How to Use a Wand Vibrator, with 7 sexy + effective positions

Big and bulky, full-size wand vibrators are. How to use a wand vibrator might feel a challenge at first. Where do you put this large hunk o’ vibrator?

I’ve been wand-vibrator-ing for 5 years now, and I love the breadth of a good wand toy’s all-over power.❤️⚡ Wand massagers cover more sensitive nerve endings: Not just clitoral stimulation, but also: vibration running through the labia and vaginal mouth, back to your perineum (=taint), and through your butt cheeks even!

This guide to how to use a vibrating wand will cover all ur bases: From where to position a great wand vibrator during sex; how to clean a Magic Wand vibrator; how to avoid overstimulation if you’re sensitive to wand vibration power; and BDSM play with a vibrating wand!

Best Positions for Wand Vibrators

These are the hottest and/or easiest positions we’ve uncovered for how to use a wand vibrator, over the years! They run from obvious to cheeky and kinky:

#1. Just hold it. The Fast & effective route: Hold the wand’s head right against your pelvic floor, to stimulate the clitoris fast. You’ll be gripping the wand vibrator’s handle so it’s angled to press into your pelvic floor, including your clit. I find an angle of 70 optimal: not quite stickin’ straight up in the air, handle angled slightly toward my belly for easy grip.

#2. Magic Wand booty call: Kneel over the edge of the bed, leaning forward (as your knees are on the floor below). The bed will support your weight. Meanwhile, your partner will kneel beside you: Holding the wand, while having full access to your butt cheeks. Perfect for light spanking and/or groping.

#3: Easiest during sex (penis-in-vagina): Doggy-style sex, wand in front. Grip the wand handle good with your dominant hand, as it sticks out front. Your non-dominant arm will be supporting your torso as your partner’s penis enters you from behind. Lean forward onto a pile of comfy pillows or other wedge support. I recommend the Magic Wand Mini for this position, as it’s just the right handle length, and 53.6% lighter-weight than large Magic Wands.

#4. From teasing to squirting: Lie on your side, on top of a waterproof blanket. Then, you’re going to cross your top leg over your bottom leg, the bottom knee bent. This will lock your legs for pressure against your vulva and clitoris. Next, apply the wand from below, its handle sticking out under your vagina and butt. Feel the vibration. Increase the wand’s intensity slowly, while doing an occasional kegel clench to build arousal. Build up until you feel you can’t take it anymore. As you get close, uncross your legs and start rubbing the wand head up and down over the clitoris. This is how I’m most likely to squirt, from rubbing amidst clitoral stimulation.

#5. Grind-off: Put the vibrating wand on top of a pillow, then ride and hump off on its head. A soft scarf—like a “cheesecloth” gauze, $9—can be wrapped around the wand neck, then tied in a knot under your pillow. You’ll want to stack 1–2 more pillows under the top one, to match your height. The wand’s head will be right under your clitoris and vulva, and the handle will stick out away from your body. Speaking of grinding sex toys: if you’re a heavy humper, do stick to formerly-Hitachi Magic Wands (models compared here) if you want your toy to last.

#6. Forbidden orgasms?: Use the wand vibrator while bound—either with wrist-cuffs and ankle-cuffs, or via a spreader bar—as your partner leads you on / tells you when you can or can’t come. This type of “naughty” play can include edging and dominance+submission, as well as spanking or impact play if desired. Whatever you and your partner are comfortable with. Agree upon a safe word first if you’re newly exploring and are not yet 100% certain what your boundaries are.

#7. Anchored in place, hands-free: Magic Wand harnesses, mounts and other holders can either be D/s bondage *or* they can be utiliarian tools—for using a vibrating wand “Look, Ma, no hands!!!” like. 😄 Options here tether the wand vibrator to either your thigh or a stand, so you can kneel over the wand easier. This gives your hand+wrist a break, and/or lets you focus on creating a scene with your partner.

Mounts and Magic Wand Vibrator Harnesses, Hands-Free

• 3Deviants on Etsy makes straps for all strong Magic Wands, Domi, and more. These are hand-crafted, with an ethical small business feel.
• Liberator wand mounts, Wanda vs. Axis, or Wing for smaller wand vibrators (like Magic Wand Mini, pictured above). Both Wing and the Wanda let the wand stick straight up in the air, the better for kneeling over—as a “during doggy” aide.
• Search “forced orgasm belt” or “forced orgasm chair” for other wand vibrator holders.

Small but STRONG vibrating wands – top 3

What if you don’t want to deal with hanging onto a long wand vibrator handle? Magic Wands original, Rechargeable, and Plus all have a 9.7″-long handle that takes up room in bed.

Instead, for fitting in easier and lower-energy grip, consider:

• PalmPower Recharge: My travel-wand favorite. Fantastic speed range, from low & rumbly to very strong for its size. This lil wand is so much tinier vs. Magic Wands, but definitely stronger than Magic Wand Plus or Rechargeable! Its high speed’s not far off from the:
• Magic Wand Mini: 3-speed Magic Wand, less clunky handle. 10/10 easier to hold onto during doggy-style sex.
• Lovense Domi 2: Powerhouse with attitude. The Domi 2 roars, with few options for gentle warmup speed! It’s popular with fans of powerful vibration. Personally, I find it a bit much, and wish the adjustable long-distance Lovense app control allowed for even more slower speeds.

