Custom Dildos List & My Experience

Create your own custom dildo, in body-safe silicone too—it seemed like a dream when I first heard I could tweak every part of this silicone sex toy to my wants. Because I own hundreds of sex toys, but there’s always at least one thing I want to personalize about a dildo, some way I wish I could make it tailored to me.

A handful of trustworthy makers offer custom color dildos, and many independent dildo-smiths sell their preexisting toy shapes in a range of 5 sizes × 3 firmness options. But only one shop, the Pleasure Tailor, willused to produce a 100% custom made-to-order dildo for a single customer. 🚩PLEASE NOTE, as of November 2023, that Pleasure Tailor is not customizing anymore.

I’ll run through custom insertable sex toy options; then I’ll describe how Pleasure Tailor drastically altered a toy to meet my preferences, and how the customized silicone dildo feels; plus how we made a 100% individual dildo for me last year!

Custom Dildo Choices

The following choices are all (1) platinum cured silicone and (2) handmade. Why’s that matter? First, because silicone is the only sex toy material that can be both soft and still safe for long-term use: its molecules don’t let bacteria, fungi, and viruses to hang out, like those microorganisms do on cheaper materials (TPE/TPE or PVC). And, they’re handmade because mass-produced toys are, well, mass-produced, they’re not made for specific individual human wants; big makers require you to buy in quantities of thousands of dildos! So here we go, custom silicone dildo choices currently available:

• Clone-A-Willy: This is silicone that you mold and cast yourself, into the shape of a real human penis. Potential issues with the Clone-A-Willy kit:
  • Silicone needs to be degassed before it hardens, to remove air bubbles and create a polished product. But a vacuum chamber is not included with Clone-A-Willy.
  • The penis-haver needs to stay hard for at least 5 minutes inside a puddle of cool goo to create the dildo mold: a challenge for some, I hear.
  • If the penis is above average proportions, there won’t be enough silicone (you’ll need to buy more); also, if the penis curves a lot upward or downward when erect, then it will be more difficult to mold inside the straight tube.
  • Clone-A-Willy includes 20A Shore durometer silicone, which I and many others think is real firm, like uncomfortably hard, and not realistic. IMO, that defeats the purpose of a “mold your own dildo” if you want it to be anything besides a nightstand ornament.
• Bad Dragon, the originator of custom-color dildos, is back to offering semi-customs again: you can pay $40 more to get a made-to-order toy in two colors of your choice, from among a selection of 42 colors; or just choose from the 38 color combos (and 5 sizes and 3 densities) they offer upfront.
• Mr. Hankey’s Toys will let you choose a custom color add-on for $39.95, with or without metallic microglitter; or a single color for $29.95; see the Accessories section of the shop and purchase the option along with your dildo (they have over 80 toys on tap now). Hankey’s Toys is loved for their very squeezable, very comfortable “75% Soft” silicone density. (But you can opt for the harder “Medium Firm”; or pay $16 to get any toy a little squishier, more like 00-30 Shore.)
• Sinnovator (UK and US) has custom color options in each existing dildo listing, going for between $5.99 and $58.99; 4 size choices for most toys; and you can purchase add-ons including: a softer silicone density, a cum tube, a suction cup, or a Vac hole.
• Some independent “fantasy” silicone dildo artists (my favorites here) allow “customs”: Those are their existing toys made in your choice of colors, and your preferred density usually from among 00-30, 00-50, and 10A Shore (=”super-soft” to “not-real-hard”); in a single layer of platinum silicone. This type of customization was a lot more common before the pandemic, but I now see most established indie makers only offering stock drops of premade toys. Here’s a deeeeep dive, full list of fantasy toy makers.
• Uberrime has a range of made-to-order options for their toys.
• Amavidi is one indie maker of platinum silicone who has a permanent “custom” option here: You choose a preexisting model, one of 3 silicone densities, and then select up to 3 colors that you can get in any of: Chaos, Layered, Marble, or Stripes.
• The Pleasure Tailor, an indie shop in Florida, was the most option-full till summer 2023. They no longer do full customs. Nevertheless, details of my 2022 experience with PT customization follow.

