To me, the Sedeux Flare by Sportsheets screams “anal toy.” It’s small-ish and nonphallic,1 and the head is slightly rounded. So I’ve taken it upon myself to push my limits and write about testing the Flare both vaginally and anally—something new for my wimpy behind.
About the Flare
First, a little about the Flare: it’s part of Sportsheets’ Sedeux series, which are small- to mid-sized, abstract, silicone dildos. (One of the dildos in the series, the Please, is significantly smaller than the Flare, and the other, the Skyn, is a bit larger.) The Flare’s insertable length is 5.75”, and its max. diameter is 1.25”. Full disclosure: this makes the Flare the smallest-girth dildo in my collection. (I might be a bit of a size queen.)
The Flare is made of what I’d consider a firm-but-not-too-firm silicone: it has the squish2 of a Colours Pleasures dildo, which means that the silicone will yield to pressure but snaps back into place STAT when you bend the shaft. I’m glad that the Flare has a nicely rounded head and smooth shaft rather than a protruding coronal ridge, because thrusting highly textured dildos in this silicone firmness can be a bit painful for me.3
And the color: I really think that Sportsheets should’ve named this dildo the “Flame” rather than the “Flare,” because it’s a brilliant, bright red. And it’s not just a plain red, but a sparkly one: Sportsheets calls it “pearlescent red.” There are little lines of marbled silicone in the Flare if you look closely. Coloration isn’t everything, but to me, a nice-looking toy is much more attractive than just another dull, plain-colored one.
Appearance aside, how does the Sedeux Flare feel in use?
Vaginal Use
The Sportsheets Flare’s head just isn’t enough for my vagina. I like the rounded shape: the slightly bulbous head teases me. It’s trying to put pressure on my G-spot on the downstroke of each thrust…But. It. Just. Isn’t.Enough.For.Me. The start-and-stop pressure of the Flare’s smaller head is frustrating to me personally. Despite the firmer silicone, the Flare just doesn’t provide enough pressure.
I don’t mean to say that you shouldn’t use the Sportsheets Flare vaginally, or that it’s poorly designed. It’s quality silicone in an abstract shape that many will find appealing. It’s just not my cup of tea.
This is why I had to quickly move on to my next phase of testing…
Anal Use
In testing the Sportsheets Flare anally, I was hoping that this smaller toy would be more comfortable than my husband’s cock, which is maybe slightly above average size but is a lot for my rectum.4 So we slathered some lube on the Flare and commenced testing.
Though my vag isn’t a huge fan of firmer silicone, my anus is A-OK with it. The extra pressure is helpful for insertion, especially for a non-tapered toy. It didn’t take too much warm-up for us to manage to fit the Flare’s head inside my butt. And I like the pressure. The rounded head still isn’t super stimulating, but it’s comfortable. Slow thrusting is very comfortable because of the silicone’s glossy finish.
As pretty much an anal n00b, I couldn’t fit the Flare’s full length; it stuck out over an inch after my husband stopped teasing me with it and moved onto his greater interest: double penetration.
I did feel full to my gills with both him and the Flare inside me as I flat on my back. After a few tests, I’m not sure I can say that the Flare adds any extra intensity to my vaginal orgasms, but using it for DP is a fun change of pace for us. I also occasionally like to have my partner tease me by using the Flare and a bullet vibe on me, since my vag is always my end goal for orgasm.
TL;DR: A Beginner’s Dildo?
Sportsheets’ Sedeux Flare is an attractive toy that can serve two groups well: those looking for a smaller, nonrealistic toy for vaginal use, and folks like me who aren’t terribly experienced anally. (I can definitely see myself recommending the Flare as a first [or second?] strap-on option.) It didn’t do quite enough for me to enjoy it vaginally, but I found that my rectum enjoys two things that my vag usually hates: glossy silicone and firmer silicone. I’m not someone who orgasms from anal alone, but I have found the Sedeux Flare to be a nice addition to my and my partner’s sexplorations.
You can find the Sportsheets Flare dildo here!
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- This is my own preference: my vag just wants to devour cock-shaped things. If you enjoy realistic dildos in your ass, that’s great too!
- Or lack thereof, really.
- See my Tantus Vamp Super Soft and Fun Factory Boss reviews for details about firmer toys that I found a bit much. Also see my Silicone Dildo Firmness Guide for information about many, many brands of silicone dildos.
- A fact that he regrets so much that he felt compelled to buy a Butt Fleshlight instead of the multiple silicone options I was trying to talk him into.