Dildo with Handle Guide – We Tested Sex Toys for Better Grip!

A dildo with handle has 2 big benefits: it lets your sex partner thrust harder & deeper into you, or it’s easier if you’re working to reach around your body!

I define a “handle” as a longer extension from the dildo’s base: A grip you can really hold on to, not a simple suction cup base or small balls on a realistic dildo. Unfortunately, safe be-handled dildos with a good long grip are strangely rare: many, like Doc Johnson’s, are in gross PVC!

So, we’ve rounded up a small selection of body-safe silicone dildos with handle, plus one stainless steel dildo with handle attachment for extra pressure & slickness. I’ll compare each handle-equipped dildo or vibrator, give pros & cons, and discuss my & my partner’s experiences — versus the very easiest thrusting option, a sex machine: no dildo handle necessary.

Best-Of Dildo Handles Quick Recap:

Ask yourself (1) whether you want a firm toy, vs. a soft & realistic dildo; and (2) should it vibrate?

Nonvibrating Dildos with Handle

Rascal Jocks & Boneyard Cocks – Realistic Silicone Dildos with Handle

Pros: Phallic shape for fans of realism; skin detailing; Sturdiest dildo handle. Imposing size!
Cons: No vibration; Silicone is a lil draggy and fairly soft, but not super-soft. Only in girthy sizes.
Currently $73.49 to $84.49 (Check Price here)

The best dildo handle overall because it’s so firm, with decent finger-holds. The Rascal/Boneyard dildos’ handle is solid and unyielding, supported by a metal core. It’s silicone-coated with gentle notches for grip:

The handle on these two toys (tan-colored here; or black here) is removable, so that you can swap in a suction cup base instead if you like. The handle plug will also fit into Vac-hole dildos like SquarePegHoles in SuperSoft silicone, if you like a gentler feel. The Boneyard/Rascal toys are as hard as an erection, but lack a soft-skin feel. And they’re significantly thicker than median penis size!

Boneyard Rascal Cocks dildo with handle for shower
The dildo’s handle attachment here is also useful for thrusting in the shower: less slippery vs. trying to ride a suction cup dildo.

I lube mine up with hybrid lubricant and have liked my partner thrusting it gently, nice slow strokes, building up to pound me a lil harder at last. It’s sexy, though not as hot for me as a dual-density dildo (which I prefer for ultra-realistic effect).

Tantus Echo Handle

Pros: OG dildo with handle; Stimulating ridges; More average girth; Non-realistic shape will appeal to some.
Cons: Wiggly handle. Not for gentler pressure.
Currently $52.00 (Check Price here)

Perhaps the first body-safe silicone dildo with handle, by the pioneer silicone brand Tantus (founded 1997).

Years ago, I thought the Echo (vibrating) dildo was very fun in softer silicone. I loved that Echo dildo’s gentle pop-pop-pop, ridges on repeat, thrusting against my G-spot. Handled Echo is harder, a 40A Shore silicone. Silicone is the only body-safe material that can be soft—in a range of different “densities”—but it can also be hard! That’s awesome because truly, different strokes for different folks. But, Echo Handle’s firm silicone doesn’t suit my taste for gentler & softer.

The Echo Handle dildo’s silicone has zero *squish*.

Echo Handle will be a better bet for anyone who loves pressure inside (vaginally or anally), smoothly rippling. The silicone ridges are smoothed out, and glide well with hybrid lubricant. Interestingly, since the Echo’s handle thins out to only 1.1″ diameter, it’s the most flexible part of the toy. The Echo Handle’s total length is 11.5 inches, of which 4.25 inches comprise the handle.

Tantus Echo Handle flexibility in hand

Using Extra-LONG Dildos’ Shafts As a Handle

My first favorite dual-density dildo was almost 8 inches insertable length, and I can only take 5.5 inches vaginally: The extra inches were a shaft-handle I could choke up on, while thrusting the dildo into my vagina! Currently, I’d pick the Leo by SquarePegToys first as the best extra-long dildo where the shaft length acts as a handle for my not-long hole.