Pleasure Tailor “With Alteration Service” ($70 Add-On)

Personalization is the name of the game: We all have slightly different sexual tastes, and Pleasure Tailor recognizes that truth more than any dildo-maker I’ve ever encountered. Creating your own personal dildo this way, through their founder and 3-D modeler West, is so much safer than trying to find a “DIY dildo.” The Pleasure Tailor uses certified skin-safe, platinum-cured silicone & certified safe pigments; vacuum degasses the material, and makes great suction cups too.

Their cheaper customization choice is adding the “With Alteration Service” option during checkout, to any existing stock toy or designers collection. $70 will get you changes made to the shape, size, firmness, base, and/or color of an existing product. LOTS of room for imagination here.

My first experience with the company was devising my Triarx realistic dildo with them (details later in this post), but I hadn’t explored their less-expensive ($158 w/ Off the Rack toys) customization option till this year. I was super-curious when Pleasure Tailor agreed to alter the Easy A, designed by the trustworthy Girly Juice, a.k.a. Kate Sloan: Could they make it work for me???

You see, Kate is all about A-spot stimulation (deep, front-wall vaginal stimulation: behind the G-spot). Her custom toy is decidedly abstract, not realistic; and has a narrow, pointy tip. Whereas *I* love G-spot stimulation from broad, realistic ridges, preferably in softly life-like silicone. Different strokes, indeed. So I jumped into a series of emails with the Pleasure Tailor, to see if we could find a way!

Emailing about a Custom Dildo!

The Pleasure Tailor’s job is figuring out exactly what you want in your toy, so definitely be upfront about what you’re looking for. Lists are helpful, I find.

We emailed back and forth about the changes I’d want in my personalized version of the Easy A:

• Less length. (The Easy A is long, my vagina is not so much!)
• Wider head!
• A soft & squishy ridge.

Now, this process was a little easier since the Pleasure Tailor had a good idea of what might work for me based on the Triarx dildo. So the new toy we were emailing about turned out as an amalgam of Kate Sloan’s Easy A and my Triarx: it’s the Easy Arx, essentially. But the Pleasure Tailor will email you back and forth as much as you need to make the design right. (We exchanged a couple dozen emails on this, and almost a hundred on the first toy I made with them.) They’ll also do a call with you if you want, in which you see a computer screen where your toy is being 3-D designed, and it can be rotated in a circle and zoomed in on any part.

Really thorough, is how I’d describe all emails with West. I so appreciate that, since I am all about the details! After I agreed on the final design, two toys showed up in the mail for me: an original Easy A dildo and an “Easy Arx” personalized for me.

The “Easy A” Silicone Dildo—Customized

First, the Easy A in brief: This is honestly the first toy that I have had an easy A-spot orgasm on. I didn’t even think that was possible for my body, before it happened. The toy’s thin, tapered tip slid right in. I hadn’t even lubricated it, I started wiggling it a little bit, and then it wasn’t two minutes before I came on it. I was like, “WHUT?!”

Now, I’d warmed up for a minute before trying the Easy A, by rubbing my clit with the Pillow Talk Sassy (one of my top 3 favorite vibrators). I know I need more clitoral stimulation to climax from A-spot play (than from G-spot stimulation, because I’m statistically rare in being able to orgasm there, no problem). 

Then, that first orgasm happened. And it’s all down to the tip. The tip on the Easy A makes the A-spot (almost) impossible to miss. Then, the length is easy to work with, like an extra handle sticking out. The double lipped base is interesting, and I can see the thought behind it, for grip purposes. Last, there’s a little tab sticking out front, to help you reposition the Easy A if it starts to turn right or left when you’re moving it inside the vagina. The smoothness of the Easy A’s “candy coated gloss” helps with easy entry for sure: if everything is well-lubricated, there’s less “drag” than with most silicone dildos.

So I enjoyed the A-spotting experience of the Easy A. Kate did a fantastic job designing a surefire A-spot pressure toy. I plan to pull it out once or twice a month going forward, to play more with that deep pressure that’s been mysterious to me in the past.

I am, however, saving the Easy A for PMS-y type days, when my sensitivity is tuned down a notch: Because I do not like hard tips as a rule, and the dual-density Easy A has a rigid core with a thin coat of soft silicone by the time you get to the tip. The toy exists to really pinpoint a spot 🎯. Whereas, most days, I like a swath massaged, a wider area—and one that’s lower down. My “G-zone” it is, really; three to four inches inside, right above where my pelvic bone can be felt arching into my vagina.

