Do You *Porn*? On Sex Toys & Turn-Ons, Feat. Aurora by Bellesa

We all have different arousal styles… So how do you get there? I’m here to say, basically everything¹ is normal. I recently took a journey with a new vibe, the Aurora sex toy by Bellesa, both literally and figuratively. I’d seen the Aurora, a small black (or purple) vibe that can be for G-spot or clit, in one of Bellesa’s arty porn vids—featuring a girl-on-girl couple, in fact. (They were pretty cute.) And I took it upon myself to pick up one of these vibes and dive into a porn exploration…

Aurora

I also want to describe this vibe as “cute”! Especially in the purple version here, when then golden paneling on one side lights up teal—more on Aurora’s color-changing capacity in a second.

Defined as a G-spot vibrator, the Aurora by Bellesa is a compact toy. It’s 6.5 inches total length, not too short; but 3 inches insertable length, and 1.25 inches diameter in the G-spot-capable bulb.

Of course it can be a clit vibe too, which is actually my preference. Aurora’s body is pretty slim, and flexible, so it does curve with your body some: the neck flexes when you push it hard against your form. That’s good for anyone who dislikes really aggressive pressure / values comfort when using a sex toy along with a partner.

What about the functions? Aurora by Bellesa has 7 of them: 3 steady, and 4 patterns. It starts out humming, and ends practically growling on that top speed, #3.

Aurora’s most unique trait (a.k.a. the really cool thing) is how the golden ABS plastic panel on the side changes color, a different hue for each of the 7 functions. Red, green, blue, lime, aqua, purple, yellow—and then alternating between all those when you make a full cycle and it’s on standby.

And, of course it’s USB rechargeable and waterproof, and packaged in a sleek box. Aurora’s functions are all controlled by the golden power button at the very bottom, and I’ve found the battery life is a couple hours long, so plenty of run time.

So how would you want to use Aurora, and how did I? Since Aurora is by Bellesa,² a porn studio, I wanted to write about gettin’ turned on, and the ways we reach better orgasms.

What’s Your Porn Style?

Here’s my own confession, want to hear it? I didn’t watch any porn until I was in my early thirties. Of course I’d seen snippets, erotic shots of people sexing it up, but I fantasized creatively in my head; explored the sultry written word; and then I got into audio porn. It was a progression!

Visual porn’s a very popular form of sexy media, for sure; the most common erotic aid.

But not the only one—and it’s fine whether you watch porn every time you get off, or you never do.

Again, because our desires and turn-ons truly vary person to person: how much we need someone else to get us going, whether we need stimulation other than our own hands (like toys!!!), and how visual vs. auditory we are.

I was 32 years old when my new lover sent me a clip of a woman deep-throating a very long cock, and I watched it out of solidarity with him. I have to say I was confused about the point of this porn; it seemed more awkward than hot.

Standard visual porn is often criticized for being what’s called “male gaze”: focusing on male pleasure, with less attention to the vagina-having partner’s satisfaction; or holding to stereotypical tropes like that all women always come easily from a big dick.

There are more typically “female” forms of porn, that’s true: like written erotica (spicy romance novels?); sexy audio books; and audio porn to a large degree. I’m a woman, I like words a lot, so I will have to exemplify the stereotype here.

Because I had to keep looking to find porn that was sexy to me, and that can really be a journey. I spent a year or so listening to audio porn exclusively, and found a rare few voices who were most talented at teasing out the desire in me. Without sounding creepy. Then I’ve jumped back into visual porn lately, trying to expand my horizons… In the end, I’ve found I need my porn to be intimate, to be very personal and relevant to me, if I’m gonna be excited about it.

Bellesa Studios is a lovely example of porn that’s artistic and well-done, where the scenes feel more like they could be real-life encounters and you just simply happen to be watching. Bellesa has home-made films as well, besides the shot-professionally ones—which is a nice change.

