If you’re like me, when you bought your first sex toy, you were anxious and probably didn’t know what the flying fuck you were looking for. If you’re like me, you just headed over to Amazon, read whatever reviews were there, and then based your purchase on those. Or maybe you trolled around Adam & Eve and finally worked up the nerve to buy that 2″-thick (but PVC!) cock because it had such great reviews!
Why Material Safety Matters
Sex toys are unregulated, so they can be porous and even toxic. Sadly, many sex toy manufacturers have no qualms about selling potentially harmful products—like PVC and and jelly dildos—to consumers, as long as they’re making a buck. Likewise, on Amazon there’s very little oversight; products aren’t tested, and sellers can claim that a very, very cheap dildo (say, $8 for an average size) is “medical grade silicone.”
It’s pretty obvious why “toxic” toys—which contain phthalates and any number of other chemical additives1 you don’t want in/on your body—are bad, but porous toys might not seem immediately dangerous. Many porous toys are now claiming to be “phthalate-free” in order to give the appearance of being safe. However, these toys can never be properly sanitized. The porous materials that they’re made of will begin to breed bacteria and other harmful microorganisms as soon as you begin using them, and it only gets worse with time (and heat and sunlight). Antibacterial cleaners can’t fully clean these unsafe materials.2
So What Is Safe?
The abundance of porous and toxic toys on the market means that it’s super important for us, the buyers, to know about material safety and reputable sex toy vendors before we make a purchase—before we use a porous PVC toy that leaches chemicals into our bodies or gives us a persistent itch where we least want it.
The following materials are considered safe for internal use:
- Silicone (platinum-cure)
- ABS plastic (generally safe)
- Certain metals, like stainless steel, aluminum, and titanium, when coated properly
- Glass, wood, stone, and ceramic under certain conditions3
All of these materials can be sanitized by being boiled (if there are no mechanical parts) and/or by being soaked in a 10%-bleach solutions, among other methods. These cleaning methods allow the toy’s surface to be completely disinfected, whenever you want.
Because silicone is the only material on the list that doesn’t have to be super hard, it’s my preferred sex toy material. But not all silicone is the same: higher densities, or shore durometers/shore strengths, of silicone can still be pretty damn firm! Check out my Silicone Dildo Firmnesses guide for more info.
While there are many different grades and qualities of silicone, toys labeled “silicone” and sold by reputable online sex shops and independent toy makers4—not random Amazon sellers, because knock-offs abound—should be body-safe.
- The Redhead Bedhead’s article “How To Avoid a Toxic Relationship…With Your Dildo” has a complete listing of harmful additives used in sex toys.
- See Dangerous Lilly’s (correct) opinion that antibacterial toy cleaners are “worthless” overall.
- See the section “Which Sex Toy Materials Are Safe?” in Dangerous Lilly’s Toxic Toys guide. This is the best resource out there about sex toy material safety.
- See my Where to Shop post for recommendations and more info about buying options.
- Though vibrators, like the We-Vibe Tango, do have a tendency to die after a year or two, depending on how frequently you use them.
- See my reviews of the Blush Novelties Ruse Magic Stick and the NS Novelties ColourSoft 8″ for examples of inexpensive silicone dildos that I enjoy.