SquarePegToys Leo dildo review - Actual size vs. arm

You can also use a double dildo’s extra length as a handle: that’s easier if a partner is the one thrusting a long, straight dildo like the Colours Pleasure Double! That one is made of NS Novelties’ firm silicone, so it’ll bend a little, but isn’t über-flexible to curve into the dildo-taker’s body.

Glass Dildos with Hand Grips

The following glass dildos have a textured lower section that can be gripped better than a slick, lubed-up shaft by itself. It’s still not the lengthy extension that a dildo with separate handle provides, but it may be enough extra to hold onto depending on your taste & needs.

Blown Double-Ended With Twist Glass Dildo in hand
  • Blown Double Ended: Either the twisty-twirly section or the phallic-headed end can be the handle—you choose which end to insert & which to grip!
  • Chrystalino Planets: Its large bottom bulb is good to hang onto. This is bumpy G-spot or prostate stimulation, great if you want *a lot* of extra feeling when moving the dildo in and out.
  • Icicles No. 70: Wavy-curvy, this dildo’s got a ~ shape where you use the smoller end to hold onto. Rock it gently for best pressure!
  • Heart of Glass dildo: A glass classic, the Heart-handle lets you angle this toy’s rounded tip inward, for G-spot targeting.
My Review Criteria

All body-safe, zero BS. I only recommend body-safe toys, no bullshit and no paid promos. If I wouldn’t give a toy to a close friend, then I won’t recommend it to you, either. I’ve tested over 750 vibrators, 500 dildos, and 120 butt plugs (and an array of cock rings, kink gear, and lubes!). Everyone’s preferences vary, so I rate vibrating toys by 1. power level and 2. rumbliness; and always describe how my personal tastes color my experience.

Vibrating Handled Sex Toys

Smartee – Silicone Vibrating Dildo w/ Handle

Vibration power: 7.0/10 on high. Function #1 is rumbliest.
Pros: Strong G-spotting head; Flexible shaft (more gentle, wraps around pubic bone); Silicone is more skin-like than slick metal.
Cons: May require more lubricant than metal; Some folks will prefer more realistic penetration.
Currently $49.99 (CHECK PRICE here)

This is the best G-spot dildo with handle I own. The Smartee is just the right amount of G-spot focus for me. Its head connects with the spot as I thrust, as the Smartee’s lower shaft flexes to wrap around my pubic bone.

Smartee vibrating dildo vs. L'Acier Capo - G-spot stimulation curve, come hither motion
Come-hither stroking: So much easier with a G-spot dildo vs. with my fingers. Smartee vibrating silicone dildo without handle attachment, top; Capo steel dildo, bottom.

Letting my boyfriend use the Smartee has been my best handled-toy experience overall. It showed us how a handled dildo can deliver extra depth and more intensity. I really like my G-spot stroked from above, the down-stroke is most sensational, so the handle (angled sideways) let him get a lil deeper and work on that perfect stroke — as he was sitting beside me, while I lay back on pillows in bed.

Smartee-G-spot-vibrating-dildo-with-handle in hand

The vibration is respectable: pretty strong, rumbly on the lower levels. (Smartee has 10 vibration functions total built into its shaft: 3 steady speeds + 7 rhythms.)

Capo – Stainless Steel Vibrating Dildo w/ Handle

Vibration power: 6.5/10 on high. Somewhat buzzy.
Pros: Super-slick finish glides; Extra-firm pressure; seriously strong G-spotting.
Cons: Stainless steel absorbs more vibration strength; included bullet vibrator is higher-pitched than in Smartee. Not for die-hard fans of softer, realistic dildos: this is pressure!
Currently $139.00 for Dildo + Vibe + Handles Here

Capo by L’Acier / Velvet Co. is the same shape as the Smartee above: except it’s so much denser (=harder). And slicker too!!! The stainless steel delivers so much heft in the G-spotting head. It seriously homes in.

Smartee maternity vibrator dildo with handle, flexibility, vs. L'Acier Capo stainless steel dildo with handle
Capo stainless steel, left; Smartee flexing, right.

