 2019. Entries from giveaway-only Twitter accounts will be disqualified. Non-US winners are responsible for any duties and customs fees (but not for the international shipping cost itself).


You, my readers, keep this site running. If you’re here, you’re some combination of horny and discerning—both great qualities in my book. Your support makes it possible for me to spend the time it takes to write thoughtful, detailed reviews and guides. My best wishes to you for the New Year: Keep being chill, sexy people and kicking butt!

And without my awesome affiliates—see all of them here—my sex toy knowledge would be so much more limited. An extra special thanks goes to Peepshow Toys and to SheVibe for donating the bigger-dollar-value items to the giveaway and for offering me so many high-quality sex toys for review.

Then there’s Uberrime’s Marco, who makes such bad-ass dildos all by hand (and is willing to pay to ship internationally to my winner too).

Blush Novelties has become a huge supporter of my site this year; check out all the affordable, safe Blush toys I’ve reviewed, and none of them has sucked! (Well, I mean, there was that one butt plug that I couldn’t make work for my body, but close enough. ☺)

Finally, my thanks to the sex toy giant that is Lovehoney for being willing to throw in a Desire dildo at short notice!

  1. For example, #sextoy and #sextoys no longer exist, which is ridiculous.
  2. A big “fuck you” to Apple too for that one—and to FOSTA/SESTA for making platforms and providers scared about liability issues. Plus I don’t even want to consider Facebook, which has long been against even remotely sex-related content.
  3. In case you’re wondering, so far I suck at it!
  4. I consider Stronics to be “pulsators” rather than thrusting dildos. Their movement absolutely does not feel like PIV sex—that statement is a hill I will die on.
  5. With two exceptions, both Blush: the Real Nude Sumo here is currently on clearance for $21.99—down from its original price of $49. Or, the Temptasia Elvira is only $24—but I will swear up and down that its diameter is a bit under 1.9″, plus it has 2.5″ inches less insertable length than Jammy.
  6. No, no, it’s really not, because sex toys don’t mimic human contact (much less speak), nor are there any toys on the market that legit feel like flesh and blood if your bits are at all sensitive.
  7. The winner will be able to choose which after I email them saying they’ve won; no need to enter this info in the giveaway widget.

One thought on “Best Sex Toys of 2018?: My Top 5 Favorites and Year-in-Review

  1. Jeff

    December 28, 2018 at 11:31am

    In 2018 I learned to take care of my own needs and not feel guilty about participating with the masses i.e. Rest of the family. I used to feel like I HAD to be involved. Now I choose more wisely.

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:22am

      That’s so hard to do—I like making people happy, and you’re right, deciding who’s worth the effort is so important, self-care-wise. Congrats!

  2. AlexF

    December 28, 2018 at 2:33pm

    Gosh, I have to think whether there was actually anything I particularly overcame this year, oops… I guess I finally just figured out that I could get other people to make phone calls for me if I was too anxious to do so? I also both got certified as a speaker of another language and took two scientific courses in that language, while also revoking someone’s right to have me speak to them in their native language due to how they were treating me because of it. I got accused of being baselessly mean to someone in the toy community, who then had to be banned by the same people who defended them to me, so I guess I was vindicated there, haha. I also finally got up the courage to write up a document detailing different role-playing scenarios for the bedroom, many of them involving consensual non-consent themes, and even though my SO is pretty vanilla it seems like he’s up to the task, so hurray for that!

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:25am

      It sounds like you did accomplish a lot! And stand up for yourself! And hurrah for fun new sexual exploration 🙂

  3. Ali

    December 28, 2018 at 5:20pm

    I overcame my fear of getting too close to people by enjoying the moment. The truth is nothing last forever and I rather have amazing moments with someone instead of nothing at all. So I am taking things day by day.

  4. Robins

    December 28, 2018 at 5:46pm

    Rest a little bit have fun

  5. Christiana

    December 28, 2018 at 5:56pm

    I’ve learned a lot about myself, my interests, and feeling comfortable with my own body. I’ve also learned quite a lot about safety and sexual health.

  6. Mamz

    December 28, 2018 at 8:16pm

    I learned so much about myself and my body in 2018! Sure my blog does help a lot, but on the more personal side, I did learn a bit more about what was mentally blocking me from having valuable intimate moments with my partner. Intimacy did scare me, and I am slowly making my way around it! Getting back to me and to my feelings, as well as communication and meditation helped a lot with that! I am stil working on this issue though, but I am going forward.

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:30am

      Working that kind of thing out is so important. Congrats. Always forward!

  7. Lunabelle

    December 28, 2018 at 9:33pm

    2018 was the year I set solid boundaries with my ex and stopped worrying what he thinks of my decisions (parenting or otherwise). I’ve also embraced my non-monogamous leanings and am starting to form some new relaionships.