Related: if you love the broad stimulation of a wand vibrator, and you love soft massage most, then consider the Maia Shroomie. It’s got a super-soft “mushroom” cap (2.25″ diameter) that’s exquisite for grinding against my vulva. I am dying over how easy its short handle is. So much simpler to hang onto if I’m wanting clit stimulation as my sex machine thrusts into me. Plus, Shroomie’s gentle squish makes me unafraid to let my partner use it on my sensitive bits.

How to Clean a Vibrating Wand

A wand vibrator always has 3 components: head, slimmer neck, and body/handle. When cleaning a wand vibrator, the head is the most important part. It’s what touches your genitals, after all.

You’ll need to know whether your wand vibrator is waterproof. No Magic Wands by Vibratex are waterproof, nor water-resistant.

If your wand is waterproof, you can wash it easily in the sink, scrubbing its silicone head with soap and water, splashing away. No worries. My favorite full-sized, the Viben Sultry, is waterproof so I can use it while I’m showering too; as is my travel-friendly favorite mini wand, PalmPower Recharge.

Instead, if it’s a Magic Wand: To clean, you’ll choose between 1.) wiping the head down with a soapy washcloth, then rinsing the washcloth and wiping the Magic Wand head again. Or 2.) running water slowly from your sink, and washing it with soap and water that way. The goal is to avoid splashing lots of water into the neck. If you really douse the Magic Wand’s neck and handle with water, that can damage the wand’s motor-core.

How to Make Your Wand Vibrator Last: Durability

Speaking of wand vibrators’ necks, they’re an important factor to consider. Ask yourself:

Do you intend grip the wand’s handle, and rub hard into it? Do you want to grind against a wand’s stimulation head vigorously?

If so, you’ll want require a wand without a flexible neck — to ensure long-term stability. People who are hard rubbers & grinders are most likely to damage wand vibrators through use, causing them to die faster.

Magic Wands by Vibratex (formerly Hitachi) have the most durable necks, and the least defects. If you apply lots of pressure to your wand head+neck: Avoid any PalmPower wand, the Fun Factory Vim, Le Wand wands, and any Doxy wand. These all have more-flexible necks. PalmPower wands are amazing, but will break if you over-stress them; and Doxy wands run much more defect-prone vs. Magic Wands.

How Long Does a Vibrating Wand Take to Charge?

How fast you can charge a wand massager varies slightly by model, but:

Two hours is a standard amount of time for rechargeable vibrators to refill their batteries. A few wand vibes require up to 3 or even 4 hours, but 2 to 2.5 hours is most common.

You can use the vibrating wand prior to 2-full-hours’ charge, it just won’t last as long that session — until you do fully recharge the wand vibrator’s battery.

What If Your Wand Vibrator Is Too Strong? Tips

Magic Wand Original has only 2 speeds, jokingly called “FUCK” and “HOLY FUCK” for how this potent wand vibrator escalates from strong to STROOOOOONG. Hence, many people over the years have bought one and been confused about why it’s so popular, when it’s so strong they can barely use it.

This will be you if you have a more sensitive clit. I fully test strong wand vibrators, but I find the strongest vibrators actually less orgasmic on their high intensity levels. They push past my limits. I pick wand toys with speed range the most.

The simplest way to feel a strong wand vibrator’s power but not perceive a “yikes!!” level of over-sensation: Use it while wearing underwear, or while wearing underwear plus soft shorts / or even jeans. The more fabric between your clitoris and the wand vibrator’s head, the less over-stimulating any strong / buzzy vibration will be to you.

Bondage Play: How to Use a Wand Vibrator for Consensual “Forced” Orgasms

Required: A good strong wand vibrator and two consenting adults. Optional: Bondage gear, including any of a spreader bar, wrist cuffs, and a blindfold — so they can focus on the feel of it all, not on distracting visual input.

First, set the mood. Everyone’s gotta be ready, in the right headspace to get good and into the magic wand bondage play.

The dom, of course, is the one who’s really in charge of what’ll happen. What do they want: Will they tease and edge their submissive partner; will they allow a body massage, a teasing feather, sensual stroking first? Or are they in it to direct their sub straight to getting put in the bondage chair, ordered to sit on the wand instantly?

And the orgasms. This will depend on your vibrator, and on your sub’s sensitivity + willingness to please their dom. Vibrators without low speeds (like MW Original or Viben Obsession wand) are harder to hold off on and are more “orgasm torture.” While other wand toys have lower speeds, letting the tension build before crescendo.

I’d say: Up the speed every couple minutes, while ordering the sub that they’re not allowed to orgasm on the lower intensity levels. Make them whimper. Make them cross their legs. Tell them that they should rub their clitoris on the wand vibrator…lightly, as you watch.

How this magic wand bondage climaxes, is ultimately between you two. My ideal ending: I hope you crank the vibration up to the max. at the end, and order them to come finally, and squirt all over.

Enjoy your play, as you explore how to use a wand vibrator!