Thus, the Easy Arx: a Triarx head on the Easy A. It’s squishier at the ridge, bigger, fills my vaginal cavity better at the most sensitive region. It pops and rubs and massages like I want.

It’s smoother than the Triarx, because I wanted to check out their Candy Coated Gloss here, in line with the Easy A: And I think the gloss makes insertion easier, it doesn’t feel as rough going in as an unlubricated matte (not-gloss) finish silicone dildo. But, then thrusting for a few minutes, I do find myself craving the slight drag that a matte texture creates. (I could’ve asked for a second round in the “Matte – Mild Drag” finish Pleasure Tailor offers, but I decided this was good as a contrasting piece with the Triarx: switch from super-slick to less slick after a while.)

All in all, I really like the customized version of this silicone dildo because it’s like an A-spot and G-spot hybrid. It does definitely reach far back enough for A-spotting; but it’s also got that lip, the dramatic ridge or bulb, that a good G-spot toy must have. (G-spot stimulation relies on both downward tugging and inward curving.) So it’s a two-for-one massager! It’s unique to find a toy that’s long to reach well for the A-spot, that’s also broad at its head, and that has a very firm core to not bend backward under pressure.

I’m glad to have that variety, to pull me out of my “I’m ignoring everything but my G-spot” typical dildo choices; this individual-for-me dildo is expanding my play. And that’s one of two features I want from a sex toy for masturbation: that it suits my body (isn’t too hard or too buzzy or uncomfortably made) and that it sparks something new in my body, engages me in a different way. No time for boredom here. 😛

My first work with the Pleasure Tailor gave me the same “Whoa, this new toy is cool!” feeling…

Pleasure Tailor Full Personalized Dildo ($275)

For the true dildo connoisseur: I discovered how fantastic a fully personalized dildo service is when I got to work with Pleasure Tailor last year to create the Triarx. After two revisions and final adjustments to the surface texture, the Triarx we created turned out incredibly well for my G-spot-focused, realism-loving needs. 🚩PLEASE NOTE, as of November 2023, that Pleasure Tailor is not customizing; stick to Vixen Creations or Uberrime for triple-density silicone.

It all started with a sketch that I drew out on my kitchen table late one night; two views etched in pencil. I photographed the drawings, and emailed them to the Pleasure Tailor’s designer, West. I’m not an artist, so the idea was rough, and I hadn’t fully pinned down what I wanted in this toy.

The rounds of design drafts progressed as follows—and they were interspersed with a video conference call (to see the toy mock-up rotate on a computer screen) and actual physical prototypes sent to me. With each email, West would give very detailed responses to any question I had, and would confirm any alteration request I’d made.

The rough draft, sketched by hand:

The Pleasure Tailor crafted it as:

I was like, “Oh, that could be interesting, but I want it to be more realistically shaped, I didn’t draw the head well enough… Also, maybe it should be a bit longer…” So I sent a blacked-out outline of an ideal-for-me cock.

The Pleasure Tailor answered back:

I agreed, and then the first Triarx-to-be arrived on my doorstep a couple weeks later. I was pleased. The shape was almost there. But there were two… vertical lines, almost, in on the sides of the head that still seemed unrealistic to me; plus, I don’t like glossy finishes for realism either. Skin is not glossy! Since we did this project (summer 2021), the Pleasure Tailor has released 3 different texture options, clearly described as “Candy Coated Gloss,” “Matte – Mild Drag,” and “Matte – Intense Drag”: so do be careful to choose which one suits your needs!

One physical toy is included with the full custom option flat fee: You do need to pay more for a second dildo. And I wanted more: I devised a vein I wanted to pop in the center of the toy’s shaft, to rub under my clit. So, one more round was underway: I sent West my above photo, and we talked about a matte finish. Details, many details, for my curiosity. We exchanged sooooo many emails over the course of this process, and West would respond within a day. Here’s a snippet of the final design.

And a pic showing different finishes I tested: I now would 100% recommend the “Matte – Mild Drag” option.

Finally, this new, tailored dildo was right for me. The Triarx has been a toy I can orgasm on right when I insert it: which I will do on human penises I enjoy, but not on toys. The proportionality of the head; the multiple ridges, to massage in tandem; the cool popping-out vein to rub under my clit outside. I love this dildo!!!

What qualities have you always wanted in a dildo, but never found all of in the same toy?

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