  8. Jing Z.

    December 29, 2018 at 2:59pm

    I overcame nonsense by realizing that the actions and thoughts of others is up to them. I can only change my response to these situations. Therefore by focusing on what I can do, I overcame all the nonesense this year

  9. Eve

    December 29, 2018 at 10:31pm

    This Year I Joined A Sissy/Mistress Chat Site And Made New Friends Who Accepted My Sexuality.

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:32am

      Sounds fun! Having friends who understand (or at least don’t judge you) makes such a huge difference.

  10. Trix

    December 29, 2018 at 11:59pm

    Reading/writing erotica always helps, and I worked up the courage to go to a rope bondage mini-workshop at a sex store (it was surprisingly low-key, so much so that I even stayed to ask questions afterward). Music, good food/coffee, and sleep really helped. (I’m better with words than images, but I’ll try to work up an entry of some sort…)

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:36am

      Ooh, cool! I used to think I was vanilla and now I’m all like, “Oooh, I want to see the rope bondage demo too!!!”

      No worries about the image section, I’ll literally accept anything that looks like it took more than 30 seconds to complete. I’m better with words too.

      • Trix

        January 1, 2019 at 10:46pm

        The demo was more PowerPoint than power play, but I liked it! Happy new year…

      • Trix

        January 8, 2019 at 4:07am

        Drawing e-mailed on Saturday!

      • Trix

        January 8, 2019 at 4:09am

        Drawing e-mailed on Saturday! Attempt at drawing, I should say, but hey…

  11. D

    December 30, 2018 at 8:31am

    2018 was the year I bought my very first dildo (which I heard of through this blog — the 5″ ColourSoft!), had my first (and 2nd, and 3rd, etc…) orgasm, bought my /second/ dildo, and started to come to terms with my sexuality. I deserve to treat my body right! Also, I came out as trans to my entire family 😀

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:42am

      Woohoo! That’s great! I can’t imagine what it was like for you, but I hope your family is supportive. Best wishes for 2019 🙂

  12. Gode Save The Queen

    December 30, 2018 at 7:07pm

    2018 was the year I started my very own sexblog and I’m very proud of it. I also discovered handmade dildos companies (Godemiche, Uberrime, Funkit, …) and I’m doing my best to catch’em all! Oh, and I officially came out as bi, and met a girl 🙂

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:44am

      Awesome, those are all huge things! And you’re right, so many good smaller companies now—it’s really the best time ever for beautiful silicone dildos.

  13. A

    December 30, 2018 at 11:28pm

    What did I overcome…well this political environment. Speaking frankly with my folks to hear their side and try to understand. Also not letting this political environment rule me.

    Really enjoying your blog and reviews. Keep up the good work!

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:46am

      Oh, yikes, I get that. My ex was on the other side of the divide from me, but we couldn’t talk anything out because he was always right 😛 Luckily my other family is pretty like-minded, it makes things easier.

      Thanks so much for the kind words!!!

  14. A

    December 30, 2018 at 11:33pm

    Also bought my first body safe toys due to the information you’ve published here. Thank you!

  15. C

    December 31, 2018 at 3:45am

    This year I overcame my anxieties about meeting my girlfriend irl for the first time. We had been online friends for years and been together almost a year. I tried to suppress it, but the idea of meeting her scared me to death. I was scared that communication was going to be difficult and awkward, that it’d be so different being with her in real life than online, and I worried that we wouldn’t connect as well. That we’d change our minds about each other. I had been worrying about it ever since we first started dating and planned this trip. I’d had fleeting thoughts of “maybe I should back out”. At one point she even expressed to me that she’d had similar fears of not being compatible irl, since something like that happened with her ex, and I just said something like “We’ll be fine, we love each other so everything should be okay.” But I didn’t know and I couldn’t tell her that I didn’t know. I was so afraid that I was going to be wrong. I just had to keep telling myself “it’ll be fine, just go with the flow, take things as they come.” I wasn’t sure, but I had to keep telling myself that because there was no backing out at that point.
    But the time for the trip came in September. I stayed afraid up until the moment we picked her up at the airport. What if, what if, what if. But it didn’t take me long to realize that all those fears and worries were unfounded. She was so adorably excited to see me and she gave me the biggest, tightest hug (two, actually – one was “from” one of our mutual celebrity crushes that she’d spoken to in August) and I felt so happy and all the pieces fell right into place. I don’t think I’ve ever felt as happy and in love as I did during the week we spent together. Everything just felt right, like this is exactly the way it should be.
    In February I’m going to go visit her, and I’m so excited. I can’t wait until we’re stable enough to move in together and we won’t have to be long-distance anymore.