Bellesa is specifically called “Porn by women.” All scenes are well-set and sexy, often starting with the characters deciding to get it on. (Rather than, like, you diving right into a 5-minute throat-banging clip on Pornhub and nobody comes and then you probably have to go to a third-party site somewhere if you want to see more.) With Bellesa, “tender” is a good word for many options. Though of course you can find fast-paced raw pounding too. Just not the so-cheesy kind.

And the actors are hot, but typically more realistic-looking than many a (probably enhanced) buxom babe in your standard male-gaze porn flick. Pretty smoking, sure; hotter than your co-worker, most likely. But not so made-up and plastic-surgified at a quick take. (They are mostly skinny, to be fair.)

So that’s one turn-on… Why not complete your arousal, though, with a toy?

What’s Your Toy Style?

Sex toys are nothing less than an explosion of pleasure. The possibilities, the new ways to orgasm (harder, and more).

Why would I want to use just my hand all the time to get off, when I can have a vibrator inserted, a vibrator outside, a pulsator throbbing around my clit, a squishy butt plug just because, a thrusting machine, a highly realistic dildo to ride, focused G-spot pressure like no hand can create, or thousands of other options? OMG, the amount of sex toy categories (broken down into popular ones in this guide, if you want an idea!).

It’s truly great when you realize that you don’t have to settle for a $15 vibrator off Amazon, you find better-quality products, and you start asking yourself questions about what you like, what you need. So many discoveries to be made. And sometimes you just take a gamble on something that’s supposed to be good: for example, I usually have big problems with rabbit vibrators, but recently discovered the Womanizer Duo clit pulsator + G-spot vibe is a sensational machine. I had no idea the two would actually work for me together, but they do, in a squirting-level way.

I would be so, so much less satisfied without sex toys. My world would be less colorful too, that’s for sure. Not bright-tinted like Aurora’s side panel is, glowing off and on in the light of a bedroom.

Many favorites, I have. Silicone dildos + fucking machine are tops, but there are some close seconds. (Like my Magic Wand…) And G-spot vibrators are a category I truly love, all the time: for thrusting vaginally or for clitoral use sometimes too. Always in my recently washed pile, a good G-spot vibe.

Some people will be the opposite: will like clit toys 90% of the time! G-spot vibrators like the Aurora by Bellesa are versatile like that—you’re getting more ways to play with one product.

Final Thoughts

In the end, you know what? There are no right answers about what should turn you on, what kind of toy you should like or not—what matters is not being afraid to discover your likes and embrace them.

After spending some time with the Aurora sex toy by Bellesa, and watching classy porn along with its “WELL hello there” vibrations, flexi-body, and glowing colors, I was able to consider what I really liked. The kind of vibes, what I wanted to do to my partner next time, what was most erotic to me.

It’s valid to watch porn, or to not; valid to use toys, or not. But both activities are ways to add excitement, novelty, to your routine. And that’s truly essential for most people. For example, Justin Lehmiller’s thought-provoking research has found that couples who report being “sexually satisfied” are more likely to use toys and to watch porn together—20 to 21% percent more satisfied for male respondents, and 17% more satisfied for female ones. (In case you’re wondering, massages produced the greatest percentage satisfaction increase. Whip out the lotion / oil, folks!)

Personally, I occasionally watch porn but always use toys. Because what I most need is simply to feel, lots of sensation that I can’t create with my own hands; and preferably, to communicate with another person about our mutual needs. I sometimes like solo masturbation porn for that reason, it feels more one-on-one; and I do enjoy porn scenes where one actor is telling the other one exactly how they want it next, giving good directions. For me, the exchange of desire is the hottest part, the pleasure-giving. (And, OK, maybe a few really good hard orgasms, can’t leave that out! Give me some noise!)

And you? Feel free to tell me in the comments: What do you really like in porn, and what toys add to it?

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NOTES

1. Everything non-predatory, of course.
2. And sold on BBoutique, Bellesa’s toy-selling offshoot!