I’m averse to extreme pressure, so I do personally prefer Smartee’s silicone. I would not give this to a partner to use on me, since I feel too much. But many folks feel differently, they love the extreme firmness of stainless steel like in the legendary Njoy Pure Wand. Steel also glides smoother than silicone, less drag. Plus, you can easily clean silicone lubricant off of Capo. (And silicone lube is often the best option for vaginas that’ve been troubled by sensitivity to water-based lubricants!)

Wellness Eternal Wand – Longest-Handle Vibrator

Vibration power: 9.5/10 on high.
Pros: Very strong vibration. Long & firm handle stands up to pressure. Great for bigger bodies. Remote control included.
Cons: Clitoral, but the 2.3″ long head could be inserted (it’s waterproof and not wide, 1.5″ diameter). Not-very-rumbly vibration.
Currently $119.50 (CHECK PRICE here)

The Wellness Eternal vibe’s handle flattens out for grip, and it’s 52% lighter-weight vs. Magic Wand: 📊Full comparison chart here.

Wellness Eternal Wand vibrator review accessible angled handle

The “Eternal Wand” is powerful. Strong vibrations, though not deep-pitched vibrations. It has 5 steady speeds, 5 patterns, and a remote you can use with your partner too (or on your own!🙌).

My boyfriend immediately declared it was the easiest vibrator to use we’ve ever tried together, like 15 seconds into our first sessions with the Wellness Eternal Wand. I think the power is rockin’, and aggressive. It’s a little much for my personal tastes (I actually find very strong vibrators harder to orgasm on, I prefer moderately strong & rumbly ones). So, it’s a better fit for people who do crave more vibration strength.

Eternal-Wand-angled-handle-how-to-use

It’s super cool that you can also use the very-firm Eternal Wand handle like a lever, so you push forward and it presses backward, harder into the vulva.

wellness eternal wand vibrator responsive handle action

Viben Sultry – Most Ergonomic Wand Handle

Vibration power: 8.25/10 on high. Very rumbly through the first 5 speeds (out of 8 intensity levels). Good speed range.
Pros: Light-weight for a wand; curvy handle makes it easier to hold;
Cons: Clitoral, not insertable, unless you like wide toys.
Currently $81.00 here with code PHAL10 at checkout

❤️ My go-to large wand because it’s just so much easier to hold vs. Magic Wand’s thick cylinder. Sultry’s handle curves inward, so it’s slimmer and simpler to choke up on. This is really useful if holding the Sultry during doggy-style sex, for one.

Viben Sultry vs Magic Wand vibrator handle size

The 8 intensity levels have a good range from low and very rumbly, to quite strong (8.25/10 power) and still rumbly enough (8/10 for rumbliness on high vibration intensity). My boyfriend agrees that maneuvering Sultry is simple, as we’ve often used it as foreplay tool. (Overall, he does think the Wellness Eternal Wand, above, is the very best grip for him; but I prefer the Sultry’s lower, rumblier warmup speeds!)

Sex Machines – Hands-Free Thrusting Power

A good sex machine / fucking machine is an investment, but one that’s sooo worth it if you like thrusting and motion. Watching a partner take a dildo mounted on a sex machine is extremely hot.

And, it’s much lazier than needing to jerk the dildo by hand(le). Especially if you want to enjoy a long-running or slower-stroking penetration session. Mind-blowing, is all. Fantastic. My machine is a must-have in my sex life:

My Hismith Premium has been a standby for 3 years now, and I’m incredibly pleased with its performance. It holds up well for vaginal and anal sex, with all but monster-sized dildos. It’s much more vigorous vs. the other two $400 machines I’ve tested, and also more impactful vs. the “basic” Hismith thrusting dildo machines (which are beginner-friendly, but don’t have the torque of the 100W-motor Premium machines).

Hismith premium sex machine review featured Phallophile Reviews

It’s wall-outlet-powered (plug-in), so it will keep running and running and running, as long as you want. For clit-havers: I’d suggest pairing a Hismith machine with either: (1) a no-grip bullet vibrator, (2) small-but-strong wand vibrator, or (3) a soft-capped shroom vibe if you like squishy grinding like I do. Enjoy!!!


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