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:50am

      Yes, I get that, I had a weird situation earlier this year where I went to see a “good friend” and it turns out that we both wanted each other but were too cautious to say anything till a month after the trip, lol. I’m glad your relationship is working out, that’s so exciting!

  16. OhGlow

    December 31, 2018 at 6:07am

    I started therapy! And set boundaries. And said no to social events <3

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:52am

      So important to know what you need, definitely. Thanks for sharing!

  17. Saffron

    December 31, 2018 at 12:30pm

    I’m someone who has a lot of difficulty with orgasming and has never had one from clitoral stimulation alone. For years though, I just settled for the “lazy masturbating” of a Magic Wand through my clothes, because getting out the lube, the towels, the waterproof blanket, wearing myself out with dildos, and then washing all those felt like too much work. In 2018, I started taking the time to actually give myself G-spot orgasms, and buy more toys that work for me — largely because of reading review blogs like this one. My overall well-being has increased so much because of this- both because of the endorphin boost I’m getting, and because of the sense of self care, that I am prioritizing my own health and happiness.

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:54am

      YES, hurray for self-care. It’s so easy to set aside when you get busy with life craziness. Here’s to more orgasms in 2019!

  18. Oreon

    December 31, 2018 at 9:36pm

    I’d have to think but, if it counts, I guess what I overcame was a medical issue thats been a pain for years and I finally found a good doctor that helped. Now I don’t feel so broken.

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      January 1, 2019 at 12:55am

      It definitely counts! Feeling less broken is always good. Wishing you the best for 2019.

  19. Broken Mind

    January 1, 2019 at 12:30am

    I’ve had a transformative year. Not all of the changes have been good ones, but the majority have been, and even the less effective changes have added *something* to my life. Not all progress is forward, but still may be called progress.

    A big part of the year has been spent working through depression and serious self-esteem issues relating to social anxiety and a touch of sexual dysfunction. In 2016, I had all but turned off sexually, and started regaining interest because of re-engaging with people online. Talking about sex, reading about experiences of others, and re-exploring sexual stimulation has shifted me back to wanting to explore sexually, rather than wanting to wall myself off from what was often a very bitter topic. Felicity’s blog was a part if that, reopening myself to learning about toys and modes of stimulation, from someone with neither axes to grind nor asses to kiss. (you know… figuratively… heh) So, I guess, it was a grind of a year with as many challenges as boons… but at least it was movement instead of stagnation.

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      January 1, 2019 at 1:02am

      I appreciate you writing all this. I love how positive you are—it’s so easy to get down about all the blah in life. My sexuality was kinda repressed/on the far back burner for A LONG time, for a few reasons, and it was a struggle feeling good again. But I believe in you! Thanks so much for the kind words.

  20. Jacky

    January 1, 2019 at 1:56am

    In 2018 I struggled a lot with depression and faulty medicinal side effects that made me super sleepy. Luckily I found one that worked better for me. Also I talked a lot with someone who I really wanted to be friends with and we really hit it off, which really helped me get over some bad friends. Overall, I feel better this year, but don’t know how long that’ll last tbh.

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      January 2, 2019 at 12:46am

      Thanks for sharing! It’s always great to meet new folks you really connect with. Wishing you all the best for 2019.

  21. Mrs

    January 1, 2019 at 6:27pm

    In 2018 I became more accepting of what I like sexually, and started enjoying it, letting the orgasms flow without a sense of shame afterwards at what got me off the most. I started to take it seriously because my pleasure matters and I don’t need anyone else for it, i don’t need to feel ashamed for needing a good orgasm.

    I grew okay with looking at sex toys and the reviews to find the best ones for me, that fit my desires. I stopped being ashamed of wanting certain things, and I started loving those wants instead.

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      January 1, 2019 at 9:56pm

      That’s amazing! You’re totally right, we shouldn’t have to feel ashamed about anything that makes us feel good (and doesn’t non-consensually harm others, of course). I love your new attitude, congratulations.

  22. Karen

    January 1, 2019 at 8:04pm

    I learned to relax and enjoy anal sex and ass licking. Makes both of us happy and we’ve been having some of the best orgasms of our almost 18 year marriage.

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      January 2, 2019 at 12:48am

      Woohoo! It’s awesome that you’re finding new, fun ways to explore.

  23. Michelle

    January 1, 2019 at 10:19pm

    I learned that I need to be far more explicit when communicating sexual limits and interests at the beginning of a relationship. When saying something like group sex is not completely off the table but would have to be approached with extreme caution should it ever be considered, what I meant as thoroughly discussed as to why, who, etc. Apparently it was interpreted as “she said she might be into it, let me start trying to find a third and not bother her with the idea until I have someone worthy of being that person…and a great way to do that will be creating a group on a popular messaging app that I am unaware will send her a notification with my name and explicit username when